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Is this too white for a wedding guest?

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FreekStar · 04/05/2021 21:10

After seeing discussion on this on another thread I'm worried this dress I've bought is now too 'white'- I thought the floral pattern made it ok, but maybe not... What do you think?

www.hobbs.com/product/rosabelle-silk-floral-dress/0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI.html#cgid=clothing-dresses&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI&pos=22

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Janegrey333 · 05/05/2021 19:52

Of course it’s perfectly fine. A bridal dress is very different. It’s lovely.

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FreekStar · 05/05/2021 19:57

For those criticising me for posting, It was only a Mumsnet thread that put doubts in my mind so I wanted to canvas opinion a bit. I bought the dress a while ago and never really considered it a problem because it had a print, not plain white or structured like most wedding dresses are. Opinions seem to to a 50/50 split.

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ShirleyPhallus · 05/05/2021 20:01

@FreekStar

For those criticising me for posting, It was only a Mumsnet thread that put doubts in my mind so I wanted to canvas opinion a bit. I bought the dress a while ago and never really considered it a problem because it had a print, not plain white or structured like most wedding dresses are. Opinions seem to to a 50/50 split.
I think you should post a vaguely bridal looking fascinator and a lacy garter belt and really set the cat along the pigeons Wink
Weeedonkey · 05/05/2021 20:02

@FreekStar

For those criticising me for posting, It was only a Mumsnet thread that put doubts in my mind so I wanted to canvas opinion a bit. I bought the dress a while ago and never really considered it a problem because it had a print, not plain white or structured like most wedding dresses are. Opinions seem to to a 50/50 split.
How well do you know the bride, could you run it past her just to be sure?

As in my previous post I think it’s fine as it’s patterned as you say and not structured but at least you’ll know then Smile

FlossieTeacakesFurCoat18 · 05/05/2021 20:04

It's a long white dress?! Just choose something else!

Frownette · 05/05/2021 20:33

Sounds good OP, glad you have made a decision, lovely dress.

I did have one friend say noooo when I tentatively asked her if I could wear a white cotton dress with pink details to her wedding so I metaphorically rolled up my sleeves and bought a blue one. It was just as we were buying a house! But it was an old friend.

I'm lucky now as I have a beautiful silk one in mid colours so that's weddings sorted.

Hope the event is fantastic.

Mandalay246 · 05/05/2021 20:39

Enjoy the wedding and your lovely dress OP.

Disfordarkchocolate · 05/05/2021 20:49

You are going to look smashing.

Snally82 · 05/05/2021 22:00

Wear the heck out of that dress OP, it’s stunning! Might send it to my friend who is struggling to find something she likes for my wedding

septemberismyfavouritemonth · 05/05/2021 22:01

It's patterned and floral so I'd say it's fine

AmbientLighting · 05/05/2021 22:11

Not appropriate for a wedding - too white. All the people saying it would be fine don't really know how the bride would feel so best to err on the side of caution imo.

I agree with this.

Enough people have said it's too white for you to realise that the bride may also think this.

CHILLLADIES · 06/05/2021 00:27

The fact that about half the people on here have said no means that about half the people at the wedding will think the same. So personally I wouldn't do it. But buy the dress anyway even if you don wear it, it's beautiful!

CHILLLADIES · 06/05/2021 00:28

Oh you have, good 😀

SaturdayRocks · 06/05/2021 00:50

I am trying to get my head around the sort of bride who - on arguably the best day of her life - isn’t concentrating on marrying her true love, and celebrating with her nearest and dearest, and looking the best she’s ever looked...

... and instead is concentrating on the outfit of some random plus one, who doesn’t even look as glowing and amazing as her, anyway.

🤯

Do these brides actually exist IRL?

twoponytails · 06/05/2021 01:07

@CHILLLADIES

The fact that about half the people on here have said no means that about half the people at the wedding will think the same. So personally I wouldn't do it. But buy the dress anyway even if you don wear it, it's beautiful!
That dress deserves to be worn in a much more deserving occasion, not an occasion where half the people will clutch their pearls because some random guest wore a white dress with floral designs which looks nothing like a wedding gown by the way! That dress deserves better than that. How dare she wear that and steal thunder. There are plenty of weddings around the world you can wear it where no one would give a shit and be happy that you turned up. Some people on here honestly with these non existing etiquettes where you restrict and limit yourselves to such extent that you suck out all the joy. Joy suckers 🤣. People really need to get over themselves especially the bridezillas in this country, totally miserable etiquette obsessed self centred lunatics. Any bride that turns up at their own wedding in that dress I will honestly laugh out loud and think what a cheap skate, can't even be bothered to wear a decent gown for her own wedding. Btw, I'm entitled to an opinion ha Grin
BunnyBerries · 06/05/2021 01:36

So, a guess wore a dress like this to my wedding, and I didn't notice, not once! I don't think anyone really noticed at the actual wedding either, as she wore a different coloured coat and shoes etc.

However... and I don't know why this is, maybe it is how the photographers process the photos, but it was very apparent in the wedding photos that she wore a white dress! (Even with patterns). Maybe it was because not a single other person (except me) wore a white one! I don't care at all, it doesn't bother me as she's lovely and I'm sure she looked really lovely on the day, so I hope no one else much cared. But it's quite funny to me how anyone else wearing white shows up VERY clearly in wedding photos against a backdrop of everyone else not. They're just photos though, but it made me think I would never try it myself!

BobbidyBob · 06/05/2021 07:52

@CHILLLADIES

The fact that about half the people on here have said no means that about half the people at the wedding will think the same. So personally I wouldn't do it. But buy the dress anyway even if you don wear it, it's beautiful!
Agreed, I’d be on-edge all day looking for other guests’ dirty looks or waiting for a comment from a random auntie or something.

I had a beautiful and very large wedding dress that couldn’t have been mistaken for any old long white dress, BUT in the evening I changed to something much lighter and a little shorter for the dancing (Scottish ceilidh so needed to be able to move properly). It looked quite a lot like the OP’s dress. I didn’t think about it at the time, but afterwards when I looked through the photos I was quite pleased that no guests had worn white because I still was obviously the bride even though my dress was less of a traditional gown.

diddl · 06/05/2021 09:51

On edge all day in case a stranger says something?

That's hilarious.

It's a beautiful dress, Op.

The shoes & fascinator are lovely.

I think some people are saying no just for the sake of it.

I wonder how some people manage to leave the house with such angst!

DancesWithTortoises · 06/05/2021 10:00

Am I the only person who doesn't notice what other people are wearing at weddings? I don't really care and I'm certainly not a judgey fucker like some here.

I notice the bride and bridesmaids and that's it really.

Mandalay246 · 06/05/2021 10:03

I wonder how some people manage to leave the house with such angst!

It's amazing isn't it - they must spend all their time worrying about what to wear and whether it will offend someone. I think this thread is one of the most bizarre things I've ever read. Have we travelled back in time several decades because honestly I thought that was the last time anyone worried about this sort of stuff.

Spied · 06/05/2021 10:06

Beautiful but not appropriate for a wedding imo.

motherloaded · 06/05/2021 10:12

Can you imagine if good manners and respect for others was as outdated as some posters pretend they are?

It would make for a very unpleasant world to live in.

HeadNorth · 06/05/2021 10:27

I had a beautiful and very large wedding dress that couldn’t have been mistaken for any old long white dress, BUT in the evening I changed to something much lighter and a little shorter for the dancing (Scottish ceilidh so needed to be able to move properly). It looked quite a lot like the OP’s dress. I didn’t think about it at the time, but afterwards when I looked through the photos I was quite pleased that no guests had worn white because I still was obviously the bride even though my dress was less of a traditional gown.

How on earth could you be bothered to give a shiny shit about this either before, during or after your wedding? It genuinely mattered to you that you were 'obviously the bride' at your post-wedding ceilidh?
Mumsnet truly introduces you to people whose inner workings are utterly bafffling. It is like a different species - does not compute!

Itsallhere · 06/05/2021 10:34

But bobbidy, if you wore a dress similar to the op’s as a second wedding dress (I presume you mean floral when you say similar?) then it’s your look out really if a guest is wearing a similar floral dress. Brides can “own” the white dress, but they can’t “own” florals even if the background is white. Any brides who feel that their guests shouldn’t wear a floral dress on white background, in my view, are complete bridezillas

whymewhyme · 06/05/2021 10:57

If it was me and i had doubts i would ask the bride, sent her a pic and see what she comes back with. That way you will know!