Page 5 | Sometimes I feel like crap because I can't afford salon prices

secretsmiler50 · 2023-05-12T17:23:14+00:00

I realise it's first world problems in comparison to the cost of living crisis currently, but there are times I feel crap about the fact I can't afford beauty treatments and stuff like fillers and botox when so many people I know are having it done. I take excellent care of my skin and body at home but sometimes just kinda wish i could afford the more popular treatments that everyone raves about . I realise I'm probably just being silly and it's a case of fomo, but does anyone else relate and what are some of the things you do to feel good about yourself?

Smineusername · 13/05/2023 10:00

I second the advice to check out your local FE college - I'm a teacher at one and they charge minimal prices (£7 for a cut and blowdry) as well as offering the full range of beauty treatments. The finished product is generally great quality but you do have to leave a bit more time than usual as it can take a while when they're learning. They are earning less than minimum wage so don't forget to tip!

Also if there is a salon you like call them and ask if they do training days - for years I got cut price haircuts and colour from a very expensive salon. Very closely supervised by senior staff and as before can take a bit longer, but the results were great.

I've been very low key for most of my life and was a bit snobby about beauty treatments but I've recently started getting my nails done and absolutely love it. It's nice to treat yourself and you can do it on a low budget.

RudsyFarmer · 13/05/2023 10:00

I should have added … do some preventative stuff now. Wear 50+ SPF daily. Not just on your face. On your neck, chest and hands too. That will massively help with skin ageing down the line.

Undethetree · 13/05/2023 10:18

I think im pretty vain and spend far too much time and money buying clothes and make up so I do sort of understand what you mean. But I draw the line at salon-stuff (except for hair). I have no idea how anyone has the time and the headspace keep up with all the bloody appointments tbh. I prefer the freedom to concentrate on other things that frankly, are more fulfilling and less anxiety inducing.

I am very lucky. My other half has pleaded with me not to start visiting salons for anything other than hair because he says I'm fine to age naturally, as will he. I believe my friends won't give a shit about my wrinkles and if they do....frankly they are not the friends I thought they were and I'll find new ones, not start injecting myself.

It's so sad that this is all a part of life isn't it OP? But it's always optional, just own your decisions.

krill · 13/05/2023 10:34

blahblahblah1654 · 13/05/2023 09:53

Botox and fillers look horrible, despite people saying theirs is done well. You always look your age, with fillers and Botox. Nothing wrong with looking your age not all pumped up and taut.

Fillers and Botox can be undetectable if done well.

Bad work is 'horrible' and noticeable. Botox, for example, personally I can instantly spot just by skin texture if they've had the frozen look to eradicate all forehead wrinkles.

As I said before, I don't think they make people look much younger, and people often expect too much from them, but they can subtly enhance and make a person look fresher and less tired'.

I would only judge the clinician for obvious, bad work.

krill · 13/05/2023 10:37

They can chase anti ageing treatments as far down the road as they want but one day you wake up, look at your hands and realise there’s not a damn thing you can do about it.

The hands are often neglected. Daily moisturiser!

You can also get filler and rejuvenation injections in your hands, but I don't think that will appeal to most.

QueefQueen80s · 13/05/2023 13:18

blahblahblah1654 · 13/05/2023 09:53

Botox and fillers look horrible, despite people saying theirs is done well. You always look your age, with fillers and Botox. Nothing wrong with looking your age not all pumped up and taut.

I don't think people believe they look younger, that's impossible. They look their age, but with botox. I get it to look less grumpy and tired all the time. NOT to look younger.

luckylavender · 13/05/2023 13:21

CharlotteRumpling · 12/05/2023 18:43

I can afford both Botox and filler, and am never getting them done. Not ' everyone' gets them.

Agree with this. I don't have any friends who have ever had such work done. I'm 61, could afford it. Love clothes, makeup etc.

70isaLimitNotaTarget · 13/05/2023 13:35

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 12/05/2023 23:31

I also don’t want Botox at my dental surgery!

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I went to a private dental surgery for a consulttion, in the Health Questionaire there were questions about "Are you happy with your face / worried about frown lines/ 11s " type questions .

They did offer Botox /fillers .
I just answered that yes I'm happy and no don't want xyz so the end f that (but secretly feeling miffed that they hadn't even seen my haggard old 56 yo face and they were planting these seeds of doubt )

Though if I was going to fill my face with toxin and collagen, I'd pick a dental surgeon over a beautician to do so .
But I'm not .

krill · 13/05/2023 13:40

I was going to fill my face with toxin and collagen, I'd pick a dental surgeon over a beautician to do so

I know you're not interested, but more ideal would be someone medically qualified who does this full time, and has an eye for the aesthetics, as there is an art to it also. So not a dentist or doctor just doing it as a side earner. That wouldn't inspire confidence either, though it's obviously better than a beautician.

IceStationHorse · 13/05/2023 18:19

YouNeverSeeTheRealMe · 13/05/2023 09:18

Exactly. Many of us are struggling to pay bills and buy groceries

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Yes and so what? Other people have to dress in sackcloth because of that? Maybe some people have worked harder or taken more risks or made different decisions in life to have the cash to spend on these things? Maybe these people deposit groceries into food banks every time they shop?

IceStationHorse · 13/05/2023 18:26

No one drags you off the street and criticises your face and says you need Botox. A person makes a decision to consult a doctor ( hopefully) and he hands you a mirror and says to you "tell me what you are unhappy about". The doc can then suggest things that can help. That is a person's choice just the same as someone else may choose to show every line on their face.

QueefQueen80s · 14/05/2023 13:01

krill · 13/05/2023 13:40

I was going to fill my face with toxin and collagen, I'd pick a dental surgeon over a beautician to do so

I know you're not interested, but more ideal would be someone medically qualified who does this full time, and has an eye for the aesthetics, as there is an art to it also. So not a dentist or doctor just doing it as a side earner. That wouldn't inspire confidence either, though it's obviously better than a beautician.

Dentists are great because they have to learn about all the facial muscles and they have taken years to qualify. It might be a side gig but I'd trust them a hell of a lot more than a beautician who does it full time.

krill · 14/05/2023 15:16

Dentists are great because they have to learn about all the facial muscles and they have taken years to qualify. It might be a side gig but I'd trust them a hell of a lot more than a beautician who does it full time.

I agree preferable to the beautician but still not ideal. I want the medically qualified who does this as a full time job and/or does aesthetic surgery.

QueefQueen80s · 14/05/2023 15:19

krill · 14/05/2023 15:16

Dentists are great because they have to learn about all the facial muscles and they have taken years to qualify. It might be a side gig but I'd trust them a hell of a lot more than a beautician who does it full time.

I agree preferable to the beautician but still not ideal. I want the medically qualified who does this as a full time job and/or does aesthetic surgery.

You're right that would be even better!