Is this dress inappropriate for a wedding?

[humanpotato]

My boyfriend said he thinks this dress isn't appropriate for a wedding because it's red? This is new to me? The last two weddings we've been to I've wore red and he didn't say anything. So I'm just wondering what peoples thoughts are is this appropriate?

I don't know what thread this belongs in!

gold22 I completely agree. So many women revel in opportunities to be spiteful to other women. It’s sad. On Friday night I had a beautiful 19 year old girl crying on my shoulder in a club because two women had been absolutely vile to her. No reason at all, they were just plain nasty. She was pretty, gorgeous figure and looked fantastic. To me they were just nasty and bitter. There are a few on here by the looks of it. Some of the ‘oh just my opinion’ comments are a thinly disguised way to stick the boot in as well.

@flyingsolo2013 amazing is it the Vampire's Wife. I really want the green sequined one (same style for my 40th dinner)

OP the Flamenco dress is fine for Saturday night at Pacha, not for a wedding.

You’re clearly a very attractive woman with a great figure op. I think the colour is fine, but without even going into the ins and outs of whether it is too revealing or ‘look at me’ for a wedding, my thoughts are is that it’s just too fussy. You’d look far better in something more streamlined and sophisticated. What sort of budget are you looking at?

p.s. I think some posters are being unnecessarily nasty.

Are you the entertainment?

Whose wedding is it? If it one of your friends you know her taste and who else is going and she knows your taste, I would say it's ok ish ( though a bit OTT) if it is one of his friends and you don't know them that well I would go for something a bit more toned down.

Why would you do that? henever you wear it, it'll still be massively attention seeking. A costume change (like the Bride may well do) just makes it worse. The bride and bridesmaids will still be there in the evening, you'll look like you're competing with them for attention if you wear this at any point in the day. It's such an inappropriate dress for a wedding.

Sorry, OP, but unless you are going to RuPaul’s wedding, that’s a hard no.

Think it looks lovely on you. Depends on your fellow guests - are they a very glam and dressed up group? Or do you think you would stick out?

Ah, just seen you're not wearing it, that's a good call. Now your BF needs to take you somewhere fancy so you can wear it!

Do people honestly believe this dress is an attempt to upstage the bride? Or that the OP is attention seeking? What planet are you on?!

Even if it's not a conscious attempt to upstage the bride, it's likely to come across that way.

It's lovely. If it suits you, and you are comfortable, then go for it! I was at a wedding a couple of days ago and I don't think that would have been out of place. Be brave, be bold, be you. I assume you've been invited as yourself and you are a vivacious woman. The dress is fun, vivacious and shows that you rate the day as an occasion to celebrate.

@humanpotato you’re so pretty! And v brave to ask opinions on MN.

I think we have very different styles and I’m at least 10 years older than you, but I googled a few terms and saw this, thought it might be the look you’re going for but a bit more understated:

www.shein.co.uk/Big-Bow-Front-Hidden-Pocket-Backless-Dress-p-3420358-cat-1727.html?url_from=ukadplasw2108171927399363M_GPM&cid=16749342232&setid=&adid=&pf=GOOGLE&gclid=CjwKCAjwh-CVBhB8EiwAjFEPGQjR6B5GJHmZGsUSccW3pIcbqGBsPqwiQo0PVhN1ml2a_vo8zmZP1RoCGNwQAvD_BwE

enjoy the wedding!

I honestly think it depends on your personality and who’s wedding it is you’re attending. I have a friend that always wear things that are colourful and different to standard fashion. She has an amazing personality and beams sunshine. If she wore this to my wedding it wouldn’t bother me one iota. In fact it wouldn’t of anyone did 😆 but at the end of the day it does matter who’s wedding it is. Close friend or family, I’d say yes.

Or maybe this?

www.shein.co.uk/Floral-Print-Tie-Backless-A-line-Dress-p-9781339-cat-1727.html?url_from=ukadplasw2201053197708118L_GPM&cid=16749342232&setid=&adid=&pf=GOOGLE&gclid=CjwKCAjwh-CVBhB8EiwAjFEPGWJi4y_m6LabuIWv6vfgUoO3pcssXQ4c9loeh06QRFVexBHh3h3BWxoCcqQQAvD_BwE&main_attr=27_447&main_attr=27_447

I love this dress you've posted! LOVE it! Also I will definitely be asking Mumsnet for opinions in the future 😂 It's great!

Agreed.

Personally I think the dress would be lovely for the evening reception. It looks great on op. And changing for the evening isn’t at all unusual in my circles, in fact it would be more unusual not to. It’s not attention seeking, it’s just what women who love clothes do!!

I’ve also noticed that younger women tend to have a very different wedding style to older women (I’m early forties). Young women do often flash a bit more flesh nowadays and wear things that are much more fitted but they look fabulous so why not? Times have changed but the slut shaming and bitchiness hasn’t which is bloody disappointing.

And all the nonsense about upstaging the bride. Brides always look beautiful and glowing, plus all of the guests are there for them and their special day. What the guests wear is pretty irrelevant, I would want them to be happy in themselves not worried about what I might think.

Too slutty for a wedding. Sorry.

You have a flamboyant sense of style and obviously love bright colours, and there's nothing at all wrong with that! Presumably the people who like you and wanted to invite you to their weddings know you, and value you the way you are.

Have to say I'm not too keen on the flamenco dress, but the other red one looks great on you and the orange one a PP latterly posted would likely suit you, too.

Have fun!

I am sure that Sarah Ferguson wore something like it years ago. It looked dreadful then and does not seem to have improved.

If you like brighter colours you can get something more stylish than this that hints at being exotic rather than tawdry.

PS - LOVE that All Saints one a PP screenshotted earlier on the thread. That is a gorgeous dress!

Definitely not appropriate for a wedding. For an 18th bday party it's OK.

gah, its awful: awful

please
dont wear it. Its doing nothing for you and you have a great figure