Too white for a wedding guest dress?

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I have my eye on this for a spring wedding. I love prints, it’s silk and is in the sale - perfect combination.

However, I showed it to my mother and she said “But it’s white!” in a horrified way. I was bewildered. I don’t believe most people’s first thought on looking at this would be “white”. To me, it’s all about the print - and in any case, the background looks more cream to me.

I love it, but not for the first time, my mother has created a nagging doubt. Would anyone really think I was trying to look remotely bridal in this?

spot on.

Definitely not!

I agree.
I think it’s perfect.
Not remotely bridal.

I think it's fine. Wedding dresses are usually all white or ivory, lacy, georgette or taffeta. This one isn't any of those. It's a classy wedding guest dress. IMO. FWIW.

Nope - I wouldn't wear it either. TBH, if you are the slighest bit anxious about it, don't wear it as you won't be able to relax..

Absolutely not appropriate. I got married at the end of last year and would not be happy. It will photograph white. Any shade of white, cream, ivory, beige alongside light blue and light yellow will photograph white. I know this because it happened in my wedding photos and the guests who wore those colours are mortified about it. It stands out.

I would ask the bride but then you still risk being a talking point among the guests even if you get the green light. I remember my MIL wore something similar to BIL wedding and it was genuinely all the guests spoke about all day - behind her and the brides back of course.

It was genuinely all the guests spoke about all day? What a nasty bunch of people with nothing interesting to say for themselves. I’d be much more gutted about having such awful guests at my wedding, than what anyone was wearing

Probably because a mother wearing a cream dress to her sons wedding says a lot about her character. 🤷‍♀️

If you say so

Are you suggesting it’s some kind of a reverse Oedipus Complex?

No I’m suggesting she’s a horrible woman who knew exactly what she was doing.

However I know the background to her being awful so I know it was on purpose. Luckily the entire family is now NC with her so she wasn’t invited to our wedding but I’m sure a shade of white would have been worn, and she would have been turned away at the door.

The guests didn’t and it was still a talking point because out of every colour possibly available to you why wear cream to a wedding? It screams attention seeker - even worse so when your son is the one getting married. I walked into the toilet to several conversations about the dress.

I have to say I would be gutted if my MIL arrived at my wedding wearing a dress similar to that and I’m sure it would be a vocal talking point within my family.

Don’t be that person

The guests are mortified. Yes, right - I bet they are.

It was all people talked about? Sure it was. Intelligent and pleasant people don’t do that.

This is even more insane than most of the insane bollocks spouted on here. Congratulations.

Threads like this make me want to have "Be Kind" tattooed on my inside forearm, to remind my (occasionally bitchy & sarcastic) self what's genuinely important in this world ...

It's like Heathers meets Bridesmaids by way of Mean Girls on here 😶

If you have to ask, it's too white.

There are lots of posts asking similar, the answer is always the same! Buy it to wear for a different occasion, if you do really love it.

Being kind is all very well, but that doesn’t/shouldn’t mean letting completely ridiculous comments stand unquestioned. That’s how you end up with idiots in America content to re-elect someone who proposed drinking bleach to treat covid.

Was it on your wedding day, do you mean?

I wouldn't wear anything even vaguely white so, this would be a hard NO from me, out of respect for the bride.
My wedding dress was cream with flowers and not a million miles away from this one!

I would definitely wear that as a bride, but not a guest.

You're right, it doesn't - & I will always stand up for what is fair & right if I think it's important. But, most of the time, reminding myself to be kind stops me from blurting out what I'm thinking - which isn't always very nice!!

(Not sure I quite made the leap to Trump voters! But they weren't being kind, or even complacent - they were being utterly self-serving, IMO.)

Sorry, please explain? You think people were lying about being mortified about how the photos of their outfit turned out?

Weird thing for them to lie about when I never mentioned how the photos looked to them! I guess you know best!

I disagree. Wearing cream to your son’s wedding is out of order. What’s insane about thinking that?

That poster has also gone on to explain that the entire family are NC with the MIL so in this case it does explain she is of bad character.

Blimey what a bore that wedding must have been if the guests were reduced to gossiping about someone's dress.