Too white for a wedding?

[KookyOliveSwan]

I have 4 weddings to go to this summer, so I’m looking for a dress that I can wear to all of them.
I’ve fallen in love with this one, but is it too white/cream: https://www.theoutnet.com/en-gb/shop/product/zimmermann/dresses/midi-dresses/floral-print-lace-paneled-cotton-voile-midi-dress/46376663162888639

I wouldn’t choose white or cream accessories, and for the church wedding I’d wear a sage coloured jacket with it.

It definitely isn’t bridal, but is it still too white?

My mother wore a white jacket with a floral skirt to my wedding and it never occurred to me that it was anything other than a beautiful jacket that suited her and that she’d hopefully wear again at a smart garden party.

None of those dresses that I posted from previous threads looks like a wedding dress - yet they were still objected to by many posters. Partly because of how they might look in the wedding photographs & proximity to the bride (in terms of their paleness & the floral detail etc not showing up).

And yet, apparently it's perfectly fine to turn up to a wedding & be photographed in any of these??? (No, they're not all Shein, some are designer!)

Always wonder if these types of posts are genuine. Or click bait for the featured product provider?

Surely the greatest "don't upstage the bride" is this? [and it was fabulous]

www.townandcountrymag.com/style/fashion-trends/a20901371/janina-gavankar-royal-wedding-reception-interview/

You see i think soft florals are much more summer weddingy than strong colours and night club style evening wear.

I'd much prefer my photos full of pretty pastel dresses than of sequinned mini dresses.

But either way I wouldn't presume to dictate what others wear, or be crazy enough to think my wedding photos need to be perfectly curated images to have a great wedding.

Exactly! It is very pretty but I don't think it's wedding attire.

I agree. Just make sure you have very definitely coloured accessories.

What a lovely dress.

I do too - the obsession with how the wedding photos will look has become unhinged IMO.

Any one of those bright/sequinned/revealing/optically challenging outfits would draw attention away from the bride, & stand out in photos, far more than any of the much-castigated pale/pastel/floral frocks. But they're all technically speaking absolutely fine - because none of them is white/ivory/cream or looks bridal?? Bizarre ...

I don't think Zimmerman needs to advertise on Mumsnet ...

It was a great look - & vintage too!

Now that IS bonkers ...! How did that go down ...?!

To be honest even that didn't do more than make a few people raise an eyebrow and laugh. It did look dreadful though. She had lime green and neon orange netting added under the skirt. This was after she'd refused to be a bridesmaid as well.

Even the bride herself found it more ridiculous than offensive.

Its nice but £605, lord oh lord….

Rather sad, really ... I wonder what possessed her.

It’s a beautiful designer dress

And going to be used for four weddings, as well no doubt for other summer occasions well into the future.

It’s lovely wear some contrasting shoes & bag

Why do we keep getting these threads? It’s patterned and not bridal. Wear with a pink jacket and it’s clearly not bridal. Why mn gets so worked up about patterned cream dresses that don’t look remotely like a wedding dress is beyond me.

So long as you don't plan to accessorise it with a veil and a bouquet of flowers you'll be fine. It's a lovely dress.

And what are all these comments about it not being formal enough? Why does a wedding outfit need to be formal so long as you look nice and are comfortable?

I think those PPs consider it too low-key & casual, & basically an expensive sundress - which of course it is not; it's a beautiful dress & completely appropriate for a summer wedding.

But there seems to be a wedding guest trend these days towards the kind of glitzy/revealing/shiny dresses usually worn by minor celebs knowing they'll be papped coming out of a nightclub!

I love it and I think it definitely falls on the "not too white" side of the line, but as you say, you can pull it further away from the line with accessories, jacket etc. I'd prob wear a fancy fitted pink cardigan with that (if I had £600 for the dress that is...).

Oh FGS! Who gives a shit about who wears what to a wedding these days? Obvs, unless you wear a main character outfit and you're not actually main character, that is.

Your concerns re is it too 'white' for a wedding for me isn't the issue but the fact that the choice of sizes only seem to be suitable for adolescent teenage girls or those who do not consider food an essential and that the price seems to be a misprint and surely is around £500 higher than it needs to be?! 🙄
Is this seriously what you are considering spending money on but you are just worried about the suitability of the colour? FFS!! 😱

@EleanorMc67 thank you for your lovely message. I’m not remotely put off, I love the dress and think it’s beautiful. It’s not going to be everyone’s taste or budget (nothing is!) but I’ve been looking for a while and I’m happy with it.
The suggestion of looking for a secondhand dress from brands I like for the other dress is a good idea. You’re right that I don’t really like the Monsoon one and I was just looking for something ‘safe’. But I can do better if I look around.

For those who haven’t read the full thread, I’ve decided that I’m only wearing this dress to the weddings where I’m close to bride and know for certain it’s ok (and other special occasions where colour doesn’t matter!)
I’ll get something different for the other 2 weddings.

I know some people think the price is crazy. It probably is, and I know I’m very fortunate to be able to afford it. I also haven’t bought any occasion wear in over 5 years and tend to choose one item that I wear a lot rather than having a new dress for every event (I’ve lost a lot of weight so definitely need something new now).
I want to buy something I really love, and this dress is it (it’s also a massive treat for finishing my MSc whilst on maternity leave/working and will also be my graduation dress). I’m not buying it just to wear to a wedding, but I did want to check if it was suitable for the weddings I am attending.

It’s showing availability in a 1 (which is a UK size 10) and a 3 (UK 14), which both seem fairly normal sizes for an adult woman. It did go to a 16 but it’s sold out.
I’m a size 8-10 and a totally healthy size for a woman in her mid thirties with 2 kids (my BMI is right in the middle of the ‘healthy’ range and my diet/exercise routine is entirely unremarkable).

UK size 6-16 seems like a fairly standard size range. Obviously it would be nice if it included larger sizes too, but I wouldn’t say it’s only made for adolescents and people with very restrictive diets!