Would you have a face lift?

[Minimalme]

I think I've always been open to the idea of a face lift - am 48 now and think I might be wrinkly enough in a couple of years.

I'm not into fillers or Botox but have always used a good face cream with sun block and wear a cap in summer.

Does anyone else vaguely entertain the idea of getting a face lift when the time is right, or is it something I should be ruling out now and learning to love my crinkles and wrinkles?

I would but I think I'd need to wait until I retire (prob late 50s, I'm 48 just now) as I'm really pale and bruise soooo easily. I had an upper blepharoplasty a few years ago for hooded, baggy eyelids and I'm really pleased with it but I had black eyes for nearly six weeks. My husband got it done after me and he didn't have one bruise at all.
My friend had a lower face lift a few years ago and I would disagree with the poster who said plastic surgery makes you look weird. She definitely doesn't look weird just slightly less tired and fresher. It's a bit too subtle actually.
I don't care about anyone's arguments for or against having surgery. I feel depressed when I look in the mirror and see sagging. I want to fight the ageing process as much as I can.

No it’s never entered my head and I’m in my 50s. I don’t know any real life person who has had one either.

Same here. I guess people's attitude to cosmetic procedures is probably heavily influenced by how normal a thing it seems to be in the circles they move in. Among my (non-local) friends and family, I know nobody who has had cosmetic procedures done. And in the rural area I live in, it's a rarity imo. When I go into my nearest city, I am always immediately struck by how many inflated lips and frozen foreheads I see.

@Wagsandclaws you can’t be 50! Sign me up now please!

I didn't realise how many young famous women had had thread lifts/fox eye look until I googled it the other day. I am too chicken to get anything other than botox and fillers done to my face. A friend of mine had her upper eye lids done and she just didn't look like herself. It aged her. My jowls are beginning to be a problem. It's all to do with the slippage of your fat pads in your face as you age.

I want to fight the ageing process as much as I can.

I genuinely don’t understand why. Or rather I do because we live in a society that makes women feel the need to obliterate every sign of age as if ageing is shameful. A society that’s made youth a deity at whose altar we feel obliged to worship.

It’s about women becoming invisible as they get older, all the derogatory terms applied to women all prefaced by “old”. Old bag, old trout. Every woman in the public eye is pressurised to fight back the years and that trickles down to the rest of us. How many women would make the choice to have stuff done to her face if society wasn’t telling her age is ugly?

I think it’s so, so sad. My life story is written on my face. All the laughter is engraved round my eyes. I’ll fight the ageing process by maintaining a healthy body for as long as I can but I’m not going to muck about with the face my husband (admittedly biased) still describes as beautiful.

@TabithaTittlemouse ahhh thank you that's so kind.

I don't know y'know I think as much as I felt I needed the neck and lower lift it hasn't taken years off me iyswim? I'm still the same age and maybe look it but I'm really fine with that.

I don't want to 'fight' aging but women have always endeavoured to look nice and for me anyway skin care is a sort of hobby.

As @Blossomtoes has pointed out along with some other posters upthread it's ok to look like you as you get older just trying and be ( only if you want to ) the best version of yourself at any age.

I have plenty of wrinkles under my eyes, I use a nice eye cream on them and I don't think tbh it makes much difference. I don't look like my 30 yo daughter nor do I want to, I'm her Mum!

The old this and that phrases that get levied at middle aged or older women are awful and only help subscribe to society's view that, at least looks-wise you are a has been by 50. Fuck that!

I'll say it again, nothing wrong with face lifts or tweakments in general, it's a personal choice, I didn't want a saggy neck and that was my choice, I didn't want to be 18.5 stone and that was a personal choice - we are ALL entitled to look and feel as we want and if you want to get some surgical or injectable help to look and feel as you want to that's ok as much as not.

No, to the question. I want to look as good as I can for my age, but that doesn't mean I want to look younger, which is what I think is the implication of a facelift. I'm transitioning to my natural salt & pepper hair, so would odd with a totally smooth face. (I'm 50 by the way). I've had botox once before and wouldn't be adverse to having it again for my crows feet, but I've not made any effort to actually go and have it done. I do wear makeup every day, do my hair and try not to look frumpy!

You’re right @Wagsandclaws, I hope you didn’t think I was criticising you, that wasn’t how I meant it to come across. I think you look fabulous but you’re so pretty, you would whatever you did. We all make the choices that suit us, I just wish there wasn’t so much pressure on all of us to “fight the ageing process”.

@Blossomtoes no I really didn't think that at all - I agree with you entirely fwiw.

I read so many threads on here about ladies who are 35 plus and it's all downhill from here - that's bollocks - I have really bad Mobility problems but I'm buggered if I'm going to let it impact my life ( it does massively btw ) but still I want to get older my way, if that means a little bit of help here and there then so be it.

I think it's just ingrained in the way older women are perceived - dress too young, dress too old you can't win!?

I have no idea how people perceive me, maybe mutton dressed as lamb, maybe someone trying to 'fight' getting older. Neither are true to me but unfortunately that's not the way society works with older women.

A face lift is not for everyone, it's actually quite a big thing with Recovery etc and I don't think it should be just considered the norm.

I'm on quite a few weight loss pages on Facebook and there are a lot of US contributors. It's literally just assumed that after a large weight loss that you would have a tummy tuck and leg lift etc and I was amazed ( they all had good insurance that paid for that ) it was just assumed that that is what followed a large weight loss.

Not enough that you have extended your life by years or that you can play with your children/grandchildren no it was expected that you would then conform to how you are supposed to look at any given age.

What a shame ... but that's just me, each into their own.

I can't say much as I do what I do but yes, grow older how YOU want and Sod
What other people think.

I wouldn't discount how good fillers and botox can be. Especially if you go for a serious doctor who has natural looking results. Not the trout pout and spoke eyebrows stuff you see everywhere!

I've been thinking about having a facelift for years but then saw some amazing non surgical transformations with Dr Sana Sadiq in London. They have a discounted model program so I went with that and couldn't be happier.

But I'll probably still get a facelift eventually. Good in between though.

Abso-bloody-lutely! I do look young for my age anyway (51) and do have Botox and fillers but I’m well up for fave lift when they stop doing the job.. I said I’d go down the local anaesthetic route only, but having recently had my first general anaesthetic for gynae surgery, I’d go for that now.

upper eyelid lift booked for next February! And I can’t wait!

Another flipping revived thread from months ago

JaneJeffer I genuinely don’t understand the protocol around commenting on an old thread.. can you explain why it’s frowned upon in here ?

It was another person who bumped it up and it sounds like an advert.

Though usually it's irritating to bump up zombie threads as the OP has already found their answer and it naturally falls down the list. Depends on the thread also.

@Dontsayyouloveme I was just pissed off yesterday because almost every thread I clicked on was an old one bumped up by Mumsnet's new feature