Recommendations for an elegant black dress to wear to my partner's funeral

[Barney16]

I am very recently bereaved. To distract myself, and I know it's a distraction, I have started to plan my partner's funeral. I want it to be beautiful (I know I'm overthinking it because I'm so so sad) I want to buy a new dress that is both classical and beautiful. Black, elegant, dignified. I'm a UK 8, blonde hair, no discernable chest. There's no budget limit because we were going to get married next year and obviously that's not happening. I'm in my early sixties. And five foot six. I would be grateful for any suggestions.

I don’t have suggestions but wanted to say I’m sorry for your loss.
can you describe more what you’re looking for, shape, length etc?

I would like something sleeveless, neckline wise straight across, I mean, because I have tiny boobs anything that emphasises boobs just doesn't work for me, below the knee lengthwise.

So sorry for your loss.

I find this striking and elegant, but modest enough for the occasion - anything you like or dislike about it?

https://www.allsaints.com/women/sale/rosie-silk-blend-midi-dress/W273DE-5.html?utm_campaign=google_surfaces&utm_content=googlefreelistings&nst=0&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23936897179&gbraid=0AAAAADp7WQCoMOYohdKX8R661lhCclaGx&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIuaadza-WlQMV2ptQBh1NoxGaEAQYESABEgJJZvD_BwE

https://www.ralphlauren.co.uk/en/pleated-jersey-boatneck-midi-dress-3616855545978.html?gclsrc=aw.ds&&utm_subchannel=shopping&utm_source=google&utm_medium=paidshopping&utm_campaign=high_volume&utm_term=pmax&utm_content=crid_campaign21646317817_adgroup_tid_pid3616855545978&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21642613574&gbraid=0AAAAADnESOxqmrTZAnuJR4P_2NYO2Qysm&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIgIfjsrCWlQMV3ohQBh1aJQlSEAQYDyABEgInGfD_BwE

I’m so sorry for your loss.

I wore this to the funeral of a close relative recently:

https://clubllondon.com/products/nova-black-high-neck-midi-dress-with-cape-sleeves-cl137482001

I did a bulk order with them and tried lots of different outfits. Even though Club L isn’t my usual go to website, their black dresses were nice and elegant.

Firstly, so very sorry for your loss💐

I love this dress from Reformation.

Asymmetric boat neck sleeveless

https://www.karenmillen.com/product/karen-millen-compact-stretch-asymmetric-neck-tailored-full-skirted-dress_bkk23006?colour=black&size=12&utm_source=google&utm_medium=paid_search&utm_campaign=%7Bcampaign%7D&utm_adgroup=%7Badgroup%7D&utm_term=&utm_device=m&utm_content=&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=23822218458&gbraid=0AAAAACo7BY-IFUgdaEfyXwTM4l3B27T2N&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIsPeYkrGWlQMV2ZNQBh0iEjUEEAQYBCABEgL12vD_BwE

This one is nice Op

So many beautiful dresses already.
I am so very, very sorry for your loss.
I am sure you will plan a beautiful celebration of such a valued and beloved life.

Oh my word. Such lovely dresses, thank you so much. I love them all, I think my favourites are the All Saints one (because I could legitimately wear my Doc Martens) and the Ralph Lauren one. Which is just gorgeous.

I loved him absolutely and I'm broken hearted. In some weird way I want his funeral to sort of reflect that love by taking care of every detail.

So sorry you have to go through this. How about this dress: https://www.theprettydresscompany.com/products/the-pretty-dress-company-hourglass-faux-wrap-pencil-dress?variant=56064243597644

I don't know if Akris is your sort of thing but you did say no budget.

https://eu.akris.com/products/fit-and-flare-cotton-midi-dress-with-bow-black?_pos=15&_fid=1b6aed380&_ss=c

I too am very sorry for your loss.

I’ll add this from Studio Nicholson. (I wore one of their black dresses for a family funeral earlier this year.) It’s not straight across the front, but I feel it would be nice to wear nonetheless:

https://www.studionicholson.com/products/wold-linen-dress-in-black

I'm so sorry to hear this OP.

By terrible coincidence I'm burying my husband next week.

I'm a similar size to you and this is the dress I have chosen.

https://www.dorothyperkins.com/product/izabel-london-semi-sheer-lace-layer-midi-dress_p-3e39294c-7036-4ae5-ae0d-9d9ed2460c91?colour=Black&size=12&srsltid=AfmBOoo8eswSgn2eZBtroQnFt3UxngwAXL7Y5p-vZjr8yeWokc2EmY2ujio

I haven't heard of Akris before but oh my word that is a thing of beauty.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry for your loss.

This is straight across at the neckline. Rather beautiful (though I might have someone add a stitch to the back once I was in it):

https://gb.lanvin.com/products/midi-dress-in-jersey-and-satin-rw-dr0125-6142-p2610

I’m sorry for your loss. I’m not good at suggestions, but I wanted to say that obsessing about the details of the funeral is a large part of the value of the ceremony. Having moments of distraction is healthy as is having a set of hours to focus your grief. When I have not had that event and the ability to focus on things like clothing, even as just a guest, it has always been harder to really process my grief.

Sending my condolences to you both - I'm so sorry for your losses. You will both look beautiful as you say your farewells ❤️

This is outstandingly plain - it moves so beautifully:

https://www.net-a-porter.com/en-gb/shop/product/the-row/clothing/midi-dresses/essentials-mirna-crepe-midi-dress/1647597283612101

I am truly sorry for your loss, I hope that looking at and maybe choosing one of the beautiful dresses distracts you for a few moments. Thinking of you x

Oh @ScoutOfTheSoftHeartsClub that dress! 🤌