Is this too white for a wedding guest?

[FreekStar]

After seeing discussion on this on another thread I'm worried this dress I've bought is now too 'white'- I thought the floral pattern made it ok, but maybe not... What do you think?

www.hobbs.com/product/rosabelle-silk-floral-dress/0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI.html#cgid=clothing-dresses&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI&pos=22

Its a very pretty dress OP - wear it & enjoy the day. FGS its quite probable you wont even be in the wedding photos, as you say not knowing the bride - so all this MN uptightness of how close it is to white can be ignored totally

For those people mentioning group wedding photos - do people still even do this?? Like big group photos? I can't recall a wedding I've been to on the past 10 years where this still happened. Only with close family and friends really.

And besides, for those of you who did have group photos when was the last time you looked at them. I highly doubt many couples will be printing them out, displaying or even looking at a group photo after a month or so after the wedding. Any bride I've know has only ever displayed photos of the bride and groom or their direct wedding party and family.

Group photos would be the last thing I would be concerned about 🤷🏼‍♀️

Very nice - wear it. Is bride definitely wearing white anyway?

There's so many dresses out there. Don't wear a white one to a wedding.

Newsflash: people have different budgets. How well you know the hosts is irrelevant. A nice dress is a good investment for other occasions.

In the reviews someone did buy it as a wedding dress! Unsuccessful because too much static generated by the silk/polyester friction. So not only a whitish dress, but one the clings all over, unless you replace the lining.

Absolutely not when you don't even know the bride!

A very close friend or a relative, you could ask - but it's far too risky to clash with either bride or bridesmaids.

Bridal wear is so much more varied, you have absolutely no guarantee what the bride will chose. And as a guest you have all the colours of the rainbow, why picking white!

I can't be bothered to search through wedding dresses, but the photo attached is a bridal dress....You'd clash already.

@inappropriateraspberry

I just checked my wedding photos, because, years later, I don't remember what any of my guests were wearing and wondered if any wore a white outfit. They didn't, but you know what, I wouldn't have been bothered/upset and definitely don't care about it now!

My sister would. I saw an outfit that was really nice but had some white in it, she hit the fucking roof. (No I wasnt a BM because her best friend was pg and Dsis decided that if she couldnt have her best friend then it would be fair to have me either )

She was a total bridezilla and to this day LOATHES the cousin of ours who wore a white jacket and shoes with a brightly coloured dress (think cerise or emerald, not a "theme" colour for the wedding) because people might have mistaken her for the bride.....it happens.

This thread seems pointless! If you're going to wear it, why post?!

I think jts lovely and wouldn't have minded if someone had come to my wedding wearing it but I know the grandparents and older aunties would be aghast and gossiping about it 🤷‍♀️

@FreekStar

I didn't have doubts- otherwise I wouldn't have bought it- it's only because of mumsnet and what I read on another thread I thought I'd ask- I obviously know that a white dress would have been a no- but didn't really consider this white as it had so much pink and green floral in it I thought it was fine- I ran it past my friend who is really up on this kind of thing and she approved it, and my mum too.

I’m ancient and a stickler for the rules.

I think it’s lovely and not remotely bridal.

Pink accessories and you’re done

so all this MN uptightness of how close it is to white can be ignored totally

god forbid you'd want to have some respect and show basic manners when you are a guest and not even a close friend

It's rather sad if you can't accept that it's somebody else's day and you have to be ... subtle for the day, and not wear white/ivory/cream.

@TatianaBis

Newsflash: people have different budgets. How well you know the hosts is irrelevant. A nice dress is a good investment for other occasions.

I agree that some styles are. But that one wont be as this time next year it will be dated.

are you a relative of the groom or a friend? If you're a friend then don't wear it, too many people will think you're trying to stand in for the bride!

I think the bride is the only person who can answer this question and as you don’t know her, the safest option is to go with something else. It skirts very close to the line and some brides would see this as disrespectful whether people agree or not. Wouldn’t it be better to err on the side of caution just in case? I certainly wouldn’t want to upset a bride on her wedding day, so why take the risk?

Lovely 🥰I wish I could wear something like that

I'm always amazed at these threads - so surprised at so many people being outraged at the idea of any white being worn. I just don't get it. Unless you're wearing a dress that looks like a wedding dress, I can't see the problem. My mother-in-law (we have a great relationship, so not a sly attempt at upstaging me) and my husband's granddad's wife wore white at my wedding, and both my sisters and my sister in law wore black! Everybody looked lovely!

Love it! So pretty. Not bridal at all. 😍

Absolutely fine! Lovely dress

I think it would be fine, but then I've never heard the 'no white' rule anywhere except on MN. I'm looking at my sister's wedding group shot right now and there's at least 5-6 women in white dresses (excluding the bride), 2 in plain white. I don't think anyone noticed or said anything at the time (2 years ago), I'm only noticing now because I'm deliberately looking for it. I honestly have no idea how many guests wore white to my wedding, or indeed what anyone wore except me, bridesmaids, and groom. If you're not sure and you think she might be the type to object, ask the groom, but surely most people couldn't care less what their guests wear as long as they've made an effort.

It's gorgeous and I wouldn't hesitate to wear it. Likewise if I were a bride (again), it wouldn't worry me at all if a guest wore this.

I love it and would wear to a wedding.

It’s fine.

It looks like a bridesmaids dress.

It's beautiful and totally appropriate.