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Would love to look posh & rich, I'm forty & frumpy, don't know where to start..

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Reinventingat40 · 25/05/2022 10:25

Turned 40 last month... Had a huge fight with DH last night & he called me frumpy... He's right...
Currently I live in primark (cheap & easy to buy)
Hair always in a bun
I've lost alot of muscle tone, I'm around a size 12, very unfit, can't afford the gym
My posture has become very bad recently, I'm always slouching, very noticible in photos.. I've really let myself go & the weight & middle aged spread has crept in...
I love that posh polished style like Kate Middleton & like her off duty clothes.
The posh polished sloaney look with the food hair & polished outfits.. I just want to look good again..

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Reinventingat40 · 26/05/2022 09:27

DFOD · 26/05/2022 08:16

Break it down for your life and your different roles / parts of the day / week.

Keep it simple.

Have a uniform for:

1.indoor clothes - simple comfortable / same colour and cut that gets thrown in the wash and requires no thinking day in day out. Frump (comfort, practical) as much as you like here certainly not a place for blazers, jeans, chinos, cashmere

2.Have dog walking outfits - probably as above with good jacket/boots

3.Have a school pick up / everyday shopping outfit (if it’s important to you to feel confident) - same thing - neat tidy jeans, blazer, T shirt.

Then it’s all about the posture and grooming - teeth, hair, nails, glowing skin and STAND TALL & SMILE! You don’t have to do this at home (if you don’t want to) - only when out and about.

Pare it all down.

Minimal decisions.

Simple quality structured classic flattering clothes for different functions don’t waste time confused and deciding what to wear - spend that time exercising or beauty routine.

Love this, I have the time to compartmentalise so that's what I'll start doing.. Thanks for breaking it down, it makes sense

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TwinklingFairyLights · 26/05/2022 09:49

DenholmElliot1 · 25/05/2022 10:56

Re: the slouching - why do you do that? Genuine question because its horribly aging and yet there is no actual reason why people do it, it's more of a bad habit really.

Agree with other posters though, make up consultation, personal shopper, good haircut and colour.

I think the slouching comes from lack of confidence. I used to do it. I've lost a stone in a year and now I don't slouch because I feel more confident. Still got 10 pounds to go.

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Reinventingat40 · 26/05/2022 09:59

With the slouching my boobs have really grown rapidly in the past couple of years, I think my back didn't have time to adjust to the extra weight if that makes sense?

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picassobride · 26/05/2022 10:11

OP, good luck with your quest!
If you want to look polished and Sloaney , much good advice given here.
Being 'posh' pre-supposes good education and use of language; no matter how much jewellery you hang on your lovely self, how you speak trumps it always.
Posture so important, think of a string attached to your head pulling you up.
Clean, short nails, no need for polish unless going out, then either clear or red.
SPF 50 x 365 days a year.
Tretinoin.
Bit of weight training, focus on problem areas.
Lots of water.
Simple haircut, unless naturally wavy or curly hair 🥺(envious), avoid layers as always make straight hair look'cheap'.

Shakeupandwakeup · 26/05/2022 10:20

Reinventingat40 · 26/05/2022 09:59

With the slouching my boobs have really grown rapidly in the past couple of years, I think my back didn't have time to adjust to the extra weight if that makes sense?

Just practising pinching your shoulder blades together at the same time as dropping your shoulders to elongate your neck is a brilliant posture exercise.

MadameSapphire · 12/09/2022 06:43

@DFOD, “Simple quality structured classic flattering clothes for different functions” - I love this! Just wondering if you could share some links to some examples of key pieces to further aid those of us who find this helpful? 😊🤞🏼

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