Is this too white for a wedding guest?

[FreekStar]

After seeing discussion on this on another thread I'm worried this dress I've bought is now too 'white'- I thought the floral pattern made it ok, but maybe not... What do you think?

www.hobbs.com/product/rosabelle-silk-floral-dress/0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI.html#cgid=clothing-dresses&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI&pos=22

I don't think the bride wants to be bothered with random guests sending her pics of their dress - that comes across as pretty needy and attention seeking and I would find it both bemusing and irritating as a bride.

The dress is lovely - wear it and enjoy the wedding,

I don't think there is anything bridal about the dress. Way too much overthinking here

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It's a long white dress?!
It's not though, is it. It's a floral dress.

I mean, most people know not to wear a white dress to a wedding but mumsnet is the only place I've ever heard of people objecting to dresses that have even the tiniest amount of white on them! It's never ever been a thing for any wedding I've ever been to. And I'm in your age bracket OP so I've been to plenty of weddings.

It's a beautiful dress, perfect for the type of wedding you describe and I'm sure you'll look fab in it.

I am not going to send the bride a pic! If I was the bride and some random guest I don't really know sent me their outfit for approval I'd think they were nuts! Do people really do this in real life?

If you accessorise with bright colours and absolutely no more white then you could get away with it.

So jacket shoes hat or hair/head accessory jewellery etc all bright and noticeable.

I personally wouldn't wear it because I'd feel self conscious of what everyone might think. If I were the bride I wouldn't bat an eyelid.

@FreekStar

I am not going to send the bride a pic! If I was the bride and some random guest I don't really know sent me their outfit for approval I'd think they were nuts! Do people really do this in real life?

I guess it depends on how close you are with the bride:)

I would not wear it for a wedding- too bridal and too white.
If I were a bride- it would upset me ( but I am weird, so probably most people would find it ok)

I'm normally one for saying wear what you want as long as it's not another white floor length gown, but there's someone I follow on Instagram who made her own wedding dress and the pattern is really quite similar though the design is different. She is wearing a veil and carrying a bouquet of flowers mind so very bridal looking naturally.

www.instagram.com/p/BnWyAx7h1VX/ and www.instagram.com/p/BnyvbkuhseE/

There's someone else who I recall got married around the same time who made her dress too and it also had a floral design and I remember thinking for two original dresses they so much similarities.

@Ulysses

I'm normally one for saying wear what you want as long as it's not another white floor length gown, but there's someone I follow on Instagram who made her own wedding dress and the pattern is really quite similar though the design is different. She is wearing a veil and carrying a bouquet of flowers mind so very bridal looking naturally.

www.instagram.com/p/BnWyAx7h1VX/ and www.instagram.com/p/BnyvbkuhseE/

There's someone else who I recall got married around the same time who made her dress too and it also had a floral design and I remember thinking for two original dresses they so much similarities.

But Ulysses, if brides choose to wear florals then they risk guests having the same thing! That’s their fault really. You cannot expect women guests to cut out loads and loads of options just in case the bride is wearing it. If you believe mn then guests can’t wear anything with a bit of white on it, nothing long or too bridesmaidy, nothing black, red or white, nothing to upstage the bride and now nothing floral if the background is white?! Its enough for female guests to just not wear a plain white dress. It beggars belief really and as I said before, there must be some serious brideZillas out there

Black red or “green” I meant

But that bridal floral dress is not typically bridal at all. People get married in all sorts of colours . You can't be going about trying to avoid what a bride might potentially wear . You can only avoid what colour she would most likely wear and that would be an all white/ivory number. Anything else is totally acceptable . I just don't understand how anyone can think that a floral dress with a white background is bridal

@Teawaster

But that bridal floral dress is not typically bridal at all. People get married in all sorts of colours . You can't be going about trying to avoid what a bride might potentially wear . You can only avoid what colour she would most likely wear and that would be an all white/ivory number. Anything else is totally acceptable . I just don't understand how anyone can think that a floral dress with a white background is bridal

Exactly!!

@Itsallhere

Black red or “green” I meant

I do agree with you and was going to add that. When I clicked on the original link it's the wedding dress it reminded me is all.

I think it would be a bit of an OMG moment if the guest wore that dress to the wedding in the photographs but like you say it's the risk you take. I'd like to think that as a bride I'd laugh it off but as a guest I'd be feel a bit awkward. But as many PPs have said they've turned up looking like a bridesmaid due to similar colour schemes etc.

I wore a sage green monsoon dress to my friends wedding many years ago. Just a pretty, dressy dress. I came out of a cubicle in the ladies at the reception to three bridesmaids from the other wedding sharing the reception venue wearing the same dress

When I got married, I made sure ours was the only wedding using the venue for the reception, just in case!

@FreekStar

I am not going to send the bride a pic! If I was the bride and some random guest I don't really know sent me their outfit for approval I'd think they were nuts! Do people really do this in real life?

No they don't.

I feel it would look a little narcissistic.

It's lovely and not too white

If I had received so many comments saying you can't wear that I wouldn't.

Each to their own though. But don't say you weren't warned

@HeadNorth

I had a beautiful and very large wedding dress that couldn’t have been mistaken for any old long white dress, BUT in the evening I changed to something much lighter and a little shorter for the dancing (Scottish ceilidh so needed to be able to move properly). It looked quite a lot like the OP’s dress. I didn’t think about it at the time, but afterwards when I looked through the photos I was quite pleased that no guests had worn white because I still was obviously the bride even though my dress was less of a traditional gown.

How on earth could you be bothered to give a shiny shit about this either before, during or after your wedding? It genuinely mattered to you that you were 'obviously the bride' at your post-wedding ceilidh?
Mumsnet truly introduces you to people whose inner workings are utterly bafffling. It is like a different species - does not compute!

Massive shocker - some people are different! I said it only occurred to me afterwards, certainly not before or during. Did you mean to come across as really rude or was it a happy accident? There’s just no need. I wasn’t rude to anyone and I don’t think I deserved that.

@FreekStar

I am not going to send the bride a pic! If I was the bride and some random guest I don't really know sent me their outfit for approval I'd think they were nuts! Do people really do this in real life?

You’re 100% correct.

I don’t know why I’m sitting here feeling quite upset my your comment @HeadNorth, but I am. It did actually quite matter to me that I looked like the bride on my wedding day, yes. Not at the time, but afterwards I looked at the photos of a room full of people and thought I looked really nice and a bit special for being the only woman dressed in white. I don’t think that makes me “a different species”, and just because you wouldn’t give a “shiny shit” it doesn’t mean I shouldn’t, does it? The point of this thread was the OP asking for opinions and just because mine is different to yours, doesn’t give you justification for poking fun at me. Just give your opinion on the OP, no need to start trying to make other people feel small.

Wow this is your second post responding to mine @BobbidyBob. I am sorry I touched a raw nerve, like I say, we are obviously very different people as your reactions are incomprehensible to me.

@Itsallhere

But bobbidy, if you wore a dress similar to the op’s as a second wedding dress (I presume you mean floral when you say similar?) then it’s your look out really if a guest is wearing a similar floral dress. Brides can “own” the white dress, but they can’t “own” florals even if the background is white. Any brides who feel that their guests shouldn’t wear a floral dress on white background, in my view, are complete bridezillas

Yes, I agree to an extent - the dress I wore in the evening wasn’t traditionally bridal so I wouldn’t/couldn’t have been surprised if someone else had the same or a similar dress to me, but I guess that’s why I think you should steer clear of long, predominantly white dresses entirely. It must be an individual perception thing because I absolutely wouldn’t describe that dress as floral. To me floral means big patterns, almost no background showing. That dress is white (with a floral pattern). It’s really not something I’d have noticed at the time, and actually if I’d looked back on the photos and someone had been there in OP’s dress I wouldn’t have felt annoyed or anything. It was just nice that none of the guests had even gone close to a white dress and I would always show the same courtesy as a guest.

@HeadNorth

Wow this is your second post responding to mine *@BobbidyBob*. I am sorry I touched a raw nerve, like I say, we are obviously very different people as your reactions are incomprehensible to me.

well, yes, I explained why I had responded twice - you upset me. Polite people would apologise but as you say, I guess we are completely different people.

You can give your opinion, even in AIBU, without making other posters feel shit. Radical, I know.

I doubt OP will wear it after so many negative comments, surely?!