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I finally got the diamond earrings of my dreams but they HURT

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TheBeesKnee · 05/02/2021 21:38

DP bought me a pair of solitaire earrings as an anniversary gift. I've wanted a pair for about a decade so it was pretty special.

However, when they arrived I saw that they were a screw stem and it hurt like a bitch to put them in. And the them out. My ears bled and I've been wearing stainless steel earrings for a couple of weeks while my ears heal.

I don't know what to do. I kind of resent them now, even though they are beautiful.

Is this normal? I don't want to return them as it was a very good deal for diamonds (1ct total) and I LOVE how they sparkle but I can't deal with the pain.

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TheBeesKnee · 05/02/2021 21:39

And to take them out* that should say Confused sorry

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JaquelineBeanstalk · 05/02/2021 21:40

Can you get the stones re-set in a more comfortable fitting?

Londoncatshed · 05/02/2021 21:43

I would take them (when you can) to a jeweller and see what they say. Maybe they can be altered slightly to allow a little more space between your ear and screw?

Why did they hurt to put in? Can you attach a photograph?

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TheBeesKnee · 05/02/2021 21:48

JaquelineBeanstalk

Can you get the stones re-set in a more comfortable fitting?

Yes that's the final step I suppose but I'm trying to avoid spending money, as ridiculous as that sounds. We've had a rough few years with infertility and we're now saving money for IVF.

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TheBeesKnee · 05/02/2021 21:49

Londoncatshed

I tried to push them in and it wouldn't budge. So I screwed them in, which worked, but hurt A LOT.

Photo duly attached.

I finally got the diamond earrings of my dreams but they HURT
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Peakedin1997 · 05/02/2021 21:53

They probably just hurt because they are thicker than your usual earrings. Wait till your ears heal then try them again with a bit of Vaseline.

cheeseybean · 05/02/2021 21:55

Yea you're just going to have to bear with the pain for a while until your ears get used to them. The stem is probably thicker than what you're used to thanks to the screw part.
You'll get there!

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TheBeesKnee · 05/02/2021 21:58

Peakedin1997

cheeseybean

Oh god. So when my ears are used to it, will they just go in like normal earrings or...?

I'm thinking of giving it another go tomorrow.

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Apileofballyhoo · 05/02/2021 21:59

I wonder if you could get thicker stem earrings without the threading to make the holes bigger? Is there such a thing as stem thickness?

Username7521 · 05/02/2021 22:00

I have a pair with the screw in the back. My ears have never got used to them.
I’m currently wearing 0.2ct and live in them.
I hope you have better luck op!

Justmuddlingalong · 05/02/2021 22:01

Ouch. I've never come across earrings with screw posts like that. What's the reason, less chance of them falling out?

Craftycorvid · 05/02/2021 22:02

Have to say I’ve never seen earring fittings like this - sorry, realise that’s not helpful! I’d find a good jeweller as pp suggest.

indemMUND · 05/02/2021 22:03

I have multiple ear piercings and have done for over a decade but I've never seen that before and didn't know it was a thing. Wtf?

Peakedin1997 · 05/02/2021 22:05

I've got several piercings and I've worn jewellery with a screw on the end, and the screw itself has never been a particular problem.

However, it is usually a bit sore if you try to put a thicker piece of jewellery in than you are used to wearing. What I would do is put the new jewellery in using a blob of Vaseline, then leave it in for a few days to let it heal. However, I guess you probably won't want to sleep in diamond earrings.

Do you own any other earrings which have a thick stem that you can wear regularly and sleep in to stretch your piercings a bit? Then the diamond ones would hopefully go in more easily in future.

Toddlerteaplease · 05/02/2021 22:05

Ouch. They look very painful! Never seen anything like them.

Justkeeprollingalong · 05/02/2021 22:06

Never seen an earring like that- looks like an instrument of torture!

ginislife · 05/02/2021 22:06

Oh god, this is worrying. I have a pair on order that I've paid a lot of money for that I'm expecting to look like these. They'd better not hurt !!!

MeepleMe · 05/02/2021 22:06

Never seen earrings like this ever, seems totally unnecessary. I'd get them reset when you can afford it OP. Maybe the cost could be your next birthday/Christmas present from DP or family.

Peakedin1997 · 05/02/2021 22:08

I've got body piercing jewellery with a screw on the end, eg a belly button bar where the ball screws onto the end after you put it in. The screw doesn't make it more uncomfortable to put in unless it's a very tight fit.

harriethoyle · 05/02/2021 22:08

Ouch 😬 I would get them reset if you can. They're too nice not to wear!

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TheBeesKnee · 05/02/2021 22:09

Apileofballyhoo

So I have 16g earrings in at the moment to try and stretch the opening a bit from an 18g.

indemMUND and Justmuddlingalong

To be fair there's no way these are falling out Hmm the second time I wore them I didn't even bother with putting the back on and they stayed out.

Username7521

Oh noo, do you just never take them off?!

I tried sleeping with them in but the stabbing was uncomfortable as I sleep on my side usually.

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cheeseybean · 05/02/2021 22:09

Yes it'll be fine. The screw back is actually great because they are more secure in your ear. Many expensive diamond earrings come like this, I have a few in different positions in my ears and they've all taken time to heal perfectly but now I don't even notice them and I sleep in them. They never come out!

IsFuzzyBeagMise · 05/02/2021 22:10

The post looks thick. I can only wear earrings that have thin posts at the moment. I got two new pairs recently but can't wear them for long; they're too sore.

I hope they work out for you op. That's very annoying and painful!

Username7521 · 05/02/2021 22:11

No I never wear these ones! I wear the smaller ones!

NewCatMummy · 05/02/2021 22:12

I’ve got similar- put them in and leave them- I wear mine for months at a time once they’re settled

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