Honest opinions on this outfit for (step)mother of the bride please.

[C0rdeliaChase]

I hate dresses, so I really want some sort of pantsuit or jumpsuit. But it's going to still be fairly warm (September) so I don't really want to wear a jacket. I'm a size 18, would this be appropriate?

Not sure why everyone is focusing on the colour! Plenty of mother of the bride outfits are white/off white/cream- as in actual mother of the bride outfits, sold at those specific shops for mothers of brides and grooms. Nobody is mistaking the mother of the bride for the bride.

Absolutely on trend cool great ! So many people wear god awful outfits to weddings especially inappropriate beach and warm weather weddingsTrust me if I don’t like it I would say

Bit different to stepmother of the bride though, isn't it..? It potentially sends a message, whether you mean to or not some guests will raise an eyebrow.

It's absolutely not about being mistaken for the bride, but it's a cultural norm that in western weddings the bride wears white and the guests avoid that colour. Similarly to how you wouldn't wear bright red to a funeral unless specifically asked.

Surely if anyone "raises an eyebrow" that's their problem and nobody else's?

If anyone is offended by a stepmother of the bride wearing a pinestripe off white outfit to a wedding then they frankly need to grow up.

If it's such a cultural norm, then why are so many mother of the bride outfits white?

Me too!

I guess it depends whether you value showing respect to your stepdaughter? I'm all for confidence and wearing what you like, but honestly, no I don't think it is their problem and nobody else's in this case.

MoB outfits are generally chosen by the bride and MoB, and it's nice to complement. Similar to the more modern neutral bridesmaid dresses. Nice if you're in the wedding party and have the bride's approval, otherwise best avoided for the occasion.

Sorry but as the stepmother I would tread really really carefully. No white, nothing dramatic, look at me.
I would choose a very typical wedding guest dress in a bright colour if you don’t want to be accused of anything.

"Respect to your stepdaughter" "not be accused of anything" what a load of tosh. Nowhere has the OP given any indication as to the type of relationship she has with her stepdaughter- a lot of assumptions being made here I think!

But I can see I'm in the minority.

Thanks for the advice but pissing off her mum is not something I have to worry about. Her mum isn't invited and I've been her stepmum since she was 2.

Please don't wear the jumpsuits suggested here. Your's and Judge Burrito's choices are the best on thread (although I liked my Max Mara suits too)

Nobody said anything about pissing off her mum though. If you wear white/cream/ivory when there are alternative very similar outfits available in colour (e.g. the Nobody's Child co-ord I linked) it will look pointed. It might not be, but it will look that way.

What's your role in the wedding? If you're close with DSD could you go shopping together for your outfit? That's pretty common, for the bride to get involved in the wedding party's outfits.

I'm sitting on the top table with DH and her (maternal) grandmother.

We are close, but she lives a couple of hours away, works full time and has a 2 year old so she's pretty low on free time. I've been sending her pics of things I like, she was fine with that suit I linked to at the beginning of the thread. TBH I have gone off it now. I've been swaying more towards a jumpsuit.

The magenta phase 8 suggestion looks great for a wedding guest @ellabella2345 I imagine it would be really flattering if the colour suits OP.

What the hell does that mean?

Why????

Because it won’t look nice on most people !!!

I look at the model in the pictures and think ‘that is the best that item could ever possibly look’ and it’s still not nice.

I don’t necessarily agree with this, things don’t always look best on the model. Fashion brands/photographers etc don’t always get it right.
I am a size 18 and definitely own some clothes that look better on me than they did on the model.

Totally unsuitable in every way for a wedding IMHO.

Something from here:
https://www.silkfred.com/collection/plus-size-jumpsuits

What about this www.next.co.uk/style/su403779/e86929

https://www.next.co.uk/style/ls428388/m02928
Maybe too black…

https://www.next.co.uk/style/su401509/e83820

I love the idea of a jumpsuit or suit