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Baby has ruined my wife's hair

114 replies

LAlexander7 · 28/10/2020 08:24

Hi,

My wifes hair is really dry, quite tangled and needs some TLC (her words not mine fyi)

Are there any products/shampoo's etc I can get for her? At the moment we just get one from Aldi.

Price isn't an issue.

OP posts:
WinWinnieTheWay · 28/10/2020 22:51

Stress of being a new mother doesn't help inevitable loss of hair from hormonal fluctuations.

I'd recommend (and this is a bitter dog aimed at my Dh)...
Pulling your weight with the baby and the chores.
Do nights.
Encouraging your wife to go out one her own even if just for a walk around the block.

Original poster
LAlexander7 · 28/10/2020 22:55

@WinWinnieTheWay

Stress of being a new mother doesn't help inevitable loss of hair from hormonal fluctuations.

I'd recommend (and this is a bitter dog aimed at my Dh)...
Pulling your weight with the baby and the chores.
Do nights.
Encouraging your wife to go out one her own even if just for a walk around the block.

The baby is only up once at night and my wife prefers to sleep in so she gets a lie in most days. If don't have any meetings a couple of times a week she will stay in bed till 10am or so.
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CabbageStoppedMyScan · 28/10/2020 22:57

Second best thread title of the day.

The first one I nicked for this new username 😁

Herja · 28/10/2020 23:02

My baby was definitely to blame. Pregnancy changed the colour and made loads fall out, then my babies both ripped out more with a vengance. They liked to sleep with it twisted around their fingers, while yanking firmly. As it was already shit and brittle, they snapped off loads.

I love Kerastase products OP. My grandma buys them for me occasionally as a special gift (I stole hers for years as a teen before discovering its price!). They make my hair amazing, really reccomend them. I also concur that aldi hair products are awful and damaging, best avoided here after.

Barryisland · 28/10/2020 23:03

Poor baby.

Couchbettato · 28/10/2020 23:08

I think a hair oil is also important if her hair snaps. Leave in conditioners are good too, but hair oils like argan oil doesn't leave the hair feeling greasy either.

She should also look to get her hair trimmed, and encourage her not to tie her hair up because the hair bands will create snaps which then knot and matt.

ItsNotPinkItsSalmon · 28/10/2020 23:10

Poor person has had their head bitten off.
Assuming this is a man speaking on behalf of his wife he probably thought the best place to get advice would be from a woman's (mainly) forum yet he's been taken the piss out of really.

I think it's nice you're doing something to help her. Sorry to hear about your first born Thanks.

Hope you find a great product for your wife.
I would have probably changed the wording on the title though.

Take care.

Soxandseven · 28/10/2020 23:11

You can get kerastase from feel unique dot com. Redken is also good! Olaplex no3 is the winner I think!

whattodo2019 · 28/10/2020 23:12

@Martinisarebetterdirty

Olaplex 3 - you can get from cult beauty or space nk. If she’s just had a baby get her some lovely aromatherapy associates relax bath oil too.
I agree it's fabulous!!
Callcat · 28/10/2020 23:13

Hairburst vitamins are excellent. Also take an iron supplement like spatone.

Nefelibata86 · 28/10/2020 23:37

Sorry to hear you have both had a such a rough time of it.

What texture hair does she have? Curly girl method may help. Also some posh hair bands like ones from silke will prevent further damage to the hair.

Closetbeanmuncher · 28/10/2020 23:58

My hair was also wrecked after giving birth but it does recover.

Dizziak deep conditioner and ouai hair oil are by far the best products I've found for moisturising detangling and softening.

My hair is down to the bottom of my back unruly and thick for ref. but these two products make it silky soft smooth and frizz free.

As others have said olaplex 3 is great for building strength to hair but your wife's immediate problem sounds like lack of moisture (dryness frizz and tangling) so the deep conditioner and oil should have the most noticeable impact.

Original poster
LAlexander7 · 29/10/2020 00:01

@Herja

My baby was definitely to blame. Pregnancy changed the colour and made loads fall out, then my babies both ripped out more with a vengance. They liked to sleep with it twisted around their fingers, while yanking firmly. As it was already shit and brittle, they snapped off loads.

I love Kerastase products OP. My grandma buys them for me occasionally as a special gift (I stole hers for years as a teen before discovering its price!). They make my hair amazing, really reccomend them. I also concur that aldi hair products are awful and damaging, best avoided here after.

I got a Kerastase set from Amazon, she's going to find it hilarious when she asks how did I know what to buy. Smile

And for those with nothing better to do than troll people on Mumsnet at night maybe you need a new more productive hobby.

Because you've literally done nothing apart from look really really stupid.

OP posts:
Closetbeanmuncher · 29/10/2020 00:04

Also if you really want to push the boat out a silk pillowcase or head wrap will really help with moisture retention and frizz. I think she would really appreciate it if you put together a pamper hamper.☺

LadyCatStark · 29/10/2020 00:17

Aldi shampoo ruined my hair so, while I’ve no advice on making it better as mine is still shit, stopping using Aldi shampoo may help.

Legseleven1990 · 29/10/2020 00:32

@Frdd

Why isn’t your wife asking?
Maybe he's trying to do something nice and thoughtful for her because 1. She's just had a baby and 2. She's upset about her postpartum hair and 3. She's his wife
WhatWouldYouDoWhatWouldJesusDo · 29/10/2020 00:40

Have to agree Aldi shampoo is awful.

Would your wife be up for a salon treatment ? Something like a deep conditioning thing and a good cut will probably help massively.

Legseleven1990 · 29/10/2020 00:42

Also, you sounds like a really lovely husband/wife.

I have no real advice. I've also just had a baby and my hair is awful. Took about a year to settle after my first two babies and nothing really helped because it was hormonal. I second the advice of a pervious poster who said book her a hair appointment and look after baby, thats something I would appreciate my other half doing for me - the hairdresser might even be able to recommend some products after seeing your wife's hair too.

Audreyseyebrows · 29/10/2020 00:46

I think it’s really nice that you’ve taken the time to find suggestions. I’m not sure that my partner would think to ask here.

I like pureology especially the hair mask.

remaininshroud · 29/10/2020 00:54

Oh yes, Olaplex! It's saved my hair.

TheFormerPorpentinaScamander · 29/10/2020 01:03

I use the kids spray in detangler, in a green bottle. The hairdresser at work suggested it because my hair was so dry. It's actually really good and leaves my hair soft and shiny.

Namaste6 · 29/10/2020 01:19

Hi OP
Another one for the Olaplex vote. It bonds more deeply to the hair than some of the other suggestions here. I would make her an appointment at the salon for a deep olaplex treatment then carry on at home with olaplex 3 as a conditioner. In parallel use a good moisturising shampoo (such as kerastase) and the Aveda damage remedy as a final, leave in, pre drying protector. Her hair will recover but she'll need to take supplements and drink lots of water too. 🙏

occa · 29/10/2020 01:27

Yes to vitamins.

And Moroccanoil restorative hair mask and hydrating styling cream are both v. good.

halloweenagain · 29/10/2020 01:57

Glad you've got good advice.
I would second the new bedding and making the bed one.
It is a nice thing that you doing.

dontgobaconmyheart · 29/10/2020 10:19

Is it trolling to query a statement that was, in itself, a bit stupid and lacked any information that made decent sense OP? Oh well , so long as you feel big calling other people 'stupid' on the internet while picking the one comment that agreed with you eh. Nothing to do with your own poor and lacking wording that comes across badly, I'm sure!

I'm not a fan of Kerastase, and wouldn't buy on amazon as there are so many fake products on there. If your DW is experienced post partum hair loss a shampoo won't do much for it. If she is tired and struggling to take the time to do her hair as she used to I'd have booked her a trip to the hairdresser. A trim, conditioning treatment etc would have been a better bet and then some nice hair oil and a tangle teezer brush or something to reduce breakage when brushing.

Some slightly scruffy dry hair is hardly 'ruined'. Nor does that require the proximity of a baby to happen. Most people manage it themselves by dying their hair for years etc. I hope you don't actually think her hair looks ruined because it isn't as it was before pregnancy, how awful Confused