A bit of a revelation. I’m not sure anyone else either notices or cares.

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I’ve recently lost weight (about 10% of my body weight) and had a new, different hairstyle. I’ve obviously done this for me and no-one else and generally feel better about myself.

I’m just a bit surprised that, apart from DH & DD, no-one else has noticed, or if they have, they’ve not commented.

It doesn’t matter and I’m not bothered but wondering if anyone else has experienced the same.

If I know someone well enough to know they are dieting and trying to lose weight I will always congratulate their weight loss. It’s really hard to lose so it’s a huge achievement. If I don’t know they are dieting I won’t say anything as weight loss can be due to illness too so it’s tricky.

Hairstyle changes are different - I always compliment a haircut or restyle. We have to celebrate our girlfriends fabulousness 🎉

Hmm my sister lost a decent amount of weight and I definitely noticed but I never commented on it till it came up when I talked about wanting to lose weight myself

I think generally women worry too much about what other people think of their appearance whereas other people don't notice or care at nearly the same level.

Thanks for replies and interesting to hear that others have experienced the same and that generally people don’t comment. Maybe my hair change isn’t as much as a change as I think!

Regarding the weight, I was within healthy range anyway (BMI 25) so perhaps not perceived as overweight by others, although I felt conscious of it myself. I now have a BMI of just over 22.

I don’t comment on weight as when I lost enormous amounts of weight with hyperemisis (no one could even tell I was pregnant till my 9th month), I was utterly miserable and found compliments on how thin I was upsetting as I was so worried about the implications for the pregnancy.

The other time I lost a lot of weight is when I was nursing my mother back from the brink of death. Again, didn’t appreciate comments.

I was slim before (both times a size ten, but went from a 10 to a 6, which at my height wasn’t healthy

No, but some are and nobody has said anything

I wouldn't comment unless I knew, because THEY had told me, that the weight loss was deliberate and wanted. Same with a change of hairstyle, if they had mentioned it, I'd compliment but not otherwise. With the hair thing, again it can be a new style or a wig because their hair is falling out.

I remember having my braces off & no one noticing but then no one really noticed I had them!

Another one here who would never comment on someone's weight, even if it was a huge weight loss.

Slightly different scenario, but I'm over 7months pregnant and only one person at work has said anything without me having to bring it up first. There's no way that it's not obvious, as I've always been slim. I think people wait for you to say something and respond accordingly.

I went from 12 stone to 10 stone and it wasn't until I was about 10.5 stone that people suddenly noticed.

Having suffered with an eating disorder all my teenage and adult life, I would never comment on weight loss or weight gain. I know the impact of such remarks can be significant.
I do, however, comment on new hairstyles and colours, but in a general, your hair looks really nice, kind of way.
I'm sorry no one has noticed, OP, but it does seem that the majority of people don't comment on weight loss now. I also think the situation has been complicated by the use of weight loss injections.

Did you put the now lost weight on quite recently?

As I get older the mental picture I have of people can be a few years old so perhaps the new you matches better their idea of what you look like

I wouldn’t expect the weight loss to be commented on - unless it was really extreme in a short space of time. I don’t think the average person would notice 2 stone loss ?depending on starting weight maybe. 9
stone to 7 stone would be more noticeable than say 12 stone to 10 stone.
With the hair, I’ve had similar experience with colour changes which no one has commented on. This week I
got fairly significant burgundy lowlights and look overall darker but no
one has commented aside from my DH and DDs. To me I look extremely different but others obviously haven’t noticed. It’s quite freeing really.

Have recently gone from 13:13 to 10:8. No one much noticed until it I got to about 11, but it was more often people who hadn't seen me for a while.

Also some people don't like to mention anything as it's very personal.

I know myself I'll suddenly notice if someone has lost weight as honestly I don't pay that much attention so it would have to be a big change.

In any case I did if for my health rather than compliments and I feel much better for it

Well done on your weight loss anyway. Did you have a max daily calories target ? As I can't seem to get it under 1400 without being absolutely starving

Your weight is the least interesting thing about you and its good fewer people are commenting on it. Its nice to get a compliment about a new hairdo though

I agree with everyone else that it's best never to comment on somebody's weight unless you know them well enough that they would appreciate a comment about it. If you don't then I keep quiet, that's my 'rule' anyway.

I hate being commented on my appearance, really don't appreciate comments. I know that many people love have comments but I think there are a growing number of women who do not like feeling so observed all the time and that's definitely how I feel.

Congratulations on your weight loss.

I tend to compliment things like bags, a nice outfit, something I notice someone has made an effort with, I mean naturally if I like something, I don't go round thinking of things to say!

I would only talk about weight loss with a very select few friends. We probably do all notice the fluctuations of others, although I may not notice if they are fairly slim and then just a bit slimmer or bigger, but it's not a topic I'd raise in general unless they were literally half the size and I knew them very very well.

I would never say 'you've put on weight' under any circumstances, like people don't know?

My family has form for commenting 'have you lost weight?' Even when I haven't!

I don't think most people notice unless it's really dramatic.

I've lost a couple of stone and some people will tell me I look 'well' but don't mention weight loss.

More people comment on the change of hair!

I had a neighbour who used to say 'have you lost weight?' every time he saw me, which was not that often as I lived elsewhere quite a bit of the time. It really puzzled me as I was always pretty much the same size. After a while I realised he was flirting with me and it was his excuse to come and have a chat!

I did not mind, btw (age appropriate)

Exactly the same here, I've lost 1.5 stone and I can't even see it myself! No one has mentioned it at all apart from my dad

I definitely notice if someone has lost (or gained) weight but would be very selective about who I would comment on that to. If I ask someone if they've lost weight I'm basically saying I noticed that you were heavier before. Not sure how many people want that pointing out.

One of the hallmarks of maturity is realizing that others don't notice you nearly as much as you think they do. They're too busy wondering if you're noticing them.

Yes, I felt like that when I noticed my SIL had lost weight. She looked great, but I thought it might be rude to say anything