Having lip fillers on Friday!

[dreamadream1]

Hi everyone

I've researched for the past year on who I'd like to do my filler.

I'm going with a well known, fully qualified with 4 years experience and a very good reputation.

I'm so nervous and I'm still undecided whether to have 0.5 or 1ml?

I don't have thin lips, just my top lip disappears when I smile, my bottom lip is plumper.

Any tips on how to reduce swelling, bruising etc?

I've been told to avoid caffeine, ibuprofen and aspirin 48 hours before and they give you an aftercare package with lip balm, an ice pack and other bite.

Anyone have any experience?

Thank you x

I think everyone here has got me wrong.

I agree that social media has a huge detrimental effect on young girls and how we "should" look.

I follow people like Malin Anderson etc because I love how they show their cellulite and wobbly bits like some other normal women, I know being skinny is normal for some too.

I'm a size 14 and 5ft 3 with big boobs and a big bum, my nose has a bump and I'm definitely not perfect, I have cellulite, stretch marks, a wobbly tummy, but I don't lack confidence. I wear a bit of make up for work but most of the time you'll find me in loungewear with my hair up and no make up on.

I definitely do not want to look deformed or take it too far. The girls at the clinic said to me they will not go anywhere near my lips again for at least 8/9 months and even then they'd refuse to put anything more than 0.5ml in just as a top up.

For those who've said I'm filling a hole because I'm suffering grief/depression/anxiety, is simply not true. I have been that way since 14 and I'm just a normal girl.

I'd been looking into getting my lips a little plumper for a long time and did a lot of research. It wasn't done on a whim and I didn't take a photo of a celebrity with me to ask them to make me have lips like them.

None of my friends or partner thought I needed it!

I like how they look and that's all that matters, I certainly wouldn't want any more.

If I'm ever lucky enough to have a little girl, I'll tell her how I was taught, beauty comes from within, but if she was 30 and wanted a little work done then what could I possibly do?

Thank you to those that have been kind and to the people who have been a little less kind, maybe think a little before you speak.

@dreamadream1 upthread you mentioned someone from Geordie Shore implying you thought she had taken it too far. Isn't that judging her?

@wonkschops I wouldn't say I was judging her, it was my opinion that she'd taken it too far. I didn't say anything nasty.

But how many posters on this thread have said something nasty as opposed to saying they think yours were unnecessary & dont look particularly natural?

@wonkschops

But how many posters on this thread have said something nasty as opposed to saying they think yours were unnecessary & dont look particularly natural?

I think this depends on your definition of nasty. Some of the comments have been really unpleasant. And totally uncalled for. One poster even sneered “I’m sorry you’re lacking in self confidence” when the op has no such issues nor did she say she has. She can be fully confident and decide she’d like fuller lips.

One thing that’s guaranteed to annoy me is the way some women judge other women. They just want to rip at them.

The ops lips look absolutely fine and every single poster knows it. And even if you disagree with fillers for whatever random reason, it is her choice, and that should be respected.

I would honestly rather be injecting myself than be sneering at other women then playing wide eyed innocent when called out on it.

[quote wonkschops]@dreamadream1 upthread you mentioned someone from Geordie Shore implying you thought she had taken it too far. Isn't that judging her? [/quote]
Yes, that’s a tad ironic, to say the least.

I would honestly rather be injecting myself than be sneering at other women then playing wide eyed innocent when called out on it.

What a silly thing to say. You really would not so why say that? You are being disingenuous.

I think this depends on your definition of nasty. Some of the comments have been really unpleasant.

I would say the majority of comments that weren't positive were no more nasty than the OPs opinion on someone else with fillers.

One thing that’s guaranteed to annoy me is the way some women judge other women. They just want to rip at them.

I think it is very simplistic to say that comments that disagree are all just judgy. One thing that's guaranteed to annoy me is women telling other women what they should have opinions on & what those opinions should be.

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The ops lips look absolutely fine and every single poster knows it.

So your opinion speaks for all of us?

I’m speaking for common sense.

in your opinion...

@wonkschops

in your opinion...

Well that’s pleasant, if you don’t think her lips look fine then why comment?

I didn't though did I?

But for those that did why not? and why is it different to the OP commenting on another example?

@Bluntness100

I’m speaking for common sense.

Common sense? That’s actually hilarious.

Posters are permitted opinions and they have given them in a perfectly polite way. If the moderators thought otherwise, they would act. No poster should deign to tell other posters what to post.

@wonkschops

But for those that did why not? and why is it different to the OP commenting on another example?

Indeed. It makes no sense - as in nonsense - far less the much lauded “common sense”.

Correction:

No poster should take it upon herself...

Hey OP it was me that said to be aware of what hole you're filling and I didn't mean depression/anxiety which I can't comment on as I don't know you at all.

I was talking more widely in terms of us as women.

Every culture has an 'ideal' and some of these are extreme, for example fillers in the arse because big bums are coveted or neck rings because long necks are the desired look.

What I am saying is that NOTHING that we do in terms of how we look is solely for us. It is a societal demand which we can buy into or not.

Of course we all have to do this to some extent. We have to get dressed etc. But we DON'T have to go to extremes. And lip fillers are an extreme.

Cosmetic enhancement is NOT for us as women. It's to make us feel more at ease within a society which demands it. The most truly confident women do not have it.

If you choose to have it - totally up to the individual, but don't be tricked into thinking it's for you. It's not.

@evenmoreforthemoor

Hey OP it was me that said to be aware of what hole you're filling and I didn't mean depression/anxiety which I can't comment on as I don't know you at all.

I was talking more widely in terms of us as women.

Every culture has an 'ideal' and some of these are extreme, for example fillers in the arse because big bums are coveted or neck rings because long necks are the desired look.

What I am saying is that NOTHING that we do in terms of how we look is solely for us. It is a societal demand which we can buy into or not.

Of course we all have to do this to some extent. We have to get dressed etc. But we DON'T have to go to extremes. And lip fillers are an extreme.

Cosmetic enhancement is NOT for us as women. It's to make us feel more at ease within a society which demands it. The most truly confident women do not have it.

If you choose to have it - totally up to the individual, but don't be tricked into thinking it's for you. It's not.

That’s what I understood by your post.

No poster should deign to tell other posters what to post.

That's very much @Bluntness100 MO tbf!

@wonkschops

No poster should deign to tell other posters what to post.

That's very much @Bluntness100 MO tbf!

I changed it from “deign” because I do not think she speaks from a position of superiority in this site.

...on this site.

Good point!

Lovely lips OP! Before & after.

You do not have to explain your reasons or choices to strangers on the internet, sorry was sucked into such bitterness.

You do you and I think they look lovely either way. Lip filler isn't forever it will fade out regardless!

I think it will do your anxiety much better to stop reading these comments. You asked for tips and advice and then you got the job done - don't let anyone make you feel shit for it.

I love well done lip filler and it really pisses me off when people are derogatory about another women choices. This is an each to their own kind of thing and just because you have naturally full lips doesn’t mean you can’t want them fuller 🤷‍♀️.

I have mediumish sized lips naturally but also currently have 2mls of filler in and a appointment for another 1ml early next year. My personal preference is for the dramatic look because that’s what I like! 😁

Op your lips look gorgeous in the before and after. I think your practitioner has done a great job and really kept the shape of your lips with the plumpness. It really suits you!