A bit of a revelation. I’m not sure anyone else either notices or cares.

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I’ve recently lost weight (about 10% of my body weight) and had a new, different hairstyle. I’ve obviously done this for me and no-one else and generally feel better about myself.

I’m just a bit surprised that, apart from DH & DD, no-one else has noticed, or if they have, they’ve not commented.

It doesn’t matter and I’m not bothered but wondering if anyone else has experienced the same.

Two possibilities:
(1) Most people are not thinking about us as much as we think they are, or even noticing us. Everybody is thinking about the CoL or their own problems.
(2) Personally I never comment on weight, even weight loss, because it's a very fraught topic in today's society. Many people don't like being complimented on weight loss for various reasons. Maybe your friends are the same.

Yes I’ve recently lost 2st - gone from 14st to 12st.

not a single person has noticed - not even my husband. It’s really weird we have a good relationship so it’s not that.

The only thing I can think of is that my higher weight wasn’t normal for me and people just hadn’t registered that I’d got bigger? I still have a st to go maybe someone will notice then

I never comment on people's weight loss as I'm worried it will sound as though I thought they were fat before!

I absolutely hate it when people mention my hair, clothes or weight so I can see why it's subjects that lots of people avoid. People will have noticed.

Congratulations on your weight loss. I'm glad you're feeling good about yourself 😀

I wouldn't comment on weight loss unless a person brought it up. Weight, both too much and too little, is such a issue. People have internal battles over this, sometimes lifelong. I wouldn't wade in uninvited.

So many people don’t like their appearance or weight commented on. So I think a lot of people wouldn’t comment. They don’t want it to be taken the wrong way.

But I honestly don’t think people look as closely at use as we think they do.

This week 2 people commented on my hair being lighter. Which it is, I went blonder. But over 2 months ago and have seen these people several times but they didn’t notice.

I would never comment on anyone's weight. WRT hairstyles I don't necessarily always notice changes, even with people who I see every day. I don't always comment even when I do notice.

Unless it's someone whose body I know intimately (which is pretty much me, DH, and the DCs), weight loss or gain would have to be pretty significant for me to even notice. And if I did notice I would not comment unless the person said "I lost x weight and I'm really happy about it". Weight is complex.

I would notice and comment if I thought someone's new haircut suited them, but many wouldn't, or would just vaguely register that you looked "well".

Another one here who would never comment on weight loss- unless it was a close friend who I knew had been actively trying to lose weight.

BTW well done! 👏

I've lost four stone - more than a quarter of my weight - and my husband just sees the same person. He's like 'don't be daft, you were never fat' 🙄🙄🙄

I know that's the gold standard husband answer, but I want to be seen as I am now; I feel so much better about myself and it'd be nice to have that reflected back to me sometimes.

Rather than 'you look no different to when you weighed almost 16 stone and got out of breath using stairs'.

Same here. Lost 15kg and nobody apart from my DH noticed. Just shows it’s not worth worrying about what other people think of our tummies, bums, thighs etc. they’re not thinking about them at all!!!

I had a drastic change of hairstyle last year (much shorter, and blonder than before), and yes loads of people noticed. Some closer friends commented, and other people just pointed at my hair and smiled with a thumbs up! Which I was obviously pleased about, as it cost a fortune.

My husband and cleaning lady were the only two people who commented about my weight when I lost over a stone.

Another one who would never comment.

last time I did, they said, Thanks, yeah, it’s the chemotherapy.

I’m down 11kgs and not a peep out of anyone, bar my sister!

Exactly. This is why I keep mum.

Fashions are a lot baggier now, so if you wear looser clothes weight loss isn't as noticeable.

I recently cut out sugar and no one noticed until I happened to wear a tighter t shirt one day.

A lot of people's weightloss these days is due to injections as well, so I think people are more reluctant to talk about it as it's like cheating, rather than because they've worked hard at it and overcome mental blocks and changed their mindset.

My colleague lost 4 stone but I only actually noticed at 3 stone when she was wearing a different outfit. It really isn’t as noticeable to others as you think it is.

I wouldn't normally comment - I would worry it might come across as patronising or backhanded. "Well done, you were a bit of a porker before but you're less of one now!"

Or it might be down to illness or stress or some other negative thing.

I don't want to go round assuming that everybody's goal is to be slim, iyswim.

I notice but don't like to mention weight, feels too personal tbh

This. I reckon that’s why they’re not saying anything. They’re probably thinking you look great though!

I don't mention people's hair weight etc and don't want people commenting on me

Mind you these days if you comment it's wrong someone will be offended, if you don't mention someone will be offended

Im surprised nobody mentioned the hair, generally thats a fairly 'safe' topic to comment on! I had a bunch of work colleagues compliment me on my haircut a couple of months ago (I hadnt even cut it...just worn it down!!LOL).😆

Weight is a touchy subject though. Most people stay away from it as you dont know the reason why or if somebody is even happy about it.
I was surprised how few people mentioned my weight loss as well (went from 17st to currently 9.8st). The only people who really talked about it were those who geniunely hadnt recognized me!

I feel invisible, 45 mum of 4. I change my hair, not one person (except partner) notices. I’ve lost a bit of weight, same again or wear a nice outfit - my 19 year old would usually comment but I’ve not seen him for a while. But I feel good so that’s the main thing 😀

Not everyone is fixated on shape and body image.