I wasn't cherry picking, & have read all your posts & those from others!
My comment was relating to your use of the royal "we" about a sartorial point, which implied that it was something the majority of people agreed with you on. It's a habit on MN - & IRL - that I dislike.
And the "never wear black at weddings" diktat is one that I partly disagree with (though I see the OP also believes in it being some sort of not-so-secret signal to her DIL that she hates her, if she wore black!). I find those traditions you mentioned (which at 59 & a past guest at many traditional & non-traditional weddings, I can say honestly that I've never once heard of!) nonsensical &, tbh, rather sad ...??
I'd happily wear a black floral outfit (or navy as the OP's is!!) to a wedding. I wouldn't in general wear a completely plain black outfit, as it would look rather dull in the context of a wedding. Though, for a winter or evening-only wedding, I'd consider black velvet or satin because they look rich & lustrous, especially if patterned/mixed with other colours/embroidered etc. I wore a mostly black (with cream & silver embroidery/beading) vintage Biba dress to my sister's wedding - as bridesmaid - with her having the ultimate choice & giving it her full approval!
My ironic comments as to what disasters might befall the world, if a woman wore black to a wedding AS WELL AS, God forbid, heels that made her taller than her husband, were just that.
But they stemmed from your comments to the other PP who was four inches taller than her husband.
Oh my.
However do you manage being that much taller than your DH?! Doesn't it affect things between you? And how others see you as a couple? Is he very short??
Which you then doubled down on, when other PPs thought you were joking:
I can't get my head around a 4 inch height difference. Surely it makes the poster feel unfeminine, and the DH feel unmasculine, and surely they look odd together as a couple?
In the spirit of generosity (& loving the same shoes!), I'm hoping that your comments were naive & thoughtless - but to me (& probably those others who've commented in surprise/annoyance) they come across as very outdated, rude & prying. Yes, really ...!!!
Anyway, typed exchanges between strangers do lend themselves to much more misunderstanding & judgement than in-person conversation, so I probably shouldn't have replied this indignantly first or second time. But maybe I might just cause you to rethink your view of shorter men as only "worthy" of even tinier women ...