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Are you a trouser/jeans or a skirt/dress person?

122 replies

AthenaPashmina · 28/07/2026 21:30

I'm interested in this in a kind of 'statistics' sense. I see a lot of dresses and skirts in stores and online, but not many people wearing them in real life. Even in work related situations, across the board, I see women and girls mostly wearing trousers or jeans.

Might be location specific, I live in a very boring, unpretentious, not very fashion forward area, so it could be skewing things a bit; but I do travel about quite a lot and still maintain that year-round most women are in trousers/jeans.

I will admit that I used to love a well made breezy skirt with a flat waistband and minimal top but I live mostly in straight jeans these days. It is so hard to find that style now amongst the paperbag elastic styles or structural artisanal stuff.

So I am curious, are you mostly in trousers/jeans or skirts/dresses?

OP posts:
pizzaHeart · 30/07/2026 17:05

Jeans/ trousers

AthenaPashmina · 30/07/2026 17:29

Flyingintotheunknown · 30/07/2026 06:20

You know what…. I’m not sure if you minded being called “dress lady” but it would annoy me if people referred to me as the “dress lady”. I literally only wear dresses and I hate to be labelled a particular name for doing so. I’ve had people comment saying “you wear a lot of dresses don’t you?” As if there’s something wrong or abnormal in doing so. Would people call those who wear jeans/ joggers every day the “jeans lady” or the “joggers lady” or the “trainers” lady. I just find it really offensive and makes me paranoid as if people are laughing at me in some way.

Denim: It is what the industry has rendered ubiquitous, and more synonymous with the cheaper, fast fashion trends of youth - more units of jeans and tshirts are shifted repetitively, whereas dress purchases remain strong and constant, just not as repetitive. Basically, women will overbuy jeans and tees but not dresses.

it is far more difficult to engineer a well made dress than to simply 'block cut' a tshirt or boxy top. It involves working with the human form in a more direct way. Whether that dress is fluid, fitted or loose. I think we see far more wide and voluminous dresses now because the manufacturers dont have to spend as much on the designs or skilled cutters, since they simply scale up or down for fit instead of having to refit sleeves, waists, zips, etc. The one size fits all designs are cheaper to create and encourage less returns. Sadly it is limiting and most stores now look exactly the same.

Dresses are not inherently more dressed up than jeans. It is all about perception and what we grow used to seeing around us. Everyone defends the current shapes, generally, no matter what was said in the past.

If more brands created solid colour or non lurid-patterned dresses that worked 'with' instead of against the body, with less bizarre features such as bows, open backs and balloon sleeves, you might see them selling much more. Of course anyone can sit and relax in a meeting or interview in a skirt, just like with any garment, it depends upon the length and shape.

There is no such thing as a 'dress lady'. That sounds like something a toddler would say about an eccentric aunt with a uniform who might style herself on quirks such Lucy Worsley. And for Ms Worsley, her style is her 'brand', and does not represent how most women buy or wear dresses. She makes herself recognisable via her outfits, which would still be as unique if she swapped the frocks for trousers.

I have noticed, and this is to be quite fair, that people who make childish put-downs about timeless or non trend clothing are often insecure, or struggling with their self image, generally. The more relaxed you are with your body and style, the less you even care about other people's.

Dresses don't have to be office ready, 'dressy' or too feminine. They are simply a column or cut of fabric that is shaped for different styles over time that doesn't have a gusset. That's that.
It is pretty simple really. Only in a market oversaturated by box-like, masculine cuts would a standard a-line dress or a knitted wool dress look out of place. I can find pure silk as-new Brora skirts on ebay now because that look isn't super on trend. It all depends upon what you prefer.

OP posts:
UrOutdoors · 30/07/2026 17:37

Yes.

tobee · 30/07/2026 22:23

Really I’m a jeans and t shirt person. But I lost nearly 3 stone recently and have rediscovered dresses amongst other things. Before I always felt more comfortable in separates as I had the illusion that they were holding everything in.

I wore a (above knee) skirt the other day when it was hot and went to see my parents. My 91 year old dad said he hadn’t seen me in a skirt in a thousand years!!! And I “never wear skirts”. Which is funny really because when I lived at home with him I wore a skirt (to school) every day. Then I went to 6th form college and barely ever got out of the perpetual student look!

Flyingintotheunknown · 31/07/2026 08:53

AthenaPashmina · 30/07/2026 17:29

Denim: It is what the industry has rendered ubiquitous, and more synonymous with the cheaper, fast fashion trends of youth - more units of jeans and tshirts are shifted repetitively, whereas dress purchases remain strong and constant, just not as repetitive. Basically, women will overbuy jeans and tees but not dresses.

it is far more difficult to engineer a well made dress than to simply 'block cut' a tshirt or boxy top. It involves working with the human form in a more direct way. Whether that dress is fluid, fitted or loose. I think we see far more wide and voluminous dresses now because the manufacturers dont have to spend as much on the designs or skilled cutters, since they simply scale up or down for fit instead of having to refit sleeves, waists, zips, etc. The one size fits all designs are cheaper to create and encourage less returns. Sadly it is limiting and most stores now look exactly the same.

Dresses are not inherently more dressed up than jeans. It is all about perception and what we grow used to seeing around us. Everyone defends the current shapes, generally, no matter what was said in the past.

If more brands created solid colour or non lurid-patterned dresses that worked 'with' instead of against the body, with less bizarre features such as bows, open backs and balloon sleeves, you might see them selling much more. Of course anyone can sit and relax in a meeting or interview in a skirt, just like with any garment, it depends upon the length and shape.

There is no such thing as a 'dress lady'. That sounds like something a toddler would say about an eccentric aunt with a uniform who might style herself on quirks such Lucy Worsley. And for Ms Worsley, her style is her 'brand', and does not represent how most women buy or wear dresses. She makes herself recognisable via her outfits, which would still be as unique if she swapped the frocks for trousers.

I have noticed, and this is to be quite fair, that people who make childish put-downs about timeless or non trend clothing are often insecure, or struggling with their self image, generally. The more relaxed you are with your body and style, the less you even care about other people's.

Dresses don't have to be office ready, 'dressy' or too feminine. They are simply a column or cut of fabric that is shaped for different styles over time that doesn't have a gusset. That's that.
It is pretty simple really. Only in a market oversaturated by box-like, masculine cuts would a standard a-line dress or a knitted wool dress look out of place. I can find pure silk as-new Brora skirts on ebay now because that look isn't super on trend. It all depends upon what you prefer.

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“it is far more difficult to engineer a well made dress than to simply 'block cut' a tshirt or boxy top. It involves working with the human form in a more direct way. Whether that dress is fluid, fitted or loose. I think we see far more wide and voluminous dresses now because the manufacturers dont have to spend as much on the designs or skilled cutters, since they simply scale up or down for fit instead of having to refit sleeves, waists, zips, etc. The one size fits all designs are cheaper to create and encourage less returns. Sadly it is limiting and most stores now look exactly the same.”

Yes you are correct, it’s much more complicated to make a nice dress than a ‘block cut’ t-shirt. However, the more people are buying them the more the manufacturers will produce more of them and the more of them shops will sell.
Denim is definitely more related to cheaper, fast fashion.

“I have noticed, and this is to be quite fair, that people who make childish put-downs about timeless or non trend clothing are often insecure, or struggling with their self image, generally. The more relaxed you are with your body and style, the less you even care about other people's.”

Yes, the general consensus I’m getting from the jeans/ joggers/ T shirts/ hoodie wearers from reading many threads on MN, is that most feel they need to wear them because they have lost their sense of fashion and don’t know what to wear or they are wearing them to cover up their insecurities and that dresses will expose their perceived insecurities.
But they shouldn’t start making comments on those who do wear dresses and somehow make them feel odd and out of place for doing so. What I do find even more irritating though, especially since Covid when everyone went down the rabbit hole of wearing joggers/ jeans/ trainers every day, even for nights out, is that they somehow make those who like wearing dresses feel like they are the odd ones out. Comments like “well nobody dresses up anymore” or “why wear a dress it’s only Wetherspoons, nothing special”. Or “you wear a lot of dresses, I’ve never seen you in trousers, do you even own a pair of jeans”.

PhaedraTwo · 31/07/2026 13:22

Comments like “well nobody dresses up anymore” or “why wear a dress it’s only Wetherspoons, nothing special”. Or “you wear a lot of dresses, I’ve never seen you in trousers, do you even own a pair of jeans

Or the completely daft comments like 'I can't wear a skirt or a dress because I couldn't sit with my legs curled up/ or I walk everywhere / or it's too cold in the winter"

As if skirts and dresses only come in one style, length, and material.

Megsdaughter · 31/07/2026 14:24

I always wore leggings and tunics as I was vastly overweight.
This summer Ive lost 8 stone and have hit Vinted hard and indulged my passion for dresses again 😄
I have also bought jeans for the winter with pretty femine tops and sweaters.

Flyingintotheunknown · 31/07/2026 14:40

PhaedraTwo · 31/07/2026 13:22

Comments like “well nobody dresses up anymore” or “why wear a dress it’s only Wetherspoons, nothing special”. Or “you wear a lot of dresses, I’ve never seen you in trousers, do you even own a pair of jeans

Or the completely daft comments like 'I can't wear a skirt or a dress because I couldn't sit with my legs curled up/ or I walk everywhere / or it's too cold in the winter"

As if skirts and dresses only come in one style, length, and material.

Exactly. I have never known any dress or skirt restrict my movement or be so uncomfortable or that you can’t wear them to walk in. I like to sit with my legs curled up but I manage it.
I get that there are skirt and dress haters. That’s absolutely fine, each to their own. But just because they have been a Tom boy all their life or they have “insecurities” about themselves to the point they don’t feel they can wear a dress or skirt, doesn’t give them the right to comment on other women who like to wear dresses or skirts. Not our fault they are insecure or don’t like them!

Marroon · 31/07/2026 14:46

Jeans.
Jeans, cute flats and a nice top is my go to.

I don’t find dressed uncomfortable I just don’t like them for daily wear. I hate tights and tend to get cold legs.

Marroon · 31/07/2026 14:47

Although some people are getting weirdly offended about how and why other people choose to dress as they do.

AthenaPashmina · 31/07/2026 15:51

I think reactions to how other people dress are mostly connected to our self image or how/where we ourselves fit in the bigger picture. Clothing choices might have become centralised (identical stores stocking identical shapes across the country) but there are definite differences in how things are worn due to weather, local styles (most people want to fit in) and whether someone is in a market town, a gritty urban area or a cosmopolitan centre of capital.

I did a bit of research, and it seems that far more women embrace skirts and dresses in East Anglia, whilst Scotland and many northern areas tend to purchase more jeans and outdoor wear. Areas in the South West and Brighton, etc are more likely to choose bohemian or creative shapes and patterns, whilst affluent coastal towns lean towards brighter tones and preppy styles. I've no idea how 'fixed' any of this is, and this will likely be changing now due to globalisation and social media, but it is fascinating!

Jeans are a really interesting study, because we claim that they are casual and comfortable yet as the decades go by, women find it harder and harder to find the 'right fit', no matter how many styles are in the shops. The eternal quest for the perfect pair does seem to keep the consumer wheel spinning. In my entire life, I can lay claim to only ever experiencing two pairs out of many having fulfilled that legendary promise of a perfect fit.

If someone feels self conscious or uncomfortable in a certain style, they may want to hear other women do, too, so that they feel less of an outlier. Some of us also found ourselves reassessing our style as we pass 50 or middle age. It can make us uncertain and seek validation that our choices are acceptable or still cool, but often at the expense of going with what actually feels most comfortable or fits well.
This probably causes a good amount of the snidey comments about what people wear, and results in many of us caring far too much about what teenagers or genZ are wearing.

I do feel that there is more over all conformity now and in the past 5 years or so, resulting in less diverse and helpful chat about style on MN.

What we wear and why is a really fascinating topic to me, as is probably obvious {TLDR} Grin

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Asuitablecat · 31/07/2026 20:35

I have everything in my wardrobe. I dress for what i look good in, with the occasional nod to fashion. Like I said upthread, I tend to wear dresses mainly for work or going out. I have a couple of jumper dresses for winter, but i always end up changing into jeans, because i need about 7 layers to keep warm.

I might wear a dress to go out for the day, but generally straight back into shorts, so i can sprawl. Favourite position: lying on a garden chair/ sofa with legs over the back. Often at different angles. My dresses are too short to do much in. Def wouldn't be doing housework or the garden like my grandmothers. Thought that could be an age thing, but my mum went back into skirts as she aged and my aunties haven't.

I also go through phases. This winter was all about flares and block heels for going out. Another winter could be mini dress and thick tights. Holidays tend to be dresses for ease of packing, but I am partial to tailored shorts.

Dresses are also a twat to find a decent fit in. I'm tall and slim with a decent bust, so waistbands or shoulders never sit right. Or my boobs are spilling out. Really, I should wear slip dresses all the time. But I did that 30 years ago and it's not appropriate for work. Wrap dresses can work- if the waist is low enough.

coolcahuna · 31/07/2026 21:09

I used to wear 100% skirts and dresses but I've really embraced trousers and jeans and feels great to mix it all up!

stackedtiles · 01/08/2026 17:24

I like dresses & skirts in the summer, trousers in the winter. A friend made a huge big thing of me never wearing a dress - she weirdly told everyone, before I arrived at an event, that I had chosen to wear a shirt to, she kept going on about me wearing a dress and how I never wear one - I think she forgot her manners, she only needed to say I like your outfit or just nothing would have been equally fine.

luckylavender · 01/08/2026 17:40

I’m a jeans / skirt / dress person. Don’t wear trousers really

mtobrokeme · 01/08/2026 18:15

I don’t own a dress or a skirt and havnt done since I was able to pick my own clothes.

if I adopt any form of ‘feminine’ attire I resemble ET when they dress him up.

I also own not a single pair of trousers, I only wear Diesel or Levi jeans and the occasional pair of Aybl leggings for the gym!

FlorenceLyons · 01/08/2026 18:45

90% trousers/jeans. I’m deep in a current obsession with balloon trousers.

UnintentionallyFabulous · 01/08/2026 20:09

Jeans and trousers.
I do wear dresses and skirts but I rarely feel comfortable in them, always glad to get home and back in trousers. I feel overdressed in most dresses. There’s the issue of what is or isn’t under them. I hate tights but also hate the feeling of just underwear and a dress. Then there’s the footwear and coat issues.
Dresses feel like a massive faff to me.

Purplecatshopaholic · 01/08/2026 20:15

I’m primarily a dresses person. I have jeans, skirts etc but they get worn a lot less. Dresses are just so easy for work, play, everything in between, dress them up or down.

parallhel · 01/08/2026 20:23

I'm older and getting lazy now so I can't be arsed with shaving legs, fake tan, wearing tights (ugh, the thought of that) so I wear trousers all the time now. I have lots of different styles, Summer, Winter, loose, airy, tailored - one for every occasion. No visible varicose veins, no need to shave or epilate or whatever every day (or often) and no need for tights either. It's either barefoot or socks. I am very happy to use trousers all the time, and look good depending on the occasion, always teamed with good tops/jumpers/blouses etc. and good shoes/sandals depending on the weather.

I have four dresses and two sundresses. The dresses are one black for funerals, and three gorgeous designs for weddings and special occasions. I don't care if I re wear them in front of the same people, that's their problem not mine. The sundresses are obviously for fly and flops, but I don't do those much anymore, but they come in handy as nightwear in a heatwave. Wink wink.

Patagonia21 · 01/08/2026 21:56

I like jeans but find dresses far more comfortable and that’s why I wear them most of the time. I wear them both for relaxing at home and for going out. I generally feel warm and get little wear out of winter jumpers. I live in the South!

Judystilldreamsofhorses · 01/08/2026 22:08

Interesting thread! For me it’s seasonal - I wear dresses and skirts a lot in summer, but never in winter. I used to be a big “short skirt, opaque tights, polo neck, DM boots” type dresser in colder weather, but in the Covid era I developed a total aversion to tights and have never worn them again since. I’d say it’s the waist band that bothers me, but that doesn’t make sense really because I can happily wear 100% cotton rigid denim jeans all day long.

Round the house I tend to wear joggers, and I have leggings I wear for exercise only.

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