Is this too white for a wedding guest?

[FreekStar]

After seeing discussion on this on another thread I'm worried this dress I've bought is now too 'white'- I thought the floral pattern made it ok, but maybe not... What do you think?

www.hobbs.com/product/rosabelle-silk-floral-dress/0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI.html#cgid=clothing-dresses&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=0121-5906-3793L00-IVORY-MULTI&pos=22

I think it’s fine.

Bride to be here. Haven't read the whole thread because....19 pages... but I think it's fine. I certainly wouldn't be put out if a guest rocked up in this. It's hardly going to upstage the bride or be mistaken for a wedding dress.

Opinions from this thread feel like it’s a pretty even spread between yay and nay, so why not make a choice that offends/irritates/raises eyebrows and hoists inner judgy-pants from no one and just buy a different lovely dress?
How hard can it be to just wear something else?

The problem is that on MN threads different people say you can't wear black, navy or anything dark, green (unlucky), red (attention seeking) or anything too pastel ( bridal) it starts to narrow down the options!

I think if you bought it with no doubts, then wear it.

It's hardly a plain white dress, wich is surely what not wearing white means?

And if "anything" goes for bridal wear now-then what are women supposed to wear?

@WindowsSmindows

Don't do it, it's bridal.

Really? Bridal is white or cream usually. Not white with pink flowers on it. I wouldn't even call that a white dress, I'd call it a floral dress.

I wouldn't bat an eye lid as a bride of a guest was wearing this. Just have darker coloured accessories/hat.

I think the only problem is plain white or cream.

I'm not keen on the dress itself TBH but it's completely fine for a wedding and I'm gobsmacked anyone cares surprised anyone would think otherwise.

@cathyandclare

The problem is that on MN threads different people say you can't wear black, navy or anything dark, green (unlucky), red (attention seeking) or anything too pastel ( bridal) it starts to narrow down the options!

I thought unlucky green was just on stage.

Provide accessories are a colour within the dress (not white or cream) then yes. Pink shoes, bag and hat would be ideal. Pink wrap for the evening.

Actually if it’s the sort of wedding that guests, who don’t really know the bride pay £240 for a dress that isn’t that wearable, it probably isn’t the sort of wedding that’s anyone is going to give a monkeys.

I've seen it on a thread on here @Gwenhwyfar- so someone thinks it! I had bridesmaids in green though and a MIL in cream and black without giving it a second thought, so what do I know?!

Can't believe how much debate this has caused!

My gut feeling when I first this dress was that it would be perfect for the type of wedding it's likely to be and time of year! It's too late to return so will probably wear it unless I change my mind because i do have other dresses.

The bride is glamorous and beautiful, in her 20s and very well off. The wedding is at a beautiful venue and will have cost an absolute fortune. Her dress is most certainly going to be amazing and not something off the peg or boho style.

I'm 48 and cannot in a million years imagine that anyone would think I'm trying to steal the bride's limelight as we are a world away from each other in terms of age and beauty.

The dress code on the invite says 'wear anything you like as long as you are comfortable.

I hope I don't see any of you at the wedding!

You will look fabulous @FreekStar - it's a lovely dress and personally I think it's fine for a wedding.

Good decision, OP!

I think it's fine but I would wear a pink hat and jacket. I don't think it would look in any way bridal then.

I'm glad you like it @EllaPaella, I see your posts quite a lot and admire your style, so it's reassuring you approve!

Yes jacket will depend on the weather though- might be too warm if it's a hot day.

I'm thinking of getting this fascinator, and already have the pink shoes below.

www.phase-eight.com/product/winnie-oval-disc-fascinator-704721529.html#q=fascinator&is=false&sz=60&start=0&isSecondPage=false&pid=704721529&pos=49

www.johnlewis.com/carvela-kilo-heel-court-shoes-nude/p5080872?size=3

It actually doesn't sound like you are competing with the bride for the same 'style space' at all. Put that beautiful dress on and enjoy the wedding!

I think it's fine

Just wear pink or green accessories

I love it! Doesn't look bridal to me, just lovely and blossomy

Why did you ask op, if you were absolutely sure it was fine?

I think it's fine, just accessorise with pink or green as others have said. It's just a pretty floral dress and not something that looks like a deliberate attempt to upstage the bride at all. Enjoy the wedding!

If your gut feeling was that it was perfect it seems a waste of time to post and then get indignant about the replies. I thought you were genuinely unsure and concerned about offending the bride.

OP would it ruin your day? If you wore it would you feel nervous about people's reactions leading up to the wedding and then paranoid about what people are thinking on the day and afterwards? If not then I would wear it. If yes then consider is it worth it?