What to wear on a night out- no confidence or fashion sense!

[SimonsCow]

cocktail bar, clubbing etc.

it’s a hen do. I am in my 40s. Tired mum type. Just want to not look it! Also really don’t think I can handle heels so what the hell do I wear on my feet? Have some flatform sandals but is that too dressed down!?

I wonder what that short dress would look like if it had leggings or very tight skinny jeans underneath, would it look too much like a dress over jeans?

Why not jump on Vinted and order a few options, you'll get a bargain or two and have something Sustainable and "New for you"?

Why not? There isn't a dress code for hen do's. If someone likes a dress and feels good in it, then that's what matters. Not suggesting this specific dress for the OP, but just saying there isn't a narrow definition of what you should wear.

I'd wear something like this with some a pair of gold sandals I have that are a bit like these

https://www.apricotonline.co.uk/tie-front-jumpsuit/Js158207-Navy.html

https://www.monsoon.co.uk/metallic-twist-knot-platform-heels-5427051237.html

As you’re small and thin you’d fit clothes for teens e.g. Urban Outfitters. They have an up to 75% sale at the moment.
https://www.urbanoutfitters.com/en-gb/shop/uo-dana-tiered-midi-dress

What about this

https://prettykittyfashion.co.uk/products/black-audrey-style-swing-dress?variant=39369486008369&currency=GBP&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIhOz7_oT4_wIVTJnVCh1OUwiqEAQYFCABEgK7WPD_BwE

or this

https://www.superdry.com/womens/dresses/details/243266/back-detail-jersey-midi-dress-black

With trainers or flat sandals and some nice earrings

If you don’t like heels, wedge espadrilles would be a good compromise. They’re the only way I can achieve height as I don’t like wearing heels.

I'm late 30s.

When I go clubbing, which is quite regularly, I wear either:

Black wet look leggings with cami top and blazer, and white trainers

Black T-shirt dress (fairly short) with fishnets and black chunky boots

Pink wrap leopard print dress with boots

Skinny jeans, band T-shirt and trainers

Midi dress but fitted with side split and trainers or boots

Yes, all of that is a good look for this age group

https://www.laredoute.co.uk/ppdp/prod-350303497.aspx#searchkeyword=black%20wedge%20sandals&shoppingtool=serp

If you know where you're going, check the social media of the club/night and see what people are wearing to get an idea of what style to go for.

That's hilarious! My mum's got a dressing gown a bit like that 😂

Turned up mom jeans with sandals would like great if you have a funky on Trend top. I like a vintage shirt tied at the front or a cropped tee. Also works well with tucked white over size blouse.

Mom jeans and chunky converse look good too, you could wear them with a bodysuit?

The black and white dress you have would look good with DM or converse/vans or chunky sandals.

Have a look on Pinterest and think about what you have tucked away.

They both look fine to me for a night out.

Thank you! Good to know that trainers etc are acceptable and I don’t need to be all dolled up!

The crucial info is which city, or if London which neighbourhood

What might look dowdy in Liverpool might look wildly overdressed in Manchester for eg.

What venues, if you know?

I would go for "fun pants and a vest" which is the new "jeans and a nice top" (which is deffo coming back) with a blazer . Footwear city dependent.

I’m very confused why nobody’s mentioning jumpsuits? Are they over? They are way more in a good way casual looking yet dressy, than a dress, no?

yy or a co-ord

Yes! Bloody love co ords! So much less complicated in the loos on a hen do than a jumpsuit. I like your style IsItThough

I'd go blazer and tailored shorts, with a cami or bodysuit.
Smart yet trendy and would go with flat forms and elongate your legs too.
You could also rewear the blazer loads

I mentioned a jumpsuit. I am not sure I know what a co-ord is. Is it matching top and trousers?

Firstly OP where are you getting all those petite dresses from???

Secondly, I'm a similar age and went to a hen do recently. I was pleasantly surprised to find trainers, jeans/leggings and blazers were everywhere. No more high heels for me.

What about this, it’s in your budget

Thank you but I would say this is about as unsuitable for clubbing as the pink tent dress

Petite dresses? I have amassed quite a collection of dresses over the years (mostly pre-kids which is why hardly any are in fashion!). I don’t think many of them are from petite ranges. I tend to buy dresses that are meant to be very short on taller people but sit above the knee on me, or midis that are more like maxis on me: