Is this too white for a wedding guest?

[FreekStar]

After seeing discussion on this on another thread I'm worried this dress I've bought is now too 'white'- I thought the floral pattern made it ok, but maybe not... What do you think?

www.hobbs.com/product/rosabelle-silk-floral-dress/0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI.html#cgid=clothing-dresses&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI&pos=22

I'm not sure why you've posted, to be honest. Every one of your posts so far has been explaining why you think it's ok and you won't upstage the bride. Who you don't know, apparently.

Opinions seem to be split - but there are probably 100 people saying No. Definitely not. Don't do it.

Imagine if we're all at the wedding. That's pretty much half the wedding guests and possible the bride (and her family) looking at you and privately wondering what the hell you were thinking and how rude it is to attempt to upstage the bride.

Will it not spoil your day at least to be wondering if some or most of the guests think your choice was inappropriate? It would be better to choose something different, where there isn't this controversy.

The thing is, it's doesn't really matter for the bride herself, she will still shine anyway.

It's the guest who embarrass themselves. Most of the wedding party will cringe. It's never flattering to wear white at somebody else's wedding. (unless you are a bridesmaid and the outfit is chosen by the bride)

WHY would you want to be that person?

No!

Totally unacceptable IMO

Yes, too bridal.

I wouldn’t risk it, mainly as you don’t know the bride and have no idea how she will feel. A few people will definitely have reactions. A lot of wedding dresses nowadays are long and white with colourful flowers, so there is a real risk she will be wearing something not 100 miles from this.

If you do want to go for it, you can just do pale pink hat and shoes, you would need to really tone down the white. Like a green or pink wrap, darker shoes, bright hat. Maybe a darker belt. But for Christ’s sake don’t do pale pink accessories if you don’t want to get glares from her family.

If you have so little regards for the bride - who might or might not care- why bother going to the wedding at all?

Too white and gown-like. You can go gown like and colourful or short and closer to pale/white pattern but not long and white.

Also it would be a lot less bridal if it was short. You might be one of the only people in white AND one of the only people in a long dress...

Go for it! Nice and summery... nothing bridal!

Love it.
Cany imagine anyone will confuse you with the Brudsl party.
But, then, this stuff never bothered me - I loaned a cream dress to a friend for my wedding

It's not bridal but it's still too white to wear as a wedding guest. Sounds like you've already made your mind up but be prepared for guests and possibly the bride to think it's a bit off! With so many dresses to choose from, why risk causing a stir?

I never really understand these threads. There are so many beautiful colours and dresses, but as soon as a wedding invite drops on the mat a small number of women rush to buy a white bridal looking dress.

You won’t upstage the Bride. But it’s a very bridal type dress and it’s not your wedding. Wear something else.

It's a pretty dress, but as you don't actually know the bride I probably wouldn't risk it as it is quite bridal - unless you can pair it with a brightly coloured pashmina/wrap type thing?

This Mumsnet obsession with outfits being 'too bridal' is a peculiarly middle class thing. Working and upper class people are less troubled by this kind of weird codified behaviour and just wear what they want secure in the knowledge that the bride will be having far too much fun to give a stuff what her guests are wearing.

I think its lovely and fine for a wedding but i once went to a reception in a short floral dress with a white background and the bride still goes on about how i wore white to her wedding.

I would be even more annoyed that it was someone who didn’t even know me that wore that to my wedding also.

I’ll be a bride in December and I wouldn’t think twice if someone wore this! It’s floral! X

It’s lovely! Check with the bride if you are super worried

I agree with @fink. I, too have never heard of this “convention”. Naturally one wouldn’t attend a wedding in a bridal gown but apart from that I just don’t get it. OP isn’t in the wedding party and none of the other guests are likely to mistake her for the bride. This discussion seems very weird to me.

Perfect for a wedding. Gorgeous.

@Sanchez79

This Mumsnet obsession with outfits being 'too bridal' is a peculiarly middle class thing. Working and upper class people are less troubled by this kind of weird codified behaviour and just wear what they want secure in the knowledge that the bride will be having far too much fun to give a stuff what her guests are wearing.

just writing your opinion doesn't make it a fact you know. But nice try!

@Flowers500

Also it would be a lot less bridal if it was short. You might be one of the only people in white AND one of the only people in a long dress...

Longer dresses (mid-calf to ankle) are very much in fashion at the moment. There have been lots of photos of the guests at the 2011 royal wedding floating around this week and the knee-length dresses all look really dated now (compare the length of the dresses at the Sussex wedding). The Vampire’s Wife has been really influential.

Oh fuck no. You can't wear that unless you want people thinking you wish it were you he was marrying

Seriously. Just no.

@Bluntness100

I never really understand these threads. There are so many beautiful colours and dresses, but as soon as a wedding invite drops on the mat a small number of women rush to buy a white bridal looking dress.

You won’t upstage the Bride. But it’s a very bridal type dress and it’s not your wedding. Wear something else.

I agree!

They go with the threads "my child really wants to wear that (flower girl) dress, so she will".