What instantly ages?

[MadameNaice]

Whether that be clothing or cosmetics, I'm interested to hear your opinions. I have a few of my own thoughts on this, though I could be way off the mark.

Am in need of a boost and think I might be unwittingly ageing myself before my time.

Thanks.

Asking to speak to the manager.

My gran used to put me in a see through rain bonnet when I was pre-school age. Still remember going to the shops with her wearing one!

Having the name Doreen or Brenda.

Driving a Saab or a Reliant Robin.

I think one of the most ageing things is an unhappy or abusive relationship.

It’s an utter joy to see women of all ages recover their natural eye sparkle after years of being dulled staring into the dead abyss where their DP’s heart/soul should be.

Good company always makes me feel younger and any lines just emphasise the smiles.

@Soutiner

Asking to speak to the manager.

So if something is very wrong and the person I'm dealing with doesn't have the power/skill/knowledge to fix it I should just walk away because as soon as I ask for the manager I turn 70 or something ?

Poverty, being taken advantage of, not having time or room for any joy because you are looking after everyone else, poor health, chronic pain. Actual things that a lot of people have to deal with rather than giving a shit whether the one pair of boots that they can afford make them look old.

All the rest is window dressing. Maybe when people are judging how haggard someone's haircut or lack of/too much make up makes them look, maybe consider that there is a real life woman underneath, doing the best she can with the resources she has.

@MaudebeGonne

Poverty, being taken advantage of, not having time or room for any joy because you are looking after everyone else, poor health, chronic pain. Actual things that a lot of people have to deal with rather than giving a shit whether the one pair of boots that they can afford make them look old.

All the rest is window dressing. Maybe when people are judging how haggard someone's haircut or lack of/too much make up makes them look, maybe consider that there is a real life woman underneath, doing the best she can with the resources she has.

Well said.

Tbh a lot of posts show how ridiculous ,subjective and bonkers it all is.

A lost of posters are using the "fear" of ageing,looking older/your age to ridicule and point out everything that they think OTHER women are doing wrong , from behaviour to looks to size to colouring to accessories and so on.

It also has a lot in common with a few other lists like "what is tacky/common/chavy" , "what is frumpy/mumsy/looks like you've let yourself go" .

If you're old ,you're old! No one is going to mistake you for 30 at 60/70!

Deal with it. Wear what you like ,what you feel comfortable and confident in, most importantly wear what make you happy and brings a smile on your face.

So much time,effort,personal preference/individuality wasted. So much angst and feeling inadequate. In the end we'll all look old if we live long enough. Whether we look good or not is in the eye of the beholder.

Really wish there was a Like button on here Maudbegone. Spot on.

MaudebeGonne, what you’re saying is true, and I agree that poverty, stress and illness are very ageing. Many of us posting here have probably experienced this. I will put my hand up to having experienced health problems that not only aged my appearance but meant that for a while I literally washed with the most basic soap and wore clean clothes but otherwise did f all towards my appearance. I lost interest in fashion which had always been an interest of mine. It was horrible.

I don’t think this thread was intended to be unkind, and on the S&B board I enjoy sharing what I think about S&B! It’s generally a fun topic. There are plenty of boards and threads on here for us all to read and contribute to.

Oh and fleeces, especially if they are his and hers.

@cakeallday

White or grey hair - I am the owner of a fair amount of white hair, but I dye it because it's incredibly aging.

'Sensible' shoes or boots. Trainers are better if you need comfort (I do!).

Jeans that are ill-fitting or an unfashionable cut eg. bootcut.

A waterproof coat worn anywhere except on outdoor sports/activities.

Conversely, I don't think anyone is too old to wear something fashionable and 'young'. Wear it if it makes you feel good!

A waterproof coat worn anywhere except on outdoor sports/activities.

Yes to that.

@HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee

Nude lipstick,think Claudia winkleman,you’ll look like a cadaver Matchy match shoes & bag. Just no

I think matchy matchy anything is very ageing - it”s all eclectic for me - not pink hair, blue glasses, green dress and orange coat - but maybe a couple mis-matched things - adds the unexpected!

@AccidentallyOnPurpose

Tbh a lot of posts show how ridiculous ,subjective and bonkers it all is.

A lost of posters are using the "fear" of ageing,looking older/your age to ridicule and point out everything that they think OTHER women are doing wrong , from behaviour to looks to size to colouring to accessories and so on.

It also has a lot in common with a few other lists like "what is tacky/common/chavy" , "what is frumpy/mumsy/looks like you've let yourself go" .

If you're old ,you're old! No one is going to mistake you for 30 at 60/70!

Deal with it. Wear what you like ,what you feel comfortable and confident in, most importantly wear what make you happy and brings a smile on your face.

So much time,effort,personal preference/individuality wasted. So much angst and feeling inadequate. In the end we'll all look old if we live long enough. Whether we look good or not is in the eye of the beholder.

Excellent post😊

35 + wearing Converse or trainers as casual wear.
What the fuck are people over 35 supposed to wear on their feet then?

I actually have no problem with looking aged so to speak. Honestly I am happy to look older. In my twenties I had no concept of who I was. I was continually looking around worrying what others thought of me. I hit 40 and I have so much more confidence. I have looked around and I don't believe I'm alone in that.

Walking through my town centre it seems the older women take more risks as a rule and it looks fabulous. Whether I would choose to dress the same isn't the issue. I have looked at younger people and when they seem so insecure (adjusting clothes , constantly checking their hair or makeup ) I feel grateful I'm older and past all that worry.

So honestly I'm ok if something ages me. I wear what I want when I want. I have my hair how I want when I want.if it makes me look 41 or 61 to others I don't care. That's the beauty of ageing.

I think if someone doesn't appear to take care of themselves then it could either be that they are in a bad place or that they simply don't want to , which is ok too.

We apply the most ridiculous hierarchy to ourselves. I'm not griping at you OP just more reflecting that I don't see ageing as a bad thing anymore. I don't look 25 and god knows I don't want to be 25 either. So yes thinks may be ageing but it's not a negative.

Well said Maude . We ate privileged if we are in a position to enjoy clothes -even trawling through op shops.

Fringes - how can they be ageing - must be better than a slap head???

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@ZenNudist

Grey hair yes aging but also can look very stylish. I also know very young women who die hair unusual grey pink shades and it looks fabulous and not aging. A mum at school wears her brown unstyled hair streaked with grey, just doesn't care but it makes her look old.

Unstyled hair.

Weight is the worst.

Old fashioned tailoring.

Black bootcut trousers, "sensible" black shoes and colourful floral tops.

Your skin. Dull skin = aging, massive crows feet on really quite young women = aging
Anyone with sun damage, scrawny necks and aged looking hands. But nothing can be done about this.

I disagree with the posts above saying fleece are aging. Leisure gear is worn by all ages. On thin women clearly dressed for fitness (outdoor activities etc) then it's not aging.

Anyone with sun damage, scrawny necks and aged looking hands. But nothing can be done about this.

You can avoid the sun in the first place.

The name Carol or Carole.

Those blonde and caramel highlights. Foundation - just sits in your wrinkles. Yellow teeth.

I think what this thread proves is that no matter what you look like, how you wear your hair, how you dress, how you accessorise, etc - there's always someone out there who will judge you badly for it. Some frankly batshit judgments on here.

Just look in the mirror and make your own decisions as to what makes you feel happy/comfortable/confident.

I don’t think this thread was intended to be unkind, and on the S&B board I enjoy sharing what I think about S&B! It’s generally a fun topic. There are plenty of boards and threads on here for us all to read and contribute to.

I agree. It's obvious that some people are taking offence at comments they believe are applicable to them. It's an anonymous forum - who honestly cares what other people think!

I'm also OK with ageing. I actually wore a pixie crop for most of my life (9-35) but grew it out since then and have worn it longer as I reckoned a crop might start looking a bit severe, but I think the time will come again when it will be the right look again.

My mum is 70 and has said 'Sod it!' to the 'Rules' and has kept dyeing her hair, albeit a paler colour, and wearing a lot of eyeshadow because that's her thing.

MIL is over 70, still dyes her hair into a dark bob, wears bright red lipstick and lots of bright colours clothes-wise.

Neither of them looks young, but they both look great IMO - looking good doesn't have to be about looking 'young'