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If you have no interest in style or beauty why post?

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TheDead · 18/02/2023 15:29

I ask this in all seriousness and not to start an argument but it occurred to me that pretty every post at the moment on S&B has several posters essentially saying 'who cares...wear what you like'.

And we all know that's true and actually exactly what does happen but I think S&B IS a place to talk about....well...style & beauty related things!

I don't see the point in opening a thread about 'what should I wear to x, y or z' to post 'no-one cares, wear what you like'

It's just not in the spirit!

I want to chat to fellow posters about all manner of trivial S&B things without being made feel I'm being trivial! My life is stressful & this is an escape at times.

Does anyone else feel the same or am I just feeling cranky?

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MissHavishamsMouldyOldCake · 21/02/2023 15:36

Well this thread has certainly descended into tediousness.

Ponderingwindow · 21/02/2023 15:40

People end up here from active or trending. Seeing posts like, “ I have to stop wearing something I love because it is out” or “am I allowed to wear” are annoying. They are entirely different than asking how to target a trend or how to find something.

DietrichandDiMaggio · 21/02/2023 19:21

Very few people are cool, whatever their age, although age is certainly not a barrier.

LoobyDop · 21/02/2023 20:00

Ah. Cam22 dislikes feminists. Cool.

LadyOfTheCanyon · 21/02/2023 20:09

LoobyDop · 21/02/2023 20:00

Ah. Cam22 dislikes feminists. Cool.

Yeah that took a turn.

MidnightMeltdown · 26/02/2023 11:06

SocksAndTheCity · 19/02/2023 15:15

Young, cool people generally don't want to wear what what women in their 30s, 40s and 50s are wearing, so as soon as these women start wearing it, it becomes uncool and 'mumsy'. Sad but true.

But cool people in their 30s, 40s and 50s also generally don't want to dress like teenagers? That's not sad, it's appropriate.

But then why do you get so many people on here who are so concerned about whether or not they are wearing the 'right' trainers?

It's seems utterly bizarre to me that a gown adult would even think about something like this. It's the kind of thing that I might have worried about when I was 14, but not now!

MidnightMeltdown · 26/02/2023 11:11

ImAvingOops · 20/02/2023 09:17

Re the trainers, what makes some cool and others frumpy?

The ones that the teens are wearing are apparently cool - until their mum starts wearing them too! 😂

SocksAndTheCity · 26/02/2023 11:19

MidnightMeltdown · 26/02/2023 11:06

But then why do you get so many people on here who are so concerned about whether or not they are wearing the 'right' trainers?

It's seems utterly bizarre to me that a gown adult would even think about something like this. It's the kind of thing that I might have worried about when I was 14, but not now!

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I have no more idea than you, but then I also don't think the people asking are either 'cool' or wanting to dress like teenagers, are they?

I wear trainers for the gym and nipping to the supermarket (usually with a t-shirt and leggings), because they're comfortable and sensible. I had never heard of a 'veja' or a 'superga' before I saw this board, and I'm still not sure where I could pick either out of a lineup now - my current pair are Puma and came from the TK Maxx clearance.

I do wear Converse and different coloured Adidas, but I've worn them since about 1986 because they're comfortable and I like them (I was a teenager then). I also have some Fila ones which are exactly like a pair I had at school, and I like them because they don't slip in the wet, which is nothing to do with how they look and everything to do with not breaking my bloody neck on the tube station steps 😁

MidnightMeltdown · 26/02/2023 11:22

TheDead · 20/02/2023 07:43

@RampantIvy but do people actually sneer at people wearing frumpy trainers?

I'm on these boards a long time now under various usernames & what prompted me to start this post in the first place was observing a change in behaviour in the past 12 months or so.

Using the current trainers debate as a good example, there was a time when someone could post asking 'what's the latest thing in trainers & they would get lots of responses with people engaging with the question. This would sometimes include pictures of some outlandish catwalk version of whatever was being discussed & by and large the chat was interesting & amicable. You might get the odd poster who would suggest sketchers or the like but the overall thread would be a good chat about new trends in trainers (or whatever)

Now, someone asks what's new & almost instantly the thread derails with volumes of people who are not actually interested in the topic but come on to day stuff like 'oh how childish to even consider what you put on your feet', or 'since when are trainers a thing to wear' or 'who cares, wear what you like' etc etc and it's very dull.

People having a discussion about latest trends in any particular thing is not sneering at others who wear a different type. It's simply a chat, for those who are interested in the subject, about new styles / trends etc

And I asked a question about 7 pages ago - if you see a subject that you are not in the least bit interested in why would you post with no intention of adding anything of value to the discussion other than to make the people who are interested feel bad ?

So far not one person has come back to day why they do it but throughout even this thread we have example after example of people still doing it....

I think that part of the problem here is the conflation of fashion and style. These aren't necessarily the same thing. A lot of the trainer talk is about fashion trends

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TheDead · 26/02/2023 11:41

I don't disagree @MidnightMeltdown there is a conflation between style & fashion. But that was not what was at the heart of why I started that thread. It was the fact that someone wanted to ask what trainers were cool & plenty of plenty of people were happy to discuss until the thread attracted a plethora of posters declaring that considering trainers in any way was childish/ ridiculous/ not a 'thing'. And I wondered why they felt it was OK to come onto a thread & try to shut it down with their opinions.

Since then I have observed that there's a very small minority who will continually try to dominate discussions by making very definite proclamations. It's v tedious.

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SocksAndTheCity · 26/02/2023 11:54

I don't think that's anything to do with trainers specifically @TheDead . I suspect had the poster asked about coats, or belts, or lipstick or anything it would have been the same and that's because some people are cunts who just enjoy trying to make others feel small.

I'd also point out that 'cool' has nothing to with fashion, and IMO not that much to do with style either. Not many people are 'cool' and it's perfectly possibly that two people of similar height, size and build can wear identical outfits and yet one will look cool and the other (probably me) will look as if they slept in a skip Grin.

DietrichandDiMaggio · 26/02/2023 11:58

MidnightMeltdown · 26/02/2023 11:06

But then why do you get so many people on here who are so concerned about whether or not they are wearing the 'right' trainers?

It's seems utterly bizarre to me that a gown adult would even think about something like this. It's the kind of thing that I might have worried about when I was 14, but not now!

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Wanting to know what is on trend/cool/fashionable/the latest styles etc. doesn't mean what are teenagers wearing; it's what are cool/fashionable people wearing.

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TheDead · 26/02/2023 11:58

Again agreed @SocksAndTheCity the trainers point waw because it was a thread relevant at the time I started this thread & I was asking a wider question - if you have no iinteresting the subject being discussed why insert yourself simply to belittle those who do have an interest.

And v interestingly not one of the people who posted on the trainers thread to opine that trainers were awful etc ever came on here to sat why they felt it was OK to do that....

I see them still at it on other threads...

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TheDead · 26/02/2023 11:59

Sorry loads of typos. Posting on my phone & stupid auto correct

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EllaPaella · 26/02/2023 13:26

TheDead · 26/02/2023 11:41

I don't disagree @MidnightMeltdown there is a conflation between style & fashion. But that was not what was at the heart of why I started that thread. It was the fact that someone wanted to ask what trainers were cool & plenty of plenty of people were happy to discuss until the thread attracted a plethora of posters declaring that considering trainers in any way was childish/ ridiculous/ not a 'thing'. And I wondered why they felt it was OK to come onto a thread & try to shut it down with their opinions.

Since then I have observed that there's a very small minority who will continually try to dominate discussions by making very definite proclamations. It's v tedious.

100% agree with your last paragraph.

notanicepersonapparently · 26/02/2023 15:58

A similar thing now seems to have happened on the people watching in London thread which started off as an interesting discussion as to what trends had filtered down to the street (ie are wearable) and soon became a north v south slanging match and a plethora of I would never dream of wearing anything just because it’s fashionable comments. It was a shame because I thought it was an interesting topic.

RampantIvy · 26/02/2023 18:32

I agree @notanicepersonapparently.

I like S & B, and while I don't wear "cool" trainers Grin I am interested in buying clothes that make me look good. To be fair I haven't seen some of the looks that have been described on that thread round here (up north Grin)

banivani · 27/02/2023 14:55

I agree OP, I think it's a shame that interesting discussions implode like that (or this!). I think it's forum wide too, it's a very prevalent attitude on MN but I can't comment on whether or not it's gotten worse.

I found MN via S&B and really appreciated the nerdy style discussions. I don't have to agree, but it's interesting and opens up for real opinions on the world, feminism, ethics, the non-quenchable need for humans to wave their plumage etc.

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