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Double chin woes (with photos)

206 replies

DoubleChinWoes · 03/08/2021 22:08

I'm completely depressed about my double chin and chubby face. Whatever I weigh, it doesn't change my face at all. I have no cheekbones and multiple chins.

My friends wedding photos came back today and every single photo of me is ruined by my chins and face. It makes me feel so low.

My side profile is awful, because I have a receding chin and no jaw. My dentist has commented on my jaw, saying I could get it broken and reset but I would need to have my jaw wired shut for weeks and eat through a straw. Hardly practical.

My BMI is within a healthy range (just) but my face just constantly looks awful because it's so chubby. the photos look like someone much heavier than me I think. I don't look like a healthy BMI when you just see my face.

I have had to delete Instagram and Facebook because I obsessively look at plastic surgery accounts and research people who had their profile changed with liposuction and chin implants or fillers. I'm generally anti surgery and wouldn't have the money anyway.

I try to convince myself it doesn't matter. I have good skin, people say I'm a laugh and nice, I have a husband who says I'm gorgeous and kids that appear to adore me (they are 1.5 and 3yrs old so don't know I'm ugly yet).

I have been working from home in a new job since the lockdown first happened so not met anyone in real life. I'm horribly anxious to meet people as I've tried to angle my camera to not show it so obviously.

It's getting worse as I get older (I'm 35) and soon, I'll have saggy skin there too and will end up looking like Kathy Burke. Who I love! She's amazing. But I don't want to look like her, which is probably horrible and vain.

If I can't afford fat freezing, lipo, filler or chin implants, and who knows if these would even help, and losing weight makes no difference my only hope is to start not caring I think.

What am I posting for? I have no idea. Is there something else that can be done? Or do I need to save money for procedures, or let my obsession go somehow?

If you recognise me, please don't tell me or mention it to me in RL. I'm horribly embarrassed.

[Note from MNHQ: we've agreed to remove the pics for the OP, a year or two down the line]

OP posts:
FortunesFave · 03/08/2021 22:15

You have a very lovely and youthful face. However, I immediately thought that it was more a jaw issue than fat...or sagging.

It's obvious your chin receeds and you should have had braces or something to fix it when you were younger.

If your dentist has suggested treatment involving breaking your jaw, well that IS extreme but I don't understand why you didn't say yes please...it's obviously affecting you badly that you're obsessing over lipo etc...when theres been a treatment already suggested.

No, drinking through a straw for weeks won't be nice but you'll have a new profile...and though you're very attractive at the moment...you're not happy so I think you should get it done.

66babe · 03/08/2021 22:15

I don't agree
If you never mentioned the chin - I'd have looked at that pic and said what a genuinely happy natural pretty young lady
Love the hair and make up colouring

Please don't do this to yourself
It's so not worth it , honestly ❤️

Medievalist · 03/08/2021 22:16

You have a very beautiful face. If I hadn't read your comments it would never occur to me that there might be anything about it you don't like.

Perfection isn't attractive imo. Your face has character and warmth, your eyes are kind, your hair is lovely and you have a very genuine and appealing smile.

Please don't become obsessive about something so minor!

Trying81 · 03/08/2021 22:16

I have a similar profile, hate having photos taken - I’m experimenting with photo angles and tilting my chin at the moment to make being photographed easier. Here for any suggestions on how to improve too.

You are definitely not ugly btw, your smile is beautiful

MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 03/08/2021 22:17

Omg you are so pretty, don't waste your life worrying about it, you look fantastic,they are lovely photos.

JaffacakeJanine · 03/08/2021 22:18

I think you look really lovely, you should try and be kinder to yourself! I think we are our own worst critics, I myself always zoom in on my problem areas!

On a more constructive note, I had smart lipo a number of years back for a similar issue, it did help a little bit, but then I gained weight and the double chin returned 🤣 it's less invasive than regular lipo and was done in like an hour, so maybe something you could think about if it's really bringing you down.

SerenShine · 03/08/2021 22:19

You look gorgeous. Sincerely.

Starbrites · 03/08/2021 22:19

Hi, probably not much help but I honestly think you have a beautiful face. I'd love to look like you. You look like a lovely person on the inside too and that shows in your lovely face and smile.

itbemay1 · 03/08/2021 22:20

You look lovely and very happy. You are an attractive woman try to stop focussing in your perceived flaw - we all have them.

FortunesFave · 03/08/2021 22:20

OP it's easy for people to say "Don't worry about it!" but also misjudged.

I had a skin problem...not acne...rarer than that and it meant I had a red mark on my face which I hated and obsessed over. No matter how many people told me it was fine I still hated it and worried and felt self conscious. Getting it removed via laser was the best thing ever.

See the dentist and find out about the procedure.

JaffacakeJanine · 03/08/2021 22:21

But also agree with @FortunesFave in that it looks like smart lipo would remove the fat, but you may still not have the profile you are looking for due to receding jaw, so keep that in mind.

Again, you are beautiful, and I would only peruse these if they were really affecting your mental health!

Nannyamc · 03/08/2021 22:22

Lovely healthy looking lady.
Your smile says it all.

golddustwomen · 03/08/2021 22:22

I think you look beautiful and so so happy. Lovely pictures x

isthisouting · 03/08/2021 22:24

Honestly? I think you're beautiful! And clearly a lovely person - you can see this in your eyes.

Don't be so hard on yourself. When you're more my age (40s) you'll realise the odd quirk here and there doesn't matter at all, but that said I still think you're gorgeous and will turn heads with that smile!

CarryOnNurse20 · 03/08/2021 22:25

You are beautiful OP.

TLIMSISNW · 03/08/2021 22:25

You are a natural beauty. Honestly, I know it’s so easy to be our own worst critics, but when you’re looking back at these photos with your grandchildren you’ll realise how stunning you look. You really are very pretty.

Candyapple49 · 03/08/2021 22:25

Oh Op , even with your post title the only thing I see is a beautiful youthful looking woman . The first thing I noticed was your eyes and then your lovely teeth and smile . I would swap looks with you in a heart beat !

isthisouting · 03/08/2021 22:25

Just read back and see you're 35, you look in your 20s!

OhTheTastyNuts · 03/08/2021 22:27

Those photos are lovely. You look beautiful! If I had seen them before reading your post, I would not have registered your chin/jaw as being an issue at all. I'd have just seen a photo of a happy, lovely looking woman.

Other people are not seeing you how you see yourself.

longcoffeebreak · 03/08/2021 22:27

Nothing be wrong with you at all

longcoffeebreak · 03/08/2021 22:28

Is 🤣

Wbeezer · 03/08/2021 22:28

I'm 53, when i see your picture all i see is a happy attractive youthful woman with a lovely smile and nice hair!

Tippexy · 03/08/2021 22:28

I think you are beautiful and have a warm and infectious smile.

One of my friends had the jaw surgery you describe recently. She too had misgivings but she is over the moon with the result.

Nuffaluff · 03/08/2021 22:29

Do what you like but, seriously, you look lovely. You’re pretty, not ugly at all.
Lots of women have the same kind of chin as you. I say, just keep smiling!
Just looking at you, I would want to be friends with you because your inner beauty shines through your smile.

Ginghamglitter · 03/08/2021 22:31

I totally agree you look lovely - pretty, young, glowing, full of energy. You also look clever and interesting rather than some generic large browed pouty type that seems so ubiquitous these days 😩 It’s such a pity you can’t see yourself the way others do.

I’m quite a bit older than you and I think my generation had it so much easier! There was not the complete and utter focus on how we looked as there is now and a sparkling personality was considered a bigger asset than a perfect face especially as beauty is fairly transient unless you are very lucky. You are lovely - enjoy your youth and stop worrying. I promise in 20 years you will look back and wonder why you were so harsh on yourself.