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How do I cover my shoulders for church wedding?

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RedheadInARush · 22/07/2023 03:37

Guest at smart wedding next month.

Sold a kidney and invested in this beauty.
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What cover-up would best suit it for the (very conservative, I'm warned) church part?

Maximum budget £40. Size 12.

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grass321 · 22/07/2023 16:13

Whether you agree or not, it's disrespectful to go into someone else's place of worship and stick a metaphorical finger up to their customs. Would you wear a tshirt with a pig on it in a mosque or a synagogue?

I can't think of a single C of E church I've been into where it would be seen as disrespectful to wear that dress with your shoulders uncovered.
And my parents are regular church attenders so I've been into my fair share of churches over the years.

Particularly for occasions like weddings and christenings where you have lots of guests.

grass321 · 22/07/2023 16:13

Oops sorry I missed the Greek Orthodox part, apologies.

noglow · 22/07/2023 16:15

TrueScrumptious · 22/07/2023 15:51

Sleeved version is lovely.

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I think the sleeved version looks awful

noglow · 22/07/2023 16:16

loislovesstewie · 22/07/2023 14:52

Please could people read the OPs posts, it's Greek Orthodox and she has been advised that shoulders need to be covered.

Does it even really matter? OP has asked for advice on covering her shoulders and the amount of people dismissing this and saying oh don't bother is ridiculous. She wants to.

noglow · 22/07/2023 16:17

Isthisreallyok · 22/07/2023 13:56

Totally off topic (kinda) but just saw the title…are you sure you need to cover your shoulders? I’ve been to many church weddings and am practising RC myself and have never had to cover shoulders in church…most people don’t if it’s a hot day. The only time I’ve been asked to cover up if on holiday to Greece years ago when we were touring a Greek Orthodox monastery!

Does it matter? She wants to

Beachhutnut · 22/07/2023 16:19

What type of church is it op and in what bit of the world? That would be absolutely fine in Catholic churches in the UK, not sure about other denominations

noglow · 22/07/2023 16:21

Beachhutnut · 22/07/2023 16:19

What type of church is it op and in what bit of the world? That would be absolutely fine in Catholic churches in the UK, not sure about other denominations

OP hasn't asked if it's ok not to cover her shoulders. She's asked for ideas on how to cover them.

Guiltyfeethavegotnorhythm0 · 22/07/2023 16:26

Kdubs1981 · 22/07/2023 08:23

It's simple human decency to respect someone's religious beliefs in their place of worship. Especially at a wedding. I say this as an a atheist

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Why are people getting stroppy about dress codes on a thread on S&B . Even the armed forces had dress codes for functions . If folk don't like dress codes, they can stay away . What is wrong with some people ?

bunnybunnybunnybunny · 22/07/2023 16:37

A pashmina/shawl/wrap, whatever you want to call it will be absolutely perfect for the OP to cover her shoulders with. It is also the only real option. Why should she spend £40 on a blazer she doesn't need, want or will probably never wear again?

As for the bolero/shrug suggestions. Just no. They are an item of clothing that will never be chic or stylish, as evidenced by all those linked to.

doorstopper123 · 22/07/2023 16:39

Do not get that awful blue granny cardy. That's hideous

Maireas · 22/07/2023 16:40

doorstopper123 · 22/07/2023 16:39

Do not get that awful blue granny cardy. That's hideous

What's a granny cardy?

Mummyoflittledragon · 22/07/2023 17:08

TrueScrumptious · 22/07/2023 16:07

Oh, gosh, really? It’s a lot of money, then.

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Flagship store in Chelsea. Made in China.

loislovesstewie · 22/07/2023 17:31

Beachhutnut · 22/07/2023 16:19

What type of church is it op and in what bit of the world? That would be absolutely fine in Catholic churches in the UK, not sure about other denominations

She's said; Greek Orthodox and she has been given guidance on what to wear in the church.

icelolly12 · 22/07/2023 17:49

Now I'm worrying over whether I need to cover my shoulders at the weddings i'm going to and have I ever offended anyone in the past. Genuinely didn't know this was a thing

NatashaDancing · 22/07/2023 18:39

noglow · 22/07/2023 16:15

I think the sleeved version looks awful

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Well it's irrelevant what it's like as OP has already bought the sleeveless version.

noglow · 22/07/2023 18:55

NatashaDancing · 22/07/2023 18:39

Well it's irrelevant what it's like as OP has already bought the sleeveless version.

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I know I was answering people who were telling her to exchange it

NatashaDancing · 22/07/2023 19:00

noglow · 22/07/2023 18:55

I quite like that look

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But OP has bought an expensive dress to wear to a wedding. Those options hide half of it, including the fact it's a dress. That's worse than a blazer.

If she wants to take it off it's going to be taken over her head. Does anyone want to pull a jumper over their head and hair at a wedding?

noglow · 22/07/2023 19:01

NatashaDancing · 22/07/2023 19:00

But OP has bought an expensive dress to wear to a wedding. Those options hide half of it, including the fact it's a dress. That's worse than a blazer.

If she wants to take it off it's going to be taken over her head. Does anyone want to pull a jumper over their head and hair at a wedding?

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That's a VERY good point. Ignore me OP @NatashaDancing is far more clued up.

bettyjane · 22/07/2023 19:11

It is a beautiful dress but to be respectful for the ceremony it does need to be covered, and as others have suggested that includes cleavage too. I wouldn’t mind taking it off over my head, and personally like the look it gives with the dress so I was just putting it out there as an alternative suggestion for the OP of course she may well decide it’s not right for her but useful to have a different idea to look it :)

Tinkietot · 22/07/2023 20:09

WhatWillIWear · 22/07/2023 08:24

@Tinkietot I’m not sure the primary purpose of the internet is to ensure that you personally are never offended by someone else’s opinion on an item of clothing.

This is a discussion forum. Part of any discussion is No, I disagree with your opinion, for this reason. Any poster here is entirely free to say I disagree with that suggestion because it will look too cheap.

If such mild exchanges offend you, MN might not be a place you feel comfortable.

100% but I still stand by if you wouldn’t say it someone’s face in real life you wouldn’t shouldn’t put it on here.

Telling someone their suggestion is cheap is rude

YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 22/07/2023 20:21

silverbuckle · 22/07/2023 14:58

If it is just for the church bit, I'd go for something I could quickly put on and take off as soon as church is over and probably not worry too much about the overall look. For your budget something like this might work ?

https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/B095WCF1Z8/ref=asc_df_B095SW68541689849000000/?creative=22374&creativeASIN=B095SW6854&linkCode=df0&tag=httpwwwshopst-21&ascsubtag=6475219908&th=1

It's a beautiful dress so covering it up feels like it is always going to be a compromise !

Do not buy anything that looks like this.

noglow · 22/07/2023 20:25

Tinkietot · 22/07/2023 20:09

100% but I still stand by if you wouldn’t say it someone’s face in real life you wouldn’t shouldn’t put it on here.

Telling someone their suggestion is cheap is rude

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But it is helpful to the OP who is the one who is needing help

PegasusReturns · 22/07/2023 20:37

Ooh get you - educating us on Rixo. I won't bother asking if you meant to be so patronising as clearly you did

What on earth are you talking about?! You seem to be taking my comments bizarrely to heart Confused