Baby has ruined my wife's hair

[LAlexander7]

Hi,

My wifes hair is really dry, quite tangled and needs some TLC (her words not mine fyi)

Are there any products/shampoo's etc I can get for her? At the moment we just get one from Aldi.

Price isn't an issue.

Buy some pure silk pillowcases online (not the fake silk ones). The real ones start at around £20 each.

That'll make it less likely that her hair will be further roughed up whilst trying to get a bit of sleep between feeds. And they feel nice, can be shoved in the washing machine on a cool wash to dry, don't need ironing - plus you can do it without making a big thing, just by changing them over when you make the bed.

(by the way, making the bed so it's always looking lovely and inviting and is clean, fresh and comfortable is a brilliant thing to do for anybody who is tired to the extent that a new Mum is likely to be).

Other than that, I'd have the baby specifically for her to get a pampering hair treatment/styling at a nice salon and say that she should get whatever products they recommend.

Hair burst vitamins for new mums are great for healthy hair. You can usually get them on 3 for 2.
Olaplex 3,4 & 5.

Agree with looking for other signs of thyroid issues, probably isn't, but worth ruling out.

Wow.

I've never seen S&B go quite so bitchy before –thought this was one of the nice boards.

Hi op,

I’ve heard great things about olaplex (not sure that’s how you spell it). I know you can buy it online but some salons also do treatments so it might be nice to treat her to that as well

If she has post-natal hair loss/ thinning, which is quite normal, it wont really be helped by Olaplex, fantastic as it is - that's more to rebuild bonds from over bleaching.

She might like to get a good cut while regrowth happens, and get some nice mid-range products though.

She needs to take vitamins. I take a perfectil vitamin with extra iron, vitamin d and biotin and 10 months post partum my hair is back to normal and healthy.

@AnyFucker

Well you got her pregnant so it's you that ruined her hair

Arf

LOL good one.

@Pbbananabagel

If price is no object- get Aveda damage remedy. There’s a shampoo, conditioner and treatment masque. If you can’t afford all of them, just get the masque, it’s seriously expensive but if you get the set it will genuinely last Up to 6 months On long (nearly waist length) hair.

Cool thanks for the recommendation! Will get these!

[quote NCNCNNC]@Frdd
Why isn’t your wife asking?

I assume his (if OP is a man, she's mentioned it and he wants to do something nice for her?!). Some people on here will try and pick faults in everything...how bitter and boring.

Sorry OP have no advice .... In the same boat - currently pregnant with our second and my hair has suffered this pregnancy. At least there will be limited trips out in public this time around![/quote]
Thanks! Yes I would like to do something nice for her, she isn't leaving the house much, and isn't feeling great about herself.

@12309845653ghydrvj

Hi OP!

Lovely that you want to do something nice for her, ignore the prickly pears! 🍐

If money is really no issue, go kerastase (their resistance set with shampoo, conditioner make and crème is incredible and will basically rebuild her hair). Don’t just get a nice conditioner— a good shampoo and mask too is crucial. If too expansive let me know and I’ll suggest some other options.

I would also get her a bottle of Argan oil (not in a shampoo, but as a small seperate oil), this is incredible.

OK thanks for the advice, no money isn't an issue so I will have a look of these are the best.

Looking at the website I seem to be only able to get it from a salon which is a good start.

I also recommend Aveda.

Also coconut oil put on dry hair, leave for an hour then wash out and use a good conditioner.

That's nice of you to help your partner with her hair OP. Pregnancy completely changed my hair so I understand.

I don’t see why you’d come and comment ridiculous suspicious nonsense on this post unless you have a recommendation just take negativity elsewhere.

@ladybee28

Wow.

I've never seen S&B go quite so bitchy before –thought this was one of the nice boards.

Yeah these "ladies" really aren't doing much for the sterotypical mumsnet bitchyness.

@ShizeItsWeegie

Why is everyone so nasty assuming the OP is a man?

Perhaps because their user name is Alexander.

@WunWun

Maybe just hold the baby so she can post herself?

A. Because her confidence is really low, sadly our first baby was stillborn. B. Our baby is up at 7am so I have her 7am-9am 5pm-8pm

The poster might be a woman?
Also, is it not a well known fact that pregnancy and then being post partum can have a negative effect on hair. I know after I gave birth when I washed my hair i lost a lot more hair than I did previously.

@MirandaGoshawk actually it’s LAlexander. Maybe it’s Louise, Laura etc.

Hair often reacts to hormonal changes, it just takes time to settle again. Lots of good nutrition, check not anaemic.

What a lovely thing to do for your wife. People assume it is easy to post on here asking for advice, but it isn't always when you don't feel great about yourself. It sounds like you really want to take care of her.

My hair is still recovering almost two years on so yeah post partum hair loss/issues are a thing!

It's just the weird title isn't it?

As if the baby is to blame....

Aveda is amazing, but pricey.

Elasticizer by Phillip Kingsley is great for adding moisture

Deffo the olaplex it really is great stuff the aveda suggestion is good too.
Do you think she would feel up to going to see a hairdresser? We often get people buying vouchers for the salon as gifts for new mums. Maybe a nice conditioning treatment and a trim. I know that depends on how she is feeling about going out and about but a good cut and conditioning treatment can do wonders for confidence.
Really sorry to hear about your loss 😢. I hope she starts to feel a bit better soon.