Gender Non-Conforming wardrobe...but still aesthetic?

[EverybodyJumpsuit]

I need a thread of things that fit this style-

Two years ago I decided never to wear a dress or skirt again, which has actually been delightful. Also heels. IN THE BIN.

I'm very gender non-confirming, but havent translated that well into my clothes, and so had ended up super alienated from a lot of fashion, since huge amounts seems to be to be about playing up a version of woman-hood that I just don't belong in (looking at you instagram shiny face tit pout land). I want to look like the opposite of a Kardashian or one of the selling sunset broads.

For years I've lived in black mom jeans, boxy tees and mens jumpers, brogues, DM's, trainers, which is fine but very boring. But I actually love extreme dressing- Tilda Swinton and Roisin Murphy came up on another thread.

The brief I had was - un-approachable art gallery owner, does ju-jitsu, plays bass in a band. I'm gonna add, has MANY lovers (probably pansexual haha), probably speaks french and ancient egyption. Could defo be played by Tilda S. Pinch of Blake Lively in A Simple Favour...Jil Sander, Alexander McQueen...

Think massive brightly coloured floor length coats, big silhouette, Sharp masculine tailoring, volume in strange places, structure, architectural things, bold colour... nothing clingy or sweet.

I would love to know if anyone else likes this style, who they follow / style icons are for this, and what would this stye be called?

What about different styles of shirts? I've seen dramatic ones in both male and female sections and I always think they look very androgenous. Or colorful boiler suits? They seem to be having a moment.

I don’t understand why wearing a dress would make me seem weak? I love grown up art school style. I wear a dress some days - what you’d call feminine and weak - others I wear trousers and shirt - always Dr Martens.

Check out Lucy and Yak trousers for a nice shape. I also like their Ragan jumpsuits with a roll neck under and my Docs.

I think this might be the sort of look the OP is after, although I'm puzzled what's "gender non conforming" about it.

Max Mara camel wide legged trousers
Max Mara Jacquard blazer
Max Mara biker jacket
Max Mara wide grey trousers

Some Instagram accounts of stylish women that I follow.

The Elegant Stylist
My Style is my Brand
Polychrom3

I don’t wear “figure hugging” dresses, heels or clothes that make me “ weak or feminine “.
I only went to ASOS website once a few years ago looking for a prom dress for DD.
It’s an interesting style you’ve described but it’s just a style, which you like and which suits you because of your colouring, shape, height, size and lifestyle, please don’t make a gender protest out of nothing. There are a lot of us out there who lives in jeans, don’t wear heels and sparkly dresses.

figure hugging clothes or things designed to make one look weak and feminine.
this just makes me think of Beyoncé who is not exactly weak!
apart from this one poorly choosen word, I do know what you mean OP, I love a slightly masculine/ androgynous/ butch look and think this sort of look can be GNC. In reality clothes are not ‘just clothes’. Maybe they should be, but they’re not. I would like more loose fitting suits in my life, nice brogues, button up shirts, ties and waistcoats. Go to Pinterest is my advice.

Amazing how insulting and casually misogynistic you can be with just a few ill chosen words. We get it OP, you’re not like the rest of us weak and helpless females who opt for skirts. You’re special and far more interesting. 🙄

Oska?

Here's a couple of weak women in high heels and figure hugging dresses. Their politics are rubbish but weak? No.

Nicola Sturgeon
Kate Forbes
Kate Forbes 2

Some dark academia stuff might suit you also.

Hmm, there were several poorly chosen words.

Laska2Meryls suggested Oska- that's a good call. I like Oska and I like the Max Mara outfits I posted. Whilst I think they fit the brief , it's not actually a brief as out there/ original as the OP seems to think it is.

This.

I’m currently at an airport. Since I started reading this thread I have been watching what women are wearing. I’ve literally seen one woman in a dress and everyone else is wearing joggers or jeans and t shirt/ hoodie/ jumper. Unisex. No one is wearing make up either.

I love Fran, her clothes and her attitude! She does say in the documentary that it all comes from Saville Row, although I guess it’s possible to also do it on a budget?

Exactly. I am in London, and hardly anyone wears a dress. Everyone is wearing baggy, oversized trousers and hoodies with no makeup. Especially the young ones. I can't remember the last time I saw someone wearing heels.

Cathi Rae on Instagram might be your thing

The outfit in the last link is gorgeous

The outfit in the last link is gorgeous

The coat is, but the trousers are ridiculous. And they're definitely 'gendered' - I don't think I've ever seen a man modelling trousers puddled on the ground like that.

Why do people always say “gender non-conforming” when they just mean trousers. Seems to me if you were really non conforming that you’d wear a range of clothes. Sometimes I wear loose boyfriend style jeans, oversized band t-shirts etc, sometimes I wear dresses and heels. There’s plenty of options out there, no need to try so hard to be different.

This all seems very strange and regressive to me. You are definitely overthinking this OP. When I was a teenager all my male friends wore shedloads of makeup and kept Elnett in business, my female friends mostly had short hair and lived in Docs and large overcoats. We wore whatever we liked on any given day and didn’t question the “gender”of clothing.
Now I am in my fifties, most of the women I know don’t wear dresses day to day. This isn’t “gender neutral”, they are just clothes ! Clothes that work on a woman’s body vary according to individual shape, lifestyle and sensibility.
Lots of women don’t wear heels, or body con dresses.
I agree with the above comment on internalised misogyny. Wear what you enjoy wearing, the end.

I’d also call this androgynous styling and immediately think of Kristen Stewart, Cara Delevigne and Harry Styles

It's a standard Harry Styles look

The clothes from High are amazing and also completely out of my budget 😥

Just wear what you like instead of dressing it up with wordy statements about yourself because you want to appear intellectually superior to women who wear skirts and dresses.

Ah great news, loads of stuff from High on Vestiaire.

Bad bad news for my bank balance.