Is this too white for a wedding guest?

[FreekStar]

After seeing discussion on this on another thread I'm worried this dress I've bought is now too 'white'- I thought the floral pattern made it ok, but maybe not... What do you think?

www.hobbs.com/product/rosabelle-silk-floral-dress/0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI.html#cgid=clothing-dresses&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI&pos=22

The whole white at a wedding thing is a bit of a MN myth anyway. From people who talk about etiquette and serviettes in the same sentence.

@GNCQ

You can always get the dress and some Dylon in a soft pastel pink or yellow or lavender for no more than a fiver and hand dye it.

It's 100% silk. You'll be able to hand dye it easily, and you'll end up with a really unique beautiful dress that isn't too white.

Don’t do this to a £200+ brand new dress.

The lining is polyester and most likely so is the thread in the seams. It will turn out a hot mess.

@CinnamonJellyBeans Well said. Dont be THAT guest.

It's lovely for a summer wedding but you might clash with the flower girls.

I think that's a lovely wedding guest outfit.

I have it saved as a possible bridal dress for my (small, city) wedding.

But if I was having a big, traditional wedding, then I don’t imagine I would especially notice another guest in white.

It's not bridal at all. I would wear a coloured jacket/cardi/wrap rather than white though. I had people in white dresses at my wedding, who cares?

Out of curiosity I googled if you can wear a white floral dress to a wedding and this article from an American bridal magazine website came up suggesting dresses for guests to wear. The first two are white floral dresses.... www.theknot.com/content/wedding-guest-attire-floral-dresses

I would not. The only hard rule for weddings is you don’t wear white - why try to mess around at the margins? It will only leave you feeling uncomfortable on the day and (at least some) others wondering why you chose a potentially inappropriate outfit.

No just because polyester lining fgs. At that price too. NO.

It is a white dress. With some flowers on.
So that’s a no to wear to a wedding.
Otherwise you’re forever going to be known as the one that wore the white dress to X’s wedding. Especially if you don’t even know the bride.
Just avoid anything white or cream to weddings.

Dont do it. I wore a cream short dress to a wedding. It didn't look remotely bridal and I never even heard of that rule. Went down like a lead balloon. It's best to stay well clear of the subject.

Its a beautiful dress and accessorised witht eh darker green it could work.....however.....

£240 on a dress for a wedding where you havent even met the bride? I spent less than that on my MOH's outfit for my wedding!

Am I the only person who receives an wedding invite and thinks a) "Oh FFS there goes another weekend", b) "Can I get out of this?" swiftly followed by c) "Shit, no I can't. Right, what have I got hanging up that will do?"

I wouldn’t risk it. I’m going to a wedding soon where the bridesmaids are in pink and my immediate thought was I couldn’t wear that as neither the white or pink it would go down well.

Hmmm, what kind of wedding is it? If its 200 guests in a cathedral its fine, the bride will likley be more extravagant. If its 40 guests in registry office then on to an afternoon tea it might be too laidback bride-y. Its the type of thing I might wear to my small city wedding.

Nobody has been anywhere for a YEAR. Do we think we could give the competitive MN tightness a day off?

Even if it doesn't look bridal, when you look at a group wedding photo, your eye is immediately drawn to the white of the bride's dress. A dress like the OP's will distract from the bride. Couple's pay an absolute fortune for wedding photos, just choose any colour other than white!

*couples

Too white.

I think it’s fine. Wouldn’t bother me if you had come to my wedding wearing it.

I just checked my wedding photos, because, years later, I don't remember what any of my guests were wearing and wondered if any wore a white outfit. They didn't, but you know what, I wouldn't have been bothered/upset and definitely don't care about it now!

It's going to be a large wedding- 150ish guests- expensive and beautiful setting, I'm not expecting to be in the formal wedding photos.

@PlumpAndDeliciousFatcat

Nobody has been anywhere for a YEAR. Do we think we could give the competitive MN tightness a day off?

Not wanting to spend £240 on a dress for an event where you dont even know both of the hosts is not tight. Its perfectly sensible.

Like you, I have been nowhere for a year and guess what? I would still go through my wardobe before I hit the shops/internet and would only do it then if I absolutely had to. If I did have to then my budget would be less than £50.

If you honestly thought it was okay then you wouldnt have started a thread trying to see what others think. Terrible choice!