MOB Outfit

[princesspadam]

So I think I’ve found the one.
i wanted a floor length gown, it needs taking up
not normally my colour but liked it.

not loving the fascinator so will choose something else

happy to take thoughts/feedback as I am so bad at choosing

This logic doesn’t really land when you’re clearly in the minority here. Most of the thread liked the OP’s dress, and almost no one liked the Outnet/Net-a-Porter/Rixo suggestions.

So if anything, that says more about your idea of “good” than it does about what’s “dated.” Selling doesn’t automatically equal better taste, it just means it sells.

And clearly, a dress that’s been on sale for 10 years shows that it’s a classic and popular style.

Love the dress. You're the mother of the bride, you look fab and your daughter likes it. Therefore it is a perfect mother of the bride dress. I do quite like the fascinator though so I clearly know nothing 🙈

You've missed the point. Net a Porter is not selling clothes which are dated, if by "dated" you (general you) mean clothes which are not on current trend. The whole point of Net a Porter is to sell clothes on trend. Feel free to despise that if you like, or hate everything on their site but"dated" is not a synonym for "I don't like it"

I didn't say anything about "good" beyond saying I preferred 2 of the Net a Porter dresses so not sure what your point there is.

Dated is entirely subjective and context dependent.

I love Rixo but when you’re older you need to be careful with cut and colour. I didn’t like the Rixo suggestions and thought, in the contact of MOB they would look dated. In a different context - 30something hipster party with gazelles they would not. (I don’t actually like dresses with trainers but you get the point).

Yes. IMO this would look in keeping with an evening reception but would look really odd at a middle of the day church wedding. I have no idea if the OP has mentioned venue.

I really love that Victoria Beckham dress.

The dress is gorgeous, and you look incredible!

I've never been to a wedding with that kind of vibe so can't really comment on how suitable it is for the occasion & dress code - that's one for your daughter to answer really.

I would wear a number of the floral and polka dot one to work.

OP your dress is stunning and you look fabulous in it. My mum had a similar second dress and my dad wore black tie (not even everyone shock) and she looked and more importantly I could tell she felt absolutely stunning and beautiful and that is how I wanted my mum to feel.

I do come from a culture that makes significant more effort dressing up than I have seen at most English weddings.

Wear it and have a wonderful day and night.

Far too OTT for MOB. Looks like an evening dress.

I think you look great in the dress, OP, but I suspect you'd look great in a lot of things. I don't think the train looks overly train-ish on you, it looks like they've positioned it to look more prominent on the model. I don't love the big flower on the shoulder, which I think detracts. Definitely no fascinator! I hope it's a fantastic day.

@PhaedraTwo

You, general you, might think the former are the most hideous dresses you've ever seen but the Outnet, Net-a-Porter and Rixo aren't in business to sell "dated" dresses.

I agree on principle, but I think there are some dresses that have been hanging about for at least ten years on the Outnet. It's sort of their business model, isn't it?

You look great.

I like the fascinator but maybe more for day at the races rather than wedding.

OK. This is weird. Someone, a MoG for an iminent wedding, has shown me a photo of the dress that the MoB will be wearing and it is the exact same dress as the OP’s. I don’t think it is the same MoB and is pure coincidence (ie the OP looks to have blonde hair and the MoB for the STB wedding has dark hair, plus a few other details don’t match up). BUT this dress is clearly a popular choice. Is this the way weddings are going now, with Hollywood red carpet looks for The Mothers?

Very strange! (Not least that two people would choose purple polyester and a train!)

I didn't know that daytime evening dress weddings existed till I read this thread. They must be slightly odd, more like a cocktail party I suppose but you definitely couldn't dance in that get up.

You've made it very clear you think the dress, the wedding, and the people attending are tacky - do you actually have anything to add here? Do you struggle to conceive of things from outside of your own narrow sphere of existence, even really exotic things like 'people wearing dresses to weddings that I wouldn't choose to wear to one myself'?

As someone who has been to numerous black tie functions I can assure you that you can dance in a floor length dress.

Love it! So much nicer than the usual drab ‘skirt & jacket’ combo.

Are you ok? Your vitriol on this thread is nothing short of bizarre.

Never been so entertained by an S and B thread. It has everything.

I love the dress op. I'd go with a messy up style and a clip.

I absolutely love (fwiw) the Victoria Beckham one, with the brown polka dots a close second. The VB has a nod to Vivienne Westwood's style I think, with the asymmetry - and I love her dresses. Both much more contemporary looking than the first, which is perfectly nice but not so outstanding. You'd be drawing compliments from the most stylish guests in either of those (if that matters to you).
Also, if wearing a hat is important, the latter two could easily be accompanied by headwear as they look appropriate for daytime; the first would be a bit like wearing a hat on the red carpet, or to a summer ball.

Lovely dresses and very similar to what I’m looking for. What is the MOG wearing? Mine is wearing a beautiful trouser suit, and I was looking for a dress that coordinated with that. ChatGPT told me off. No Lamelie. That’s too bridal, we’re veering into MOG’s surprise second wedding territory.

I think the train would be a bit of a hindrance.

Not one of those dresses is as nice as the one OP has chosen (IMO😶)

These threads bring out a weird viciousness somehow. You look fabulous in the dress you’ve chosen OP.

I agree. If it is coincidentally the same MoB then she is not from this country and her introduction to British people has not been favourable.

Personally I think it’s quite strange for a wedding to be black tie / evening wear, they’re usually formal daywear. That being said that’s the dress code, in which in the dress does suit you, albeit not with a fascinator (which are dated anyway), but you wouldn’t wear anything on your head if wearing evening wear - hats are for daywear.