Help - suggestions re hair please- i cannot stand it anymore !

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I hate hate my hair .
it is suoer suoer dry post meno .
its grey - pale round face - dark at back - salt n pepper.
have front facing job - have to look ok .

I went to hairdresser who said its too dry to bleach then tone all over .

i have started to use demis on roots as it is less harmful i am told

• but as it fades i am orange.

please can someone suggest- how to go grey how to go blond then tone what toner could use now keratin treatments deep conditioner - really really good one ! my hair is naturally coarse due to follicle condition and will never be smooth - but oh my its like a horse mane and so so dull and dry . help!!

Get some Aussie conditioner to start with.

Did the hairdresser make any suggestions? I have lots of very very fine hair, it's a pain, but it is oily, so opposite problem. My sympathies! Style and beauty board will sort you out.

Is there any reason (beyond your self perception) your natural mix of colour won’t work for work. No man (I suspect) would reach for dye if going grey. Because I wonder if the dye isn’t helping.

My DSis's hair looked like that - so dry. She started taking Biotin supplements and two weeks later, her hair was all glossy. I couldn't believe the change. She dyes it and uses heated tongs on it daily, so it does dry out.

Try biotin.

Your hair doesn;t look grey btw. It's a lovely colour imo. (Not that grey isn't.)

You might think I am being sarcastic but I’m not.
Try Cowboy Magic horse shampoo and also their conditioner. Worked such wonders on my highland ponies manes and tails that I tried it myself and it is great.

Thanks all .

Blackcats7 no i dont ! Am grateful !

Crucible she said to deep condition and get it in better condition - i used osmo deep condition mask - its made it drier! Goodness kniw why !

Moo Goo Protein Shot is excellent.

Find another hairdresser who has some suggestions of how to move forward.

Have it trimmed regularly, don't use too much heat (minimise drying, curling etc), as PP said take biotin supplement, buy a silk pillow case OR a silk sleep bonnet. For conditioning, either olaplex No5 or l'oreal bond repair.

Good diet plus hair supplement, silk pillowcase, silk hair ties, pre-shampoo treatment (e.g. Philip Kingsley), intense deep conditioning mask left on with heat post-shampoo and then regular oil between washes.

Have you tried argan oil or a leave in conditioner. I've heard of using olive oil or fresh avocado, then wrapping your head in cling film and keep it on for an hour.

What is your natural colour? The pic doesn't look dark or grey at all. Which demi are you using? I'm at least 60% grey, likely more, and use casting colours semi. I buy a much lighter colour than I want though.

Ooh I might have to check this out.

I currently use Mane 'n Tail which is another one that was originally intended for horses

Natural colour is lighy grey at front , salt n pepper middle and dark at back !

ive ordered some k18 and will look into other suggestions! Thanks everyone.

DSD9472 am using e salon demi ( on lime )

Natural colour is lighy grey at front , salt n pepper middle and dark at back

I meant, what was your natural colour before going grey? You say dark at the back, but do you mean dark brown, black, dark blonde? Has it been bleached? Seems odd that its going to the orange colour if not bleached before. I was thinking your natural colour must be a dark strawberry blonde/red 🤔

Same menopausal hair here. I just did a buzz cut and I have to say, I love it. I don’t know that I will keep it like this but at least for a while I am not worrying about colour, dryness, or anything.

DSD9472 my natural colour was a very warm blond like strawberry blond before i went grey .
now that i am grey it is very pale grey round face - mid grey on top- then a dark steele grey at the back .

bridgetreilly sounds brilliant - i had a no 1 back in the late 80s!

No its not bleached - but in parts the hair is almost white so maybe thats why .

Re getting rid of the colour- if ai use demi s that will mean i can grow the permanent colour out .. do the roots wirh demi- then when the demi is all the way thro the hair - i cd let it fade to reveal the grey? !

When I stopped dyeing my hair, I switched to a silver shampoo and conditioner. That really helped brighten the grey into silver. I also started to wear bright/bold lipsticks and a soft light coloured eyeshadow to give my face more colour. It helped me get used to the transition.
Kevin Murphy makes a terrific silver shampoo and conditioner- it’s also very gentle. Briogeo make a great oat leave- in conditioner.

Forgot to mention Cowboy Magic also do a detangler which is great for shine and silkiness after wash and conditioning.
It all smells gorgeous too.

learieonthewildmoor thank you - I would love the hair to be more silver - the roots - but i have all this copper/ red that i dont know what to do with ! See pic .

My hairdresser put a toner through mine that turned it all a very light gold blonde. Can you hairdresser do a toner?
I used a very rich conditioner for a few weeks and the started the purple s&c.
I use a super gentle oat based one now it’s mostly silver now.