Interesting conversation so I will add some random ruminations. I’ve been on a bit of a body positivity journey for the last decade. Well post-meno, I’ve changed from a size 24 to a sturdy 10. I think what I learned in that process that I was never in a million years going to lose weight while I hated my body. That just wasn’t helping my motivation or the somewhat complex reasons for being so large in the first place. So I. 2015 I decided I would spend a year just focusing on amicable coexistence with what was and then review things. So I got nice things that fitted me (and in plus size that really is hard, sadly, even second hand). I never left the house without at a minimum, mascara, perfume and earrings. As I started to feel less hateful towards my poor body, I gradually started to treat it better with regards to what I ate and how I moved. I’m not going to lie and say that was enough for weight loss - it wasn’t, that took a lot of effort and tbh still does. But I stopped talking and thinking about the bits I didn’t like (mostly all of it at that stage!) and started to focus on what those bits needed - soft natural fabrics, drape, ease etc. and THEN I started to think about what would pull a look together. Now I’ve reached a stage where I look at my body with interest rather than loathing. You don’t get that degree of weight loss, especially at my age, without it taking its toll but I am much better now at asking myself what it needs to feel and look good. With practice I’ve got better at looking at combinations of pieces and accessories and checking in with myself - do I FEEL how I need to feel today. If not, off it comes. My focus is on health, functionality, ease with myself. If I get that right, the rest sort of flows. One of my happiest moments was when I reached the point where places like Hush and Toast fitted me and I think Toast especially makes clothes that just work for larger bodies. It’s not about concealment or flatter, it was for me about construction, fit, drape, comfort, elegance. No butterflies, flounces or infantilisation there. It bothers me that they seem to be edging sizing downwards as, while not truly size inclusive, they were one of the few places women with bigger bodies could find good quality clothing.