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Having lip fillers on Friday!

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dreamadream1 · 02/12/2020 23:02

Hi everyone

I've researched for the past year on who I'd like to do my filler.

I'm going with a well known, fully qualified with 4 years experience and a very good reputation.

I'm so nervous and I'm still undecided whether to have 0.5 or 1ml?

I don't have thin lips, just my top lip disappears when I smile, my bottom lip is plumper.

Any tips on how to reduce swelling, bruising etc?

I've been told to avoid caffeine, ibuprofen and aspirin 48 hours before and they give you an aftercare package with lip balm, an ice pack and other bite.

Anyone have any experience?

Thank you x

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SpeckledyHen · 07/12/2020 22:03

What a sad world we live in now when beautiful healthy women feel that it is necessary to deform themselves .

baubled · 07/12/2020 22:11

Do you know what I find 10x worse than lip fillers? Women who put other women down and say rude shit

upsidedownroundabout · 07/12/2020 22:16

To be fair, I don't think people are putting the OP down. Most people have been entirely complimentary. I think people are reflecting on the state of society.

naughtyelfs · 07/12/2020 22:23

Women who put other women down and say rude shit

What rude shit?

Ginfordinner · 07/12/2020 22:24

@baubled

Do you know what I find 10x worse than lip fillers? Women who put other women down and say rude shit
I don't think that telling the OP that she is already beautiful and doesn't need lip fillers is rude and unsupportive Confused
naughtyelfs · 07/12/2020 22:26

Apparently it is & we should all say we love the incredible natural look of lip fillers because...

baubled · 07/12/2020 22:36

@Ginfordinner sorry are they the only comments on this thread that I could be referring to? I could swear I was talking about the ones which are actually rude, I remember the word travesty being used just for one.

baubled · 07/12/2020 22:37

@naughtyelfs are they words that you're putting in my mouth?

doadeer · 07/12/2020 22:43

You are a beautiful woman. Whatever you decide. I thought they were lovely before but if the filler makes you happy and you can afford it why not

naughtyelfs · 07/12/2020 22:55

@baubled No they are just words

bunintheoven88 · 07/12/2020 22:57

I also think your lips were lovely to begin with OP and they still look lovely now, however as PP's have commented, they look like every other injected lips on instagram. And if that's the look you want and your happy with them then that's up to you.
I was in the same situation, everybody told me not to have them done, I had full lips already etc but I was determined and did it.
And yes I did like how they looked for a while, but as the filler dissolved I got used to how they were originally and didnt get them done again.
I think its abit of a phase thing for a lot of people, however obviously for some it becomes an obsession. Some of the lips on the Botchedsurgeries reddit page are really worrying.

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dreamadream1 · 08/12/2020 06:16

Thank you to everyone who's been kind. I really don't understand the need to be so rude, for some of you especially the lady who said "this is a pisstake surely?" Anyone would think I'd had them blown up like Chloe from Geordie Shore.

I wouldn't have any more than this, completely happy with them now.

I did it for myself, nobody else. My partner was against it.

I'll leave the thread now as only wanted some tips from people who'd had them or any advice, I suffer with depression and anxiety anyway, I don't want to be bashed online.

Hope you all have a lovely Christmas x

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dreamadream1 · 08/12/2020 07:01

@Stepintochristmas

It is a sad state of affairs when this is what women feel they need to do to be attractive. Our culture has become obsessed with appearance, no thanks to social media and constantly seeing photos of ourselves.

OP you were beautiful before. Now you look like you have lip fillers. You say you suffer from anxiety and depression. This is not the way to fix that. I’m really sorry that you lack self confidence.

I definitely do not lack self confidence. I was raised to believe that you can only appear beautiful if you're beautiful on the inside and I try my best to be kind to everyone. I was confident before and I'm still confident now. My depression and anxiety is based on grief. My lips were plump before, I agree but I wanted them a little plumper and that's what I got. I'm very very happy with the results and that's all that matters.
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naughtyelfs · 08/12/2020 07:35

Anyone would think I'd had them blown up like Chloe from Geordie Shore.

I'm sure she thinks hers look good though.

Roussette · 08/12/2020 07:54

I'm very very happy with the results and that's all that matters

Yes, you're right. If you are happy with the result, that is good. Just make sure though that you do appreciate the beauty you already have

diddlediddle · 08/12/2020 08:27

@baubled you might want to look at your communication style, it's very passive aggressive. If you're like that in real life I expect you get into trouble in your personal relationships quite often. Being assertive but straightforward with your opinions is much healthier and helpful both IRL and on here.

namechangefail2020 · 08/12/2020 08:29

Will never understand this craze but you're a lovely looking girl either way,not being mean just don't get it at all

TornadoOfSouls · 08/12/2020 09:07

OP, if you’re still reading, I hope you don’t feel you’ve been bashed on here - if you read the comments on here again I hope you’ll see that some of the harsh words here are not directed at you but at a culture that tells young women they’re not good enough etc. The word ‘distorted’ referred to the lens through which some people now view what looks ‘natural’, for example. I doubt anyone here thinks you look distorted - on the contrary, everyone thinks you look lovely, but because your lips were already lovely, your wish to change them is disconcerting.
I’m not going to start banging a feminist drum here, but I suggest you do try to look at the bigger picture. Individual choice is important, but choices aren’t made in a vacuum, and that’s what a lot of posters are talking about here.
Please don’t take what is really criticism of society personally.
I wish you the very best with your recovery from depression and anxiety.

Whattodotho · 08/12/2020 09:45

I used to get them done. I'm late 20s now. Someone else mentioned in pictures you look good but can tell when talking. I have 2 daughters now and won't get it done as you spend a week looking like you've been punched in the mouth. How would I explain that to them. My partner is mixed raced and has big lips one my daughters has his lips and the other has mine. Even though I liked them and it probably made me more attractive. The thought of my daughter thinking her lips aren't beautiful because they are thin just can't risk that. I deff wanted them from consuming social media and the image of big lips being in my face non stop. You can think its for yourself but that's why people really want this stuff when they already have lovely lips. You'll move on to botox and then the lip beautician will probably recommend a little bit of cheek filler and it never ends. Sad stuff.

baubled · 08/12/2020 09:56

@diddlediddle if this situation was playing out in real life then yes I would react exactly the same! Can you imagine a woman saying oh I've had fillers, I'm really happy with them and a bunch of other woman then telling her it's a travesty or she shouldn't have bothered, 100% I would turn around and say what I have in this thread.

mistermagpie · 08/12/2020 10:40

I don't think they look especially natural and you certainly looked just as nice before, but they look good OP and you obviously like them, plus you've had a very good attitude to all the critics here which is even more attractive than your lips.

Stepintochristmas · 08/12/2020 10:41

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Whattodotho · 08/12/2020 11:04

Yeah it honestly bloody hurts. I would have the numbing cream on for half an hour extra and it still felt like being stabbed with lots of needles. You don't get that done unless you think you 'need' it. Never again 😂

doadeer · 08/12/2020 11:09

It depends on whether you think for something to look good it needs to look natural.

Lots of people dye their hair and it looks lovely but it doesn't look like untreated hair.

Red lipstick can look lovely but it's obviously an adornment.

The lips in the pictures don't look natural but they can still look nice.

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