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Recommendations for an elegant black dress to wear to my partner's funeral

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Barney16 · 20/06/2026 18:32

I am very recently bereaved. To distract myself, and I know it's a distraction, I have started to plan my partner's funeral. I want it to be beautiful (I know I'm overthinking it because I'm so so sad) I want to buy a new dress that is both classical and beautiful. Black, elegant, dignified. I'm a UK 8, blonde hair, no discernable chest. There's no budget limit because we were going to get married next year and obviously that's not happening. I'm in my early sixties. And five foot six. I would be grateful for any suggestions.

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Barney16 · 22/06/2026 16:12

Thank you so much for all the suggestions and for all the lovely things you have said. For me the right dress is so important because the funeral is the very last thing that I can do for my partner. He would honestly chuckle at my overthinking of every detail. But in some way this will be the last shared act. Then I will be without him.

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shuddacuddadidnt · 23/06/2026 07:33

PetulaGordeno · 22/06/2026 08:46

I can remember when I lost my mum. My next door neighbour knocked with a tube of waterproof Lancôme mascara be said trust me, you will need it.
I have never forgotten it. I have since done the same and that person has - all fresh tubes by the way.
My mum did have some time when she was very poorly when she was very lucid and I can remember her ringing John Lewis as she had seen a dress for me in Grazia. I heard her on the phone explaining she had an account, she was on her deathbed, could you do an overnight delivery to the hospice as I want to see it before it goes on her?
I think what you wear can have huge significance and I still have that dress although it’s so tiny now.
Woken come together at times like this with all sorts of support which is so much needed.

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Your post made my eyes leak. What a lovely memory to have of your mum. 💐When my DH passed away, the clothes I wore to his funeral was the most expensive I had ever bought, so I know where the OP is coming from.

NotMeAtAll · 23/06/2026 08:22

I haven't a clue about clothes, but I couldn't pass the thread by without saying how sorry I am.

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