Having lip fillers on Friday!

[dreamadream1]

Hi everyone

I've researched for the past year on who I'd like to do my filler.

I'm going with a well known, fully qualified with 4 years experience and a very good reputation.

I'm so nervous and I'm still undecided whether to have 0.5 or 1ml?

I don't have thin lips, just my top lip disappears when I smile, my bottom lip is plumper.

Any tips on how to reduce swelling, bruising etc?

I've been told to avoid caffeine, ibuprofen and aspirin 48 hours before and they give you an aftercare package with lip balm, an ice pack and other bite.

Anyone have any experience?

Thank you x

With all due respect... why did you post before and after pics if you didn't want opinions? Because that just invites posters to comment. It's human nature and because your lips are very full and gorgeous, even more so.

You could have just asked tips or advice from those that had had fillers without showing us what they looked like if you had wanted to....

The OP asked for advice on the volume of product to try. Why does this justify targeted personal comments about her appearance, mental health, character etc? Some of these replies are really quite rude and I really feel for the poor OP having to read such uncalled for comments.

@dreamadream1 Your lips look lovely, before and after- the only thing that matters is that you're happy with them! Don't let some of these comments get to you, they must have nothing better to do than to come on a post which is clearly about something they don't like and comment opinions that were not asked for 🤷🏻‍♀️

I posted before and after pic to the 3 or 4 girls who replied to my original question.

nobody asked for before and after pics. just how it went and were you happy.

I've been on MN forever and I just know you can't post pics and not expect comments.

OP I agree you look like a very attractive woman from the photos. I also agree that you have handled the comments on here very gracefully.

Your lips before were very prominent and pretty, fuller than most. The work you've had done looks like 'good' work and you are pleased with it, which is what matters to you. I don't think it's rude to say that it does look like 'done lips' though is it? Fake and good aren't mutually exclusive, it depends what you are after. I think because you've described them as natural this has provoked comment that you aren't happy with.

You of course have the right to spend your money how you like and change your appearance how you wish. Nevertheless there is always a valid discussion about what drives us to go to these lengths to attain standards of beauty and who is dictating what these standards are. I found it interesting how you describe your top lip changing in appearance when you smile. I wonder how much time has been spent studying this 'defect' in the mirror/selfies and what you are looking at in comparison to come to this conclusion. I agree with the PP who has said that a lot of the 'against' comments on the thread are not criticising you personally but are sadness and frustration at where we have got to when someone who looks like you has felt they need to do this to look right. That's how I felt reading your OP.

They definitely don’t look natural but they don’t look bad either.
I can tell you’ve had lip filler but it’s the right amount, and doesn’t make you look awful.

Still seems unnecessary to me as you didn’t have thin lips to start with.

@BigusBumus

Is love fillers in my nasty 50 year old lips. Just to puff them up a bit and even put the lines. I think the OPs look great tbh.

There's absolutely nothing "nasty" about these lips. They do their job, don't they?

OP your lips really did look lovely and full before.

The irony is that lots of people will be getting fillers to get the size of lips you originally had in the first place.

The irony is that lots of people will be getting fillers to get the size of lips you originally had in the first place.

I thought the same thing. They were unusually full before the extra filler.

I love them. I've always wanted them but I'm too scared (needle phobia)

Ignore a the ignorant/nasty comments.

@Whattodotho

I used to get them done. I'm late 20s now. Someone else mentioned in pictures you look good but can tell when talking. I have 2 daughters now and won't get it done as you spend a week looking like you've been punched in the mouth. How would I explain that to them. My partner is mixed raced and has big lips one my daughters has his lips and the other has mine. Even though I liked them and it probably made me more attractive. The thought of my daughter thinking her lips aren't beautiful because they are thin just can't risk that. I deff wanted them from consuming social media and the image of big lips being in my face non stop. You can think its for yourself but that's why people really want this stuff when they already have lovely lips. You'll move on to botox and then the lip beautician will probably recommend a little bit of cheek filler and it never ends. Sad stuff.

This is really inspiring. You addressed your body dysmorphia so that your daughter wouldn't inherit your anxieties. You should be really proud of yourself xx

I just put 'natural look' into Pinterest and the images that came back are most certainly not what I would call natural and fresh. I guess that is another thread though.

@Roussette

I'm very very happy with the results and that's all that matters

Yes, you're right. If you are happy with the result, that is good. Just make sure though that you do appreciate the beauty you already have

Exactly this.

You're beautiful @FlyingByTheSeatof & your lips were fab before. I'm not a fan of the lip filler look but it is your choice.

But your lips & skin & face shape are gorgeous as they are.

OP - you look nice in all the pictures. I hope you find some peace and comfort in the midst of your grief

@Changi

The irony is that lots of people will be getting fillers to get the size of lips you originally had in the first place.

I thought the same thing. They were unusually full before the extra filler.

Yes, I thought so too. It seemed bizarre given what the lips looked like in the first photograph.

AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken

Thank you. I know I've not written what I've said that polite but it's just tiring seeing these posts. Makes me feel so sad the world my girls are going to grow up in.

I put money on op getting more work done. If you're not happy with your already plump lovely lips and being 30 now she'll probably struggle when the wrinkles and cheeks flatten. I just don't think people do this without being insecure about themselves. It's mega painful mega bucks and doesn't last long at all.

I used to say the same I'm happy with myself just do it because I want to. I was one those insta model girls. But I was never happy no matter how many likes I got or shoots I did for people I just never felt good enough. Always trying to perfect the next part of my body I didn't think was perfect. Now I've had kids I'm here happier than before in pj's and a messy bun and can finally leave the house without makeup. 😂

@dreamadream1

I'd definitely recommend getting them done if it would make you feel more confident. X

What you said above is what gets me about any plastic surgery.

You said elsewhere that it is for you and no one else.

So WHY is confidence an issue?

Confidence is an issue because sometimes as women we are made to feel that we should
Look a certain way. This has happened since the beginning of mankind - earrings, make up, tattoos etc etc.

The pressure nowadays to conform to society's notion of 'beauty' is MASSIVE and yes, leaves probably the majority of us feeling under confident, most of the time.

But if we go around saying 'it's for me' all the time, we miss the point and we do young girls zero favours. I wear make up, I have pierced ears, I like to dress nicely but none of it is for me. It's expected, as a society, that I should and I make this very clear to my teenage daughter and the young girls that I teach.

The issue here is with extremes. And yes, fillers are extreme, as is any other kind of cosmetic work, particularly people who risk their life and health with surgeries and GAs.

It's a major issue and if we don't consider WHY we need more confidence or admit to WHY we have this work done, we carry on playing into a society which has unrealistic expectations of women and one which continues to celebrate beauty over intelligence and kindness.

You sound like a really nice person OP who is having a tough time. And if fillers cheer you up, go for it, but do try and consider where this need comes from and what 'hole' fillers are actually filling. It runs a lot deeper than most think.

Gosh the comments on here are just awful.

Op, your lips look lovely ans they did before. I honestly don’t know what’s wrong with some folks. The way they rip other women down ans then say “well I’m trying to be supportive”. Like that hides it.

Why is it wrong to question why some people (largely women) feel they need to inject stuff into their lips or bums? And to discuss where that comes from?

Not everything is 'the pressure of social media'. People can just not like how they look and want to improve it based on their own opinions on what would look better. Fucking hell. I've had lip fillers a few times over the years (only once they have dissolved, so back to the same size) because the proportions compared to the rest of my face were ridiculous, and have not gone down the slippery slope everyone talks about. Okay, some people get addicted. Those people should be responsible for themselves. It doesn't mean everyone will or should be shamed for doing something they want to do. OP, they look lovely!

@wonkschops

Why is it wrong to question why some people (largely women) feel they need to inject stuff into their lips or bums? And to discuss where that comes from?

Nothing at all wrong with questioning it. In fact, it's an actively good thing.

@wonkschops

Why is it wrong to question why some people (largely women) feel they need to inject stuff into their lips or bums? And to discuss where that comes from?

Nothing wrong with it but why can't you or other posters start your own thread for that purpose, rather than piling in on the OP?

Where have I piled on the OP?

Also I thought threads about a thread aren't allowed?