Saw myself on home security cameras- need help with fashion makeover

[FrumpyMcFrumpFace]

We’ve just put some new cameras up that look down our front path and driveway. I was reviewing the clips earlier and saw myself going out . I was dismayed at how frumpy I looked. My mum is staying for a few days, she’s 78, and I actually thought it was her first of all, and had to do a double take.
I’m mid fifties, size 14, 5 ft 6. My whole wardrobe is Seasalt or White Stuff. I’m rurally based and no longer work, so I don’t need work clothes, just a few outfits to go out for a meal etc.

please could I have your suggestions for some fashionable outfits or fashion brands that I might not have come across.
I’m getting my hair restyled this week, so I’m totally up for a rethink.

Thank you. I've asked for my posts to be deleted now. I was just trying to offer a suggestion that has helped me and didn't expect to be attacked.

There's this little old lady who keeps scurrying up and down the path on my security camera. Oh to see ourselves as others see us! I'm going to have a look at some of the recommendations. I'm definitely not the cool Nana.

Oh Ok. My wobble board is already out.
@captainsudoku , apologies, I mistook you for someone dissing a pp.

It would be nice if we could get back to focusing on the OP …

@FrumpyMcFrumpFace I wonder if

Plümo

might appeal to you. They’re in the middle of a sale at the moment but come autumn they always have the most lustrous jewel coloured velvets and silks - and just one piece could transform your wardrobe.

Thank you. I replied to my own post because I didn't want anyone to think that I worked for the Round Wooden Wobble Board Company, but I just ended up causing confusion. I'll get my wobble board out too now. It really does help.

It's really difficult. I have to be within reach of something stable to hold on to.
My board is plastic and from Tiger (via charity shop)
Wood is preferable.

Same here. If I miss a couple of days, it shows. DH and I were referred for physio at the same time, and we were recommended wobble boards, so we sprung for a wooden one.

I’m really confused why the chat about wobble boards when this thread is about clothes 🤔please don’t explain though and clog the thread up more!

following for any more recommendations for non frumpy clothes for middle age

Wobble boards help posture.....to address that middle-aged stoop, and make clothes look better.

See, I find those clothes very frumpy!

But if a wide statement, those sites cover a multitude of styles,

I am aiming for a capsule wardrobe following French style tips to try and avoid the skinny/frumpy look. I like the simplicity of it.. https://midlifeglobetrotter.com/french-wardrobe/

@Floorbard , they had me thinking that I'd look less frumpy in Damart or Cotton Traders.

I meant the picture the poster I replied to had attached in her comment, apparently it doesn’t show up in quotes, which I didn’t realise!

I hate it when people recommend a white shirt. I am size 8 but I have huge boobs -30FF. A white shirt makes me look like a top heavy hospital matron
from a seventies sitcom.

Even when I was bigger @FrumpyMcFrumpFace I found more fitted clothes suited me and flattered me.

I hate it more when they say “crisp white shirt” 😂

Again, definitely not for those with usual menopause symptoms for sure.

But where, exactly, are people’s links and photos to assist the OP???

Palazzo jeans from M&S have been a great staple for many this year, I’m enjoying wearing mine with adidas and loafers

https://www.marksandspencer.com/lyocell-blend-wide-leg-jeans/p/clp60653276?color=LIGHTINDIGO#intid=pid_pg1pip48g2r1c1

these t shirts are good especially for big boobs

https://www.marksandspencer.com/pure-cotton-everyday-fit-slash-neck-t-shirt/p/clp60673919?color=SOFTWHITE&prevPage=srp#intid=pid_pg1pip48g2r3c1

but everyone going mad for this t shirt in white - apparently looks spendy and smart

www.marksandspencer.com/cotton-rich-crew-neck-t-shirt/p/clp60598507?colour=SOFTWHITE&extid=ps_ps-pla-pmax_ggl_ww_ch__-UK-_-_smec_treatment_prior2&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAAD7g6bTrEJLw6xR7QhLIcLu5g0_je&gclid=EAIaIQobChMItp_bxrm9hwMVdZxQBh117iu9EAQYASABEgJG__D_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

These adidas trainers are on trend but lots of colour options for flatter Gazelles to choose from

www.asos.com/adidas-originals/adidas-originals-gazelle-bold-trainers-in-pastel-pink-and-green/prd/205410014?currencyid=1&browsecountry=GB&affid=28694&_EAIaIQobChMIiNzl6Lm9hwMVqJdQBh00aiEWEAQYBiABEgIEvPD_BwE&channelref=product+search&ppcadref=20546713158%7C%7C&gad_source=1&gbraid=0AAAAADqFjODSXewgNnVCS2qHneciXAy-S&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIiNzl6Lm9hwMVqJdQBh00aiEWEAQYBiABEgIEvPD_BwE&gclsrc=aw.ds

Uniqlo is good for trousers - wide leg:

https://www.uniqlo.com/uk/en/product/wide-chino-trousers-469828.html?dwvar_469828_size=SMA001&cgid=IDw-trousers-leggings

slimmer more fitted style (& stretchy - so comfy!)

https://www.uniqlo.com/uk/en/product/smart-ankle-trousers-469858.html?dwvar_469858_color=COL09&dwvar_469858_size=SMA001

Remember to ALWAYS tuck your top in - leaving it out is dated

Burn your flowery frocks and never buy one again.

Go and get styled by a personal shopper.

What does "not the kind of person to wear" X or Y or Z mean?

Breaking out of a sartorial comfort zone can be very liberating and energizing.

I don't know what you mean. I never said X, Y or Z.

Surely it simply means they don’t suit your body/and or your vibe/ and or lifestyle!

Same - I am 8, short and 30HH. Shirts make me look matronly. I realised that it’s the collar that doesn’t suit me. But collarless shirts and blouses look fine, as do slash neck tops. I have a nice slim neck and collar bone so it’s better for me to show that area. Not saying I have all the answers - took me until late 40s to realise that… ☺️. But sometimes it’s the small details that make a big difference to looking “frumpy” and it’s about finding those details that work for you. (Not always easy!)