Proposing a new rule on S&B

[CertainUncertain]

(lighthearted)

If someone posts something or asks for an opinion, and you come on to criticise, diss, be unpleasant, or call it cheap, frumpy or old-fashioned, you should have to post something you like, so other posters can judge your credibility.

Don’t worry it didn’t ready that way, you are good

Sorry one more:
The only time it’s appropriate to correct someone’s spelling or grammar is when they themselves are being a d*ck to someone. Otherwise leave people be, we come from a diverse range of backgrounds are we are all doing our best. You don’t sound clever you sound smug.

I read it as Debenham's that was the barrier to stylishness 😅

OR ‘ I can’t wrap my head around anyone wanting to spend that kind of money on anything! Here- I would get this £49 reduced to clear dress from John Lewis, and I put the rest of the money towards a once in a lifetime family trip to Gibraltar’

I read this differently - that these are things people worry themselves restrict their choices ( e.g. that people with ginger hair shouldn’t wear pink) and not that the PP is herself suggesting these are negative attributes, in fact the opposite that she wants to reassure these posters.

It’s interesting to me that you think ginger should be called out as a slur but seem fine with old, fat and ugly in the same list 🤨

I agree with the OP though....its so much more helpful when they give examples.

If somebody hates my outfit and then posts some examples of depressed looking models wearing grey and beige bin bags then I can instantly disregard their opinion as we clearly have totally different tastes.
Similarly if their beige bin bag costs £500 I also know their opinion isnt relevant to me.

Although Im happy to instigate temporary bans for people who dont know the meaning of constructive criticism and anybody who thinks you cant be stylish on a Primark budget!😄

Oh no I love them!

The slightly fuzzy photos taken from a weird angle are great, along with the people always think I'm ten years younger comment. I've said that to people, doesn't mean its true though.

Can we ban people who are scathing about the idea of wanting to wear something nice
for a day out. Eg those who say “nobody gets dressed up in London don’t you know”

I’d like to ban snobbery that makes some people think expensive equates intrinsically to stylish, whilst cheap can never be.

I’d also like to ban the words ‘frumpy’ and ‘mumsy’ as it makes me sad to see women perpetuating ageist and misogynistic claptrap.

I want to establish a ritual where anybody who says, ‘Nobody ever dresses up in London’ is hung up in the Opera House and whipped with their own dirty trainers by ladies in nice dresses.

And finally I like to ban people linking to fucking Roman or Wallis.

Please and thank you.

That's a very good rule. In point of fact, I live in London and people do indeed often get dressed up, although I suppose it's not as required as it used to be.

And can I add, posters who state with utter (misplaced) confidence that heels are completely unfashionable, will never come back and immediately mark the wearer out as being a fashion illiterate?

These have been added to the charter document.

oh, and please can we add a blanket ban on anybody saying something looks horrible without the caveat 'on me'.
Puff sleeves are not the devils work just because you are shaped like a triangle and they make you look like an Amarican football player!😆

Please can we also ban people who make you feel guilty for spending ££££ on an item..."there's a COL crisis...read the room
" blah blah blah.

I bloody swear by Nivea in the blue pot by the way !

I agree re the no one gets dressed up in London. I left the house at the same time as my incredibly elegant neighbour last week. She was in a fabulous cocktail dress - we were in white tie and ballgowns......

Further to the excellent suggestion from @RemusLupinsBiggestGroupie about ‘no-one dressing up in London’ I propose that, following the Royal Opera House ritual, the offenders be exiled for a year to the crappest town in the UK (which will be decided by ballot).

It might just help them appreciate why, for some of us, a trip to London is a real treat that’s enhanced even further if you have some nice clothes to wear.

Nothing annoys me more than the ‘why do you care’ usually followed by ‘wear what you want’.

A ban from S&B as they are kind of missing the point, surely.

I have to stop myself from personally replying sometimes.

Anyone that jumps in and instantly suggests therapy when replying on Botox/Procedures threads deserves even more than a lifetime ban IMO.

Anyone that jumps in and instantly suggests therapy when replying on Botox/Procedures threads deserves even more than a lifetime ban IMO.

I'd like to add announcing that they can always always always, without fail, tell when someone has so much walked by a clinic dispensing Botox by their stiff, waxy immobile face (hint: no they can't).

@Floisme

Further to the excellent suggestion from about ‘no-one dressing up in London’ I propose that, following the Royal Opera House ritual, the offenders be exiled for a year to the crappest town in the UK (which will be decided by ballot).

Secret ballot, I should think.

I’d only take advice from the likes of @Floisme, @WeAreAllCats, and @IHaveAlwaysLivedInTheCastle.

Having said that I like seeing what everyone’s tastes are. I ignore anyone who only posts to show off how above S&B they are, they only come here to derail and get attention.

Genius! Send them to Middlesborough.

@BippityBippityBoo Go on and ban all of us then. Have your own little bubble of 4. This thread was fun, but your post, for me, sums up everything that is wrong with this place now, unfortunately.

I would respectfully ask that posters requiring help in finding an outfit for an event or help maybe finding their style again tell us about their tastes before they tell me us about their body type. Asking “ what can I wear now I feel crap and I’ve lost my way” is a big question so a little bit of direction with do you like to wear colour or print or brands that you used to love is useful.

( advice that is centred around fixing a perceived physical flaw is really grating. )

It would be quite helpful if there were a pinned note at the top of all S&B threads suggesting (not ordering) that if a poster wants specific suggestions they should provide:

Context
Size, height, proportions
Budget

At the moment there are about fifteen million I’ve lost 7 stone on weight loss injections and need to replace my entire wardrobe. What should I buy? threads. With no other relevant information.

I’ve been away from mn for a while but have posted on S&B under various names over the years.

My pet hate is that everything must be ‘flattering’ within a very narrow idea of what that means. I also dislike the idea that some garments are ‘always flattering’ or ‘always work’ - I’m sure this erroneous advice is responsible for about 60% of the white shirt manufacturing industry.

I’d ban people who jump on SB to say ‘why do you care, I just wear a fleece and jeans I’ve had since 1990’ and variations on that theme, plus anyone who scolds others because some people (not them, some other people) can only afford to spend £5 a year on clothes.

S & B is bit like AIBU - if you ask for opinions, you'll get them, so as my dear dead dad would say: think on.

I agree with this, but there are ways of giving an opinion.

Perhaps look for something in a different colour, more shaped, shorter/longer, different fabric. What about this? <insert link to nice outfit>

versus

That's appalling, I wouldn't be seen dead in that, you'd look like a frumpy old woman who doesn't care about what she wears.

I might be banned after this post, but can I also propose that anyone discussing comfy sandals must have a naughty chair time out?

5 days for that exact phrase, 2 for the implication.