To get a boob job or not?

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Debating on a boob job, to get bigger and firmer boobs. Currently have teabag small boobs. Has anyone had a boob job.. If so was it worth it? Having never had large boobs not sure if I would like how they feel. Never liked the size of my boobs and effects my confidence..

You absolutely can't spot them all a mile off. It's pretty obvious on the Instagram influencers in bikinis who go too big and are otherwise very skinny, but there are many many everyday women getting around looking perfectly normal with them.

In the two long term relationships I've had since getting surgery, I eventually admitted I had implants (when they were raving about how amazing my breasts look) and they were both shocked. At that point they'd both been as up close and personal with a set of breasts as anyone could be, multiple times, and they had no idea.

As I said upthread, I am having trouble with mine now but for many many years they were perfectly lovely breasts which looked, felt and worked fine.

I have small breasts. Men always surprise me with their latitudinarian attitude to breasts. I'm sure there are some that don't like small breasts (and vice versa) but the majority seem to like everything.

Except for fake boobs. Some men are better than others at telling from pictures, but they almost all seem to hate fake boobs when they touch them. I'm sure women who like touching boobs feel the same.

Maybe try wearing a ridiculously padded bra for a few days and see how not only the world reacts to that, but how you feel about it. I don't even like the feeling of the fake foam material as my hands brush against it, so I wear unpadded or only very very lightly padded bras. And, as I say, I am meagrely endowed.

I find it so interesting that so many people think they're "vile" and "can be spotted a mile off". I've had mine done for 5 years and not a single person knows or has ever even noticed, other than my husband (obviously! Haha!)

Like you OP, I had "teabag" boobs. The surgery gave me breasts that I believe I should have been born with to line up with the size and shape of my body.

In my experience, when fake boobs look bad it's usually due to looking disproportionate and cartoonish.

The place I went to was able to digitally show me at the consultation what mine would look like which I found really helpful!

I think am definately going to leave it, done some research and at end of the day I just don't fancy putting myself through the surgery. I'll just need to look into fancy bras instead. Plus I do think I'd look strange with big boobs as am very petite and thin

I agree. People just aren't that observant in general. Genuinely hardly anyone noticed mine, even in my own family. I got comments that I'd lost weight etc. if they did notice, then they certainly didn't make it obvious.
The fact I had very pear shape previously and got implants that balanced my shape rather than made me look like I had big hooters, Def helped, but I also dress normally and don't accentuate them

I can't recommend getting them enough. I had mine done at 41 and have never looked back. I suffered with very low esteem all of my life and having had the boobs for nearly 2 years now I've seen a great improvement in my body confidence. I went private and researched a lot. Get recommendations from other people in your area too as there's no substitute for that. They will go over the options and any complications and give you stats to inform your decision.

If I'm honest the only negative is one friend deciding that she and I are now suddenly very different because of my surgery. She has it in her head that because I've had it done I'm now fake and only care about my appearance, which isn't the case. As I said above it's actually enabled me to worry less about my weight, for example, because they fit my broad shoulders so clothes hang better and small gains in weight are far less noticeable. The temptation for women to be bitchy about you afterwards seems to be pretty high and that side of things can cause anxiety - I've been very open about having them though, so maybe err on the side of caution sharing the news with friends who might also be insecure about their bodies who could bitch.

@RinklyRomaine Why does it bother you so much if she wants to look a certain way though? I bet she doesn't comment or judge you for how you look. This kind of attitude only seems to go one way. As for having a daughter and worrying what she would "take from it" I can assure you children understand body shaming, such as your comment, far better these days.

Personally i always advocate natural is better, that said everyone has different points,

Um, I'm not sure where you got the idea I'm desperately bothered? Being sad for a woman I care for being so affected by her perfectly lovely body not looking like a particular fashion is not the same as body shaming. Nor is pointing out that extreme body modification for the sake of a current 'look' might not be totally healthy. I don't think she, or you, is 'fake', I'd just like to see women not having their self esteem tied up in the size of their breasts.

@RinklyRomaine that's nice for you but obviously not what your friend chose. Telling everyone she looks like a Love Island contestant is bitchy and not a friendly thing to say about someone. You were bothered enough to post about it in a negative way to strangers so you clearly don't respect her right to do what she wants with her own body.

During pregnancy I went from a happy 36A to a 40 DD !! It was hideous, I’m only 5’3”. They were heavy, I got very sweaty and had to sleep in a bra, also the straps were pretty wide and dug in. I remember weighing them on the kitchen scales, my areoles were enormous 😠

post pregnancy they went back to normal, later I lost some weight and they got smaller. But after having mahoosive knockers during pregnancy I was happy for them to be smaller.

Fast forward again to the menopause and the buggers have gone up two cup sizes 🤦‍♀️ 😫. Your body is changing all the time, I wouldn’t mess.

I ended up having an emergency section and then a post operation infection, the scarring is awful, lumpy and uneven. Infections can happen quite easily no matter how careful you are. After that experience I would never have surgery unless it was absolutely necessary.

Because that’s what men want and women want to be desirable. Nobody would want implants if they didn’t think men thought larger boobs were sexy.

It’s an expensive and dangerous way to conform to the standards of men.

I would read / watch stories of women that had to get them removed and regret the whole thing.

I’d never encourage anyone to get surgery, but it is very rare for a healthy young person (even for an older person) to die on the operating table.

True, but it’s natural for women to want to be sexy/desirable, no woman just wants to be settled for.

If you want them, go to a proper plastic surgeon, not a cosmetic clinic. BUPA Is your best best as they will be a proper surgeon.

It’s very easy for others to say that. We live in a culture where large boobs are endlessly praised and drooled over, and small ones are ridiculed, by men. Polite and educated men might not say these things, but most probably think it.

It is what it is.

It affects women’s confidence because they know that most men prefer larger breasts, and they want to look good, not just be settled for. Our confidence is mediated by what men find desirable. There’s no use pretending otherwise.

Spend the money on some therapy and work on your self esteem.

Our bodies are instruments not ornaments. They do amazing things every day just so we can live, see, hear, walk and be! They do not need to look a certain way.

No one is going to be saying once you pass away “Gosh I’ll miss her great tits.” They’ll be talking about how kind you were and remembering great memories of you together.

This is all very nice, and it is true that our bodies are not ornements….but that doesn’t change the fact that physical attraction still exists, and women still want to be found attractive by men (or the subsection of men that they like/their br or DH). No man will say, ‘she’s a really nice person but her looks and figure are horrible… yeah, I want to sleep with her’.

You’re also used the term ´great tits’ by which you mean ´big’.

This thread is from 2023!

As someone with a natural HH cup size, I have a love/hate relationship with mine. I'm lucky that they aren't causing me any back problems, though this might change as I get older. I know a lot of women would love to have boobs as big as mine. But I hate having to buy more expensive bras online, since they don't do my size on the high street. I can't wear shirts as they gape in an awkward place. And like a PP, they are heavy! I haven't ruled out having a reduction one day. I don't have kids, and I'm 38 now so probably won't. I dread to think what they might be like if I ever got pregnant! If you do decide to have them enlarged, I'd advise not to go too big.

I work in operating theatres and I know some lovely plastic surgeons who most likely also do cosmetic work (there is a difference between plastic and cosmetic surgery), so if I ever did decide to go ahead with a reduction I already know which surgeon I'd get in touch with!

@MirrorMirror1247 are you slim or a petite frame with HH though? Sometimes a very big cup size on a smaller frame can cause back pain, so I’m told (id have no clue firsthand as I’m only a 30B, but get tiny implants next year).

I'm around average, 5' 5 and around a size 14. Band size is 34. I can see how a larger size on a petite frame could cause problems.

Ha!