How to feel proud of being a brunette?

[Friendsabouttown]

I know that sounds ridiculous but I have a group of friends. 6 out of 7 are natural brunettes but have bleached / platinum hair.

I did too until I got tired of the upkeep and damage it causes. I started getting my hair highlighted years ago because my skin is very pale and my eyes are very light - brighter hair made me sparkle.

Fast forward to today. I've let my extremely dark roots grow out and now I'm the only brunette in the group. It has taken a LONG time to get used to looking so different and I constantly hear things like

"Omg my hair is SO blonde I love it. So glad I don't have dull brown hair"

"I can afford to get my hair done every 4 weeks. I'm so lucky I can maintain my blonde" - then a quick pitiful glance at me.

"Look as us bunch of blondes" - cue selfie without me included.

The list goes on and on. I never receive a compliment and the blondeness between the rest seems to be competitive 😂 the whiter the better (I can't believe I am friends with people that shallow but I am, I love them and all their flaws!)

I'm just really struggling with being a brunette. I was doing the school run last week and noticed everyone was blonde! (Mostly brassy blonde.... but still!)

Anyone experienced similar or am I just surrounded by weird people?

Any makeup tips for brunettes with paler skin?

Change your friends. Problem solved.

If I imagine any of those women I've just listed with blonde hair, there's not a single one who I think would look better than she does brunette. That's not to say that brunette is better than blonde - all hair colours can be gorgeous - I just think natural brunettes often look loveliest working with their natural colouring.

This. Get better friends.

My friends and I don't talk about our hair colours. We have more interesting things to discuss.

Ask Salma Hayek and Gal Gadot if they feel proud and any tips 😅

They sound ridiculously shallow and insecure.Next time they start making the stupid comments about how great it is being blonde I would be matching them with comments about how great it is being natural / not feeling you have to fake your looks / how healthy your hair feels / how glossy it is now you’re not doing all that terrible damage to it.

This is one of the strangest things I have ever heard! Im sure your hair is lovely.

This can't be genuine 🤭

I'll have to Google who Gal Gadot is. Never heard of them!

I wish it wasn't true 😂 its just representative of my sad life. The realisation that my friends aren't actually friends.

Dear Lord, who are these shallow, "brassy" people you associate with? I have been a brunette for a very long time - I never knew I was supposed to have a problem with it! Think of some gorgeous, well-known brunettes (Princess of Wales?) and be grateful that you are lucky enough to have beautiful brown hair.

What odd friends you have, OP 😂

I'm not going to denounce blonde hair, I've got honey blonde hair, but my friends have hair od all different colours, and it's all beautiful!

They might be fun to hang out with but I'd think about making a couple of better friends with individual people rather than a group, I often find groups tricky and also if you need to rely on someone, they don't sound the type.

The only reason to feel proud of being blonde is if you're a natural blonde

Before everyone went blonde - it was a lovely mixed group with various hobbies and interests

We're supposed to believe they all went blonde and lost their personalities over night?

Poor you, never heard of a brassy blonde
Gal Gadot it the modern version of wonder woman, wonder woman wouldn't look good as a brassy blonde 😂

Huh.

I prefer dark hair to blonde and red hair is my favourite of all. In my late fifties, I still have most of my natural chestnut with auburn highlights hair with just a few white strands at the front. It is very thick and healthy. also have extremely fair skin and it all goes together somehow. My daughter has beautiful chocolate brown hair and fair skin. What is the fuss about blonde? How shallow your friends are.

I think your friends are odd, they actually say that? I mean what’s so great about being blonde? Especially if you have to dye it blonde and it dries your hair out. I went lighter last year from brunette and I really don’t suit it, I look more severe and just weird. My hair is healthy, shiny and long doesn’t need dyed to keep the colour up so the condition is good. I’m not sure but you need new friends

I'm glad you love some but they seem ridiculous. Don't let their shallow view of the world influence the way you see yourself. I much prefer brown hair and I think people generally look better with their natural hair colour. So much easier too!

"Omg my hair is SO blonde I love it. So glad I don't have dull brown hair"

Said no natural blonde ever 😂😂😂.

Your friends sound scary, so inane, how can you stand it?

Ditch them and get a life.

What do you actually say when they look at you like shit they scraped off their show for not following their bleach blonde sheep crew?

No, I said it happened during Covid. Lots of personalities changed after the lockdowns. That's not new information. HTH 😊

The next comment about maintaining their blondness, I would be replying “it’s so much easier to disguise the greys if you go blonde isn’t it? I’m lucky that I’m naturally brunette, maybe the grey will catch up with me when I’m your age and I’ll have to go blonde too”. Weirdos.

Wow the tone of this thread has changed somewhat. Thanks for all the lovely help and advice.

Off I go to "get a life" 👋

No, I said it happened during Covid. Lots of personalities changed after the lockdowns. That's not new information. HTH

Sure, Covid turned large swathes of women into vain, boring, bottle blondes that talk about nothing but their hair to shame their brunette friends. Seems plausible.

This. So much this.

They don't sound like very interesting people to hang about with OP. That sort of "girl gang" stuff is usually left behind at school.