Double chin woes (with photos)

[DoubleChinWoes]

I'm completely depressed about my double chin and chubby face. Whatever I weigh, it doesn't change my face at all. I have no cheekbones and multiple chins.

My friends wedding photos came back today and every single photo of me is ruined by my chins and face. It makes me feel so low.

My side profile is awful, because I have a receding chin and no jaw. My dentist has commented on my jaw, saying I could get it broken and reset but I would need to have my jaw wired shut for weeks and eat through a straw. Hardly practical.

My BMI is within a healthy range (just) but my face just constantly looks awful because it's so chubby. the photos look like someone much heavier than me I think. I don't look like a healthy BMI when you just see my face.

I have had to delete Instagram and Facebook because I obsessively look at plastic surgery accounts and research people who had their profile changed with liposuction and chin implants or fillers. I'm generally anti surgery and wouldn't have the money anyway.

I try to convince myself it doesn't matter. I have good skin, people say I'm a laugh and nice, I have a husband who says I'm gorgeous and kids that appear to adore me (they are 1.5 and 3yrs old so don't know I'm ugly yet).

I have been working from home in a new job since the lockdown first happened so not met anyone in real life. I'm horribly anxious to meet people as I've tried to angle my camera to not show it so obviously.

It's getting worse as I get older (I'm 35) and soon, I'll have saggy skin there too and will end up looking like Kathy Burke. Who I love! She's amazing. But I don't want to look like her, which is probably horrible and vain.

If I can't afford fat freezing, lipo, filler or chin implants, and who knows if these would even help, and losing weight makes no difference my only hope is to start not caring I think.

What am I posting for? I have no idea. Is there something else that can be done? Or do I need to save money for procedures, or let my obsession go somehow?

If you recognise me, please don't tell me or mention it to me in RL. I'm horribly embarrassed.

[Note from MNHQ: we've agreed to remove the pics for the OP, a year or two down the line]

You really are extremely pretty OP. I wouldn't bother posting it if it wasn't true cos typing on iPad is a PITA and wakes dh up.

Just to add my dd had the surgery as the way her jaw was she had an uneven bite. Certain foods she just couldn't eat as her teeth didn't meet. Her bottom jaw looked too far forward. The difference is amazing.

@unim

You are absolutely gorgeous! I would never have thought you were in your 30s - you look much younger and very glowy.

You do have a slightly receding chin but if you hadn't mentioned it I really wouldn't have noticed it at all.

You could always investigate the cost of the procedure where you have your jaw broken and wired shut, especially if it is causing you a lot of distress, but you're so pretty just as you are.

This really reminds me of one of my best friends, who had a nose job. She has a much more 'standard' nose now and it is very straight and 'cute' in stereotypical way - but she confessed to me a few months ago that she regretted having the nose job as she misses her original nose and felt her face had more character! If you look around, a lot of really beautiful people do have features that could be considered imperfect and which they may even dislike about themselves - freckles, ear size, nose size, etc etc - but when you look at them from the outside you would just think they are lovely looking and not notice those things as flaws.

Makes me think of Jennifer Grey and her lamentable nose job.

You look lovely in the photos. Genuinely not just saying that to make you feel better. You look happy and attractive.

Arguably the second photo is taken at a bad angle but most of us have a bad angle of some description, even if it's not the same "issue" as yours.

I also know someone who had that surgery and it is a huge procedure, personally I think you'd be mad to consider it. There's nothing wrong with you, you look normal and pretty.

Do you snore/mouth breathe? That is quite common with receding chins and may make your choice with surgery easier. Also it is worth remembering that photos often catch us mid-gurn and they are not necessarily a true representation of what you look like in the flesh/moving. I take an absolutely hideous photo, but people tell me I am really pretty. I just gurn or screw my face up in EVERY photo ever.

The thing with the jaw surgery is that there are benefits to it other than the purely cosmetic. The dentist must think there are dental implications of the overbite. DH had that surgery when he was 30. It was pretty major but it was v effective - he had it for dental reasons but it completely changed his profile- jaw came forward a lot. He did have to have fixed braces for a year or so as well.

You're very attractive and youthful, nothing to be concerned about! The only way to "fix" the double chin would be jaw surgery, possibly kybella injections (wouldn't recommend, very painful) but you certainly don't need them!

You are naturally very pretty and I honestly cannot see any jaw issue. However from someone who used to be terribly self conscious about acne I do know that whatever anyone says, you can't help how you feel, I thought that once my acne was sorted I would be happy. That didn't happen as I then noticed the wrinkles! They have improved with using tretinoin but now I am hung up about my dark circles. What I'm trying to say is that we're rarely happy with our looks and just notice our flaws. However hopefully from these posts you can be assured you are a really pretty lady

My profile is totally different but I absolutely hate it - i have a sort of pointed nose and long chin and I think I look so witchy from the side. Yet lots of people say they really like my profile!

Honestly the best that you can do is avoid any painful surgery and perhaps see if you can get some counselling to help with your perspective on it? We never see ourselves as others see us - we see what we perceive as our worst characteristics so magnified when others would never even notice them

You look absolutely stunning - and the warmth in your face makes me think you’re a lovely person too.

I was offered this surgery and with hindsight wish I’d had it. But at the time, I thought my jaw looked too severe once it was slid forward. My side profile was improved but the front made me look stern. Worth sliding your jaw forward to see how it would look from all angles. It’s hard to be objective when we are bombarded on social media with very strong jawlines pumped with fillers.

Best of luck with whatever you decide, but I hope this thread has shown that it isn’t something that is noticed by other people.

As a Speech and Language Therapist specialising with oral surgery patients, I would consider the surgery. Each time I saw patients with receding chins, prior to surgery, I always thought they looked okay. But afterwards, the difference was striking, defined jawline and more balanced facial features. Never met a person who regretted having it done.

I also can't believe everyone is suggesting jaw surgery. That's a big deal and painful and massively changes your facial structure - getting used to a new face in mid life is psychologically quite a big deal. You might not actually like the way you look, and even if you do it might not feel like "you".
A friend had jaw surgery at school and she looked like a completely different person afterwards

I'm sorry you're unhappy, OP. But I honestly think you look lovely and so pretty! Because you've mentioned it I can see the issue with your jaw. However, I don't think it makes you look unattractive, if that makes sense? For example, one of my friends hates her nose and says it's too big. She does have a more prominent nose but it's not ugly, she is a very attractive woman and her nose is part of that.

Although, if it is really bringing you down and upsetting you and you have the funds available I would just have the operation. Life is too short to be miserable. But I personally don't think it's necessary. And I really mean that, I'm not just being kind.

That sounds like a major operation -personally I would avoid it unless it is the only way to resolve your issues.
You look absolutely beautiful. Your husband is right.

You have gorgeous eyes and a lovely heart shaped face, and I bet 99 percent of people would not notice that you have a slight overbite, as they'll be focused on how lovely your face is as a whole.

I have the opposite, a slight underbite so my chin has a tendancy to look massive in photos. If you look at people, a lot people fall into one camp or the other, a perfect jaw and chin isnt very common!

May I start by saying you are really beautiful, OP. I truly mean that.

However, I totally understand how it feels to let a part of you affect you so badly. And if you are unhappy then it is definitely worth looking at different options (there may be alternatives to jaw breaking that might go some way to make you feel more secure and happy in yourself.)

For me personally it was my belly and love handles I was such an awful shape and my stomach muscles healed very peculiarly after two pregnancies. At any weight I was still the same shape just smaller or bigger.
Im now day 3 post op after having a Brazilian tummy tuck and although I am in SO MUCH pain, I can already feel myself changing emotionally and my attitude toward myself is already improving.

And I apologise for any spelling, grammar issues or just not making sense - I'm literally high as a kite on opiates right now 😂

And also remember it's not about what anyone else thinks about you, it's about how YOU feel about you.

Gorgeous shots. You look so happy, you sparkle.
Wish you could see that too.

You look amazing , you really do ! I also have this kind of chin and not keen on it on myself but as you age it keeps you younger looking as you don't get those scraggy wrinkly necks . I've never been short of male admirers in my life .

You look lovely!
I'm 10 years older than you and my make up tip for my double chin is Benefit Hoola.
Cross between a contour and a bronzer, love it. Also helps to shape my massive forehead and nose!

I could have written this. I hate mine so much, I dread seeing pictures of me.

Mine I don't think is a jaw issue, mire genetics (from my dads side). I go through phases of being ok and being really upset.

No advice but sympathy for you. For what it's worth, you have a very lovely face. Believe the comments from people on here.

You are absolutely beautiful.

I wouldn’t get the surgery done if I were you as it’s drastic and you look lovely as you are. However I do think if you are going to do it I would do it while you are still relatively young or not at all.

I have a prominent nose and I know I would look much better with a smaller nose but now I’m in my 50s, what would be the point of going through surgery? I know I would look totally different and I would hate the attention. I also think that my nose has never held me back in life in any way.

You look happy and beautiful in those photos ❤️