Too white for a wedding?

[KookyOliveSwan]

I have 4 weddings to go to this summer, so I’m looking for a dress that I can wear to all of them.
I’ve fallen in love with this one, but is it too white/cream: https://www.theoutnet.com/en-gb/shop/product/zimmermann/dresses/midi-dresses/floral-print-lace-paneled-cotton-voile-midi-dress/46376663162888639

I wouldn’t choose white or cream accessories, and for the church wedding I’d wear a sage coloured jacket with it.

It definitely isn’t bridal, but is it still too white?

If you have to ask you already know the answer! How hard is it to not wear white/ cream/ beige etc for one day? There are hundreds of colours! If you wore this to my wedding one of my bridesmaids would gently be telling you to leave.

I mean, OP has literally posted a dress asking for people’s opinions. I’ve given mine, it’s not that big of a deal , it’s a dress not a person? Who cares if I think it’s horrible and ugly?🤷‍♀️

Something else🤷‍♀️

She didn't ask for people's opinions on whether they thought it was horrible, or too expensive, or whether they thought it looked like a nightie! She asked if they thought it was too white ... that was all!!

And I think the OP could "gently" point out that there are in fact hundreds of colours in this dress! How can people not see that this a pastel floral dress?

Is there some sort of weird wedding-specific colour blindness that affects people on MN?

The straps don’t look very nice to wear to a wedding unless you wear a jacket over it and that usually looks awful on top. £600 is crazy money for that. Looks like a dishrag and yes it’s far too white. There’s millions of other dresses in the world

Oh come on now, don't be so coy - let us see your suggestion for the perfect wedding guest dress.

Or is it just easier to pop on with your nasty, unsolicited (OP asked about the colour, not whether we liked the dress) comment?

Doesn’t matter the vast majority is white. Are people really that selfish they can’t wear something for 1 day? It’s a beautiful dress, wrong occasion.

I agree with her, it’s rude and selfish. I’d fully ask her to leave.

Oh, I like it much more now I’ve seen photos of it ‘in the wild’. (I didn’t dislike it before.) I like the way it fits and I love the intricacy of the ‘shields’.

It’s strange, I generally despise pastels and find them hard on the eye - but the pastel dresses I’ve had from Zimmermann are lush.

I’d be delighted if someone wore this to my wedding!

Id pay good money to see a bridesmaid ask a guest wearing that dress to leave. it would be the highlight of what no doubt would be the most boring wedding of the century 😂

Oh youve ruined it now, I thought you were being serious 😔

I used to work weddings as a student, that’s exactly the sort of drama that made for great stories afterwards. And the idea that the wedding party would have considered it a sign of their refinement would have made it even funnier!

I suspect half the guests would take the opportunity to leave too in solidarity!

This particular Monsoon dress is potentially controversial due to the oddly placed appliqué flowers.

The first dress is ok, though hugely overpriced(!). I don’t think a dress with a pattern is an issue personally, it’s not as if it is plain cream or white, but some people are a bit batshit, so agree to play it safer with those you don’t know.

Pastel accessories are a good idea. The main concern for me is on its own it’s too informal/casual and more in keeping with summer holidays or festivals. It would be okay at an informal beach wedding.

Going back to the royal weddings the Queen famously wore white to Charles and Camilla's wedding, but of course she knew that Camilla was wearing pale blue. Camilla wore pale grey to C&D's wedding and you can see in the images of the guests in the church that several people round about her were also wearing white/cream/light grey dresses. Guests get very strict instructions about what to wear to royal weddings so obviously the royal family haven't heard of the 'no white' rule.

Oh, I forgot this. Princess Anne wore a white dress with yellow floral pattern on it to C&Ds wedding.

In MN land: AIBU to go nc with my MIL for wearing white to my wedding? I’m sure she did it to rub my nose in the fact that I couldn’t wear it for some weird family protocol reasons because I’m divorced.

I think it's lovely and not at all too white....it's not even white. Go for it.

I don't think royal weddings are a very good example. As you have alluded to, there is quite a bit of choreographing and organising of that kind of thing behind the scenes.

Also, royal brides usually end up with their image on commemorative tea towels, tea cups and so forth. I don't think there is really any risk of a royal bride feeling not noticed on the day!

At the end of the day, it really isn't that hard to find something that isn't white or cream so why push it. I think the ops is borderline ok because of the pastel patches but, like others, I do think it is possibly more a sundress for a summer party than a wedding, but then that depends how formal the event is.

Royal weddings set the fashions for weddings in the UK so the fact that it is very easy to find multiple examples of people (not just the queen) wearing both floral and solid pale colours in both contemporary and older royal weddings shows avoiding a bit of white is not a thing (and while Diana and Katherine ended up on tea towels most royal brides don't).

I do think it is possibly more a sundress for a summer party than a wedding, but then that depends how formal the event is
There is a massive overlap of what is appropriate for a summer party and a wedding. A far bigger one than what is appropriate for a wedding or an evening awards ceremony. The fashion these days seems to be for day weddings to be treated as an night out clubbing which I always find a weird choice.

Yes I think that is weird too.

But it is possible to find things in between. And I'm not sure why everyone is referencing shoddy fabrics as I haven't seen a lot of them at weddings.