Double chin woes (with photos)

[DoubleChinWoes]

I'm completely depressed about my double chin and chubby face. Whatever I weigh, it doesn't change my face at all. I have no cheekbones and multiple chins.

My friends wedding photos came back today and every single photo of me is ruined by my chins and face. It makes me feel so low.

My side profile is awful, because I have a receding chin and no jaw. My dentist has commented on my jaw, saying I could get it broken and reset but I would need to have my jaw wired shut for weeks and eat through a straw. Hardly practical.

My BMI is within a healthy range (just) but my face just constantly looks awful because it's so chubby. the photos look like someone much heavier than me I think. I don't look like a healthy BMI when you just see my face.

I have had to delete Instagram and Facebook because I obsessively look at plastic surgery accounts and research people who had their profile changed with liposuction and chin implants or fillers. I'm generally anti surgery and wouldn't have the money anyway.

I try to convince myself it doesn't matter. I have good skin, people say I'm a laugh and nice, I have a husband who says I'm gorgeous and kids that appear to adore me (they are 1.5 and 3yrs old so don't know I'm ugly yet).

I have been working from home in a new job since the lockdown first happened so not met anyone in real life. I'm horribly anxious to meet people as I've tried to angle my camera to not show it so obviously.

It's getting worse as I get older (I'm 35) and soon, I'll have saggy skin there too and will end up looking like Kathy Burke. Who I love! She's amazing. But I don't want to look like her, which is probably horrible and vain.

If I can't afford fat freezing, lipo, filler or chin implants, and who knows if these would even help, and losing weight makes no difference my only hope is to start not caring I think.

What am I posting for? I have no idea. Is there something else that can be done? Or do I need to save money for procedures, or let my obsession go somehow?

If you recognise me, please don't tell me or mention it to me in RL. I'm horribly embarrassed.

[Note from MNHQ: we've agreed to remove the pics for the OP, a year or two down the line]

I think you look beautiful xxx

I hate pictures of myself as well, but please try not to let this get you down. I've had to basically have a chat to myself to accept that this is what I look like at the moment and I don't want to spend my life letting my own opinion of my looks holding me back xx

I think you look great, and lovely, in your first picture. It would be very sad, in my eyes, if you subjected yourself to surgery to look like an Instagrammed photoshop copy of an available-to-buy C list celebrity. We all look different and unique; please celebrate your real unfixed loveliness.

What a lovely update OP!

Keep up the positive attitude and self-image, it only gets easier.
Your friends and family love you and they are the ones who know you best! Your loved ones will love your face and your appearance will be very dear to them, as it should be to you.

I’m glad your feeling better about it.

Just came to say what other have said really. My daughter has a double chin due to a over bite and is awaiting a brace before jaw surgery, she has a very similar face shape to you though her overbite is a lot more noticeable, she’s looking forward to the surgery (I’m not 🤣), I’m kind of worried that she may look totally different after surgery but i know it will help he confidence in the future. You look beautiful OP as does my dd.

You look lovely. Healthy, happy and any hint of a double chin is not the thing which leapt out at me, in your photos.

Enjoy the wedding!

Very clearly a jaw issue imo. I would recommend checking out the jaw surgery subreddit group - r/jawsurgery to see a lot of before and afters of people who have had the procedure, plus accounts of what recovery is like. When they say 'break' your jaw - that sounds very violent, but a lot of people seem to feel grim for only 2-3 days and then much better, and it's definitely not always necessary to be wired these days.

Don't be scared if you go on the Reddit and see pictures of people with very swollen faces! I had a different surgery in the same area a couple of years ago and swelling was something I was scared about in advance, but it goes down much quicker than you'd expect.