Is this too pale

[IsItTooPink]

We’re off to a wedding in March and my daughter wants me to enlist the MN massive to see if wearing this is ok? Is it too pale?

https://images1.vinted.net/t/01_000ef_5WLVVdyUg2AYdF9BgQjaYJWW/f800/1758471739.webp?s=34c1c1218d667660b67704379012b0bdd8bb287c

Totally bonkers 😂I honestly think some of the posters have never met an 18 yo, some of the suggestions are what my 70 yo mum would wear 😱 even then they are a bit frumpy.

We had a 'dress to impress' dress code wedding in a hotel, evening gowns were welcome of any colour. Everyone looked fabulous. The vinted dress would have been perfectly acceptable. If in a church first then some sort of cover up would be required. It probably would be better in a brighter colour though as its a bit pale for most people to look amazing in.

That toteme coord is so awful!

I knew it reminded me of something.

https://www.amazon.co.uk/Magic-Freddy-Scrooge-Victorian-Sleepwear/dp/B07N1MK8YF

Are people really so crabby and mean-spirited about a wedding celebration?

Have you seen people? 🤣

Some people are easier to peeve than others. OP will have a better idea of the type of personalities involved.

It’s been pointed out a few times but this style of dress is a pretty normal smart occasion dress for an 18yo- it’s a very popular style for that age group and doesn’t scream bridesmaid for them in the way it does for older people.

She’ll look fabulous in the light pink one, she’s 18, it’s perfect. Tell her to go for it. And have fun x

A slip dress with cover-up jacket for the ceremony would be fine.

But - this slip dress is a sickly shade of pale pink + it's satin (& looks like a cheap one). Pale pink crepe, say - fine. Burgundy satin - fine. Even - if she was set on it - a deeper/richer pink in a much better quality satin. Matt or hammered satin if it can't be silk.

But bridesmaid pink + cheap satin = no, IMO.

It's that particular slip dress that doesn't work.

Seems like it. 😐

This would look great with Fuschia

The original dress doesn’t work due to a combination of the style and pale colour IMO.

Agree bright red is awful and out of place at a wedding.

Ive never heard that. I wore red to my brother's wedding so I bloody hope that isn't a thing. No-one mentioned it to me 🤣.

Love the navy dress that you chose OP. I dont think the pink one is suitable.

What you have there is a bridesmaids dress.

Depressing, isn't it. We must all shroud ourselves in sacks to make sure there's no chance whatsoever anyone will think we're trying to 'upstage the bride'. It's da roolz, apparently. And yep, I think they're ugly too, the green's the least awful imo but I wouldn't wear that either, I think it's frumpy. I don't know who buys this kind of stuff, as I don't think I've seen it all that often on living breathing women.

Not at the wedding of some friends of ours, who had – gasp! – a red, white and blue dress code.

These wedding threads are always so depressing. Whatever happened to people just wearing whatever they feel good in at weddings, provided it doesn't break any explicit dress codes? Although of course I should say women rather than people, because men are never subjected to any of this nonsense. How much sleep has ever been lost by men over fears of upstaging the groom? That's right: precisely none.

Seriously, though. Absent a specific, spelled-out (as opposed to 'oh no, Mumsnet might think it's not 'suitable'!) dress code for a wedding (in which case obviously both sexes should try to follow it out of courtesy) why are we as women even buying into this, running around like mad things obsessing over getting it and using it as a tool to beat other women down with? These wedding attire threads always make me think feminism's got a fair way to go yet.

No red is ridiculous.

Why, though? I really don't get it!

I wore a late 60s red floral silk maxi dress to a wedding a few years ago. There were others there in red, green, black, & (the audacity!) cream- or white-based florals. Everyone looked great, had a fabulous time, & it was a wonderful wedding experience for all - including the bride & groom!

It's too revealing. I wouldn't have worn that to a wedding at 18. It's not even particularly nice, the material looks cheap at the bottom and really the only 'feature' is showing off your boobs. I must be really ancient (I'm 40) because I was taught not to look like I was trying to upstage the bride, and showing that much cleavage at a wedding comes across as attention-seeking.

Your daughter is an absolute beauty! Gorgeous!
This might suit and is more suitable, house of CB make lovely dresses for her age https://www.vinted.co.uk/items/8247298071-house-of-cb-dress?referrer=catalog

To be clear, I meant the no red rule is ridiculous.

Ah - I thought you were replying to the PP asking what's wrong with red for weddings! I have clearly been lurking on the more sloppily punctuated parts of MN too long now - as I just assumed you'd missed out a comma ...

I don't think it is mean-spirited for the guests to try to dress as appropriately as possible.

I mean if it doesn't matter why not wear jeans?

The last wedding I went to many of the younger girls/women wore dresses in this style in a variety of colours and they looked lovely and not inappropriate at all. No one mistook them for bridesmaids as we could all see what the bridesmaids were wearing. Personally I would go for a darker pink but apart from that it’s fine and your daughter looks gorgeous

Her daughter is 18 not 40. Teenagers wear different things to 40 year olds. Many younger women wear this style and none that I have seen upstaged the bride in the slightest.

I'm 40 and I'd wear it if I had the figure for it!