Should I get a boob job?

[Hannah2199]

I've always been on the smaller side (B cup) and was finally ok with it. But after kids and breastfeeding I've gone down to AA cup. I've always been pearshaped but more so since kids gone up from size 10 to size 12-14. Possibly could go back down a little but think hips would still be big. Basically I look terrible and completely unbalanced.

So...options....do I try and lose weight to aim to be size 6-8 which is where I feel AA cup would suit? You see those really thin people with small boobs on tv? Unrealistic I know, but would this even work? Like surely they cant get any smaller??!!

Or do I get a boob job? Pros - bigger boobs obviously, potentially more confidence, OH has mentioned quite strongly that he previously he preferred when I was bigger- went up to E cup while feeding. Has said he would support decision to go ahead. Says he found I had more confidence before and said bigger cup size did make big difference in bedroom etc etc

I know it wouldn't turn me into a super model or anything but just a bit more confident.

But....would there be any regrets? Does it feel natural? Would I still be able to run? Hug the kids etc?

How often do you need to have surgery done? Could this shorten my life when I'm older?

Would I look odd having great boobs but rubbish belly from having the kids? Obviously would try and lose some weight beforehand

Would people be able to tell? I think I feel ashamed of AA size, but would feel ashamed that I'd needed to have surgery etc. Would it take much recovery time as I think I would hide it from family etc.

How could I hide it? Are there very padded bras or something I could wear in the meantime to hide the transition?

How would I go about finding a surgeon?

I'm not usually a vain person, don't spend ages doing make up or have fancy clothes and only get my hair cut a couple of times a year. Am I mad for even thinking about this???

Sorry if any if these questions seem silly but I dont know anyone who has had this done. Is that because people haven't? Or do people just not talk about it?

Sorry but your husband - wtf? I'm actually shocked! Oh and no, don't get a boob job

I had one 3 weeks ago, best decision ever.

NO. Gawd, just watch 'Botched'. 90% of their work is these tit jobs.

They don't look natural. I've had plenty of friends who've had them.

Your 'OH' is a dick.

Go to realself page or breastbuddies forum, lots of information and pics there. And mine do look natural, thank you very much.

'Trying to get inside his head'😬 I think it was because I said I wasn't happy after DS1 and he was trying to suggest a solution. He showed me much less attention there after my first was born but we had second child fairly soon after so I was bigger again quite quickly. 🤷‍♀️ After DS2 I struggled to find underwear in a nice style he said something like well perhaps so many people are that size so they sold out of it etc and actively helped me look etc. DS3 - when breastfeeding he said he much preferred bigger size and admitted lying previously about enjoying smaller size and he brought up the topic of getting a boob job initially so now all confidence destroyed!!

However after stewing n this for many years previously and given the recent situation I'm wondering if its not a bad idea after all??

But most info online I've seen either shows complete horror stories or shows a perfect success story - marketing ploy etc. So I'm interested to hear some real experiences.

I had a breast augmentation recently after massive weightloss and after doing my homework I decided not to have implants to make my breasts bigger (am a b cup).

The main advantage to me would be bigger breasts, obv. (It would also have made my operation smaller as the implants would have meant I needed less 'lifting' if that made sense which appealed).

However, the disadvantages would be need for replacement in 10-12 years, the risk of encapsulation, the recent publicity around breast implant illness, the fact that 25-30% are removed or replaced within 5 years for cosmetic reasons felt by the patient, the link with certain lymphomas and other illnesses...for me personally the deal breaker was that my mother and aunt both have sjogren syndrome so I am at a higher risk of getting that myself and if you have implants that increases your risk so that felt like a step too far to me. I felt that a lot of information out there tends to play down the risks as it is made by clinics etc.

Also, I think for your husband to say that about improving matters in the bedroom makes him a bit of a shit.

he brought up the topic of getting a boob job initially so now all confidence destroyed!!

What an arsehole! He just planted the seed of doubt.

No, French, people all say 'mine look natural'. They don't. I'm sure the tit job people think they do, and they feel they do look natural, so hey ho, it doesn't do any harm, but they don't look natural.

You need to consider whether you’d like to be cut open under anaesthetic to better fit someone else’s idea of how you should look. If you’re happy with that, fine, I guess it keeps someone in a job. For me, I’d prefer to work on my confidence. Sexual attractiveness and quality of ‘performance in bed’ is unrelated to the size of a woman’s breasts, in my experience.

My personal opinion is that boob jobs are very early 00's and quite dated now. They're not really in fashion anymore. I think clothes look much nicer on smaller boobed people. I'd love to be a B cup, that would be my ideal.

I get why you’d want them. To feel better in yourself and sexier.

You’d need to spend about ten grand and to start putting away another ten grand for the next set in ten years. And on and on.

A friend of a friend got them. Adores them. Wished she’d done them sooner.

Had to pay half up front. Paying up the other half over many years. I’m not sure how many. And she’s simultaneously paying off the £5k bank loan for the deposit money.

Then she’ll start putting away money for the next lot.

Personally I’d get a really good bra that makes the most of my figure. Probably made to measure balcony style, and if I liked it get all my bras like that to feel glam. I’d not risk my life on the operating table. But that may not be right for everyone. If some people want to splash out over £100 a month for the rest of their life that’s their decision. And they shouldn’t do it to please a man. Can you imagine how awful it would be if said man left the woman two years down the line and she ends up with a guy who hates big boobs!

Being pear shaped is actually a trendy figure so you certainly don’t look weird. I think being pear shaped is just as desirable as being hourglass shaped these days, boobs aren’t as much of a “thing” as they were before having a massive bum/hips took over. Body shape trends come and go - is it worth having surgery for something that could be a temporary phase of insecurity?

I have small boobs too, but I’m also slim so they’re in proportion. I can genuinely say that I’ve never had any complaints, the opposite in fact.

In my opinion, if you get them done you have to absolutely do it for yourself and not your husband. Yes, as your sexual partner his opinion might be slightly relevant to you, but it’s certainly not the most important. If you’re happy as you are then leave it. He’s just given you a massive complex by suggesting surgery, that’s so fucked up.

On the other hand, I know several women with boob jobs who all seem to have a full recovery without complications. Whether or not they’re happy, I don’t know.

I had mine done when I was 26, I really regret it now. They are big, get in the way, uncomfortable and make me feel top heavy.

I can't wear low cut tops, guys talk to them instead of me and now I'm pregnant they are even bigger and more uncomfortable than ever.

I can't wait to get them out once I've done all the baby stuff. I'll happily be a size a-b cup again.

Oh and I can never find bras that fit coz all the other women with boob jobs got there first.

Thanks I can see both sides. Its something I've thought of for years but only seriously in that year or so.

I know people are trying to be nice about pear shaped etc but honestly I am SO EXTRA pear shaped it could never look good. I have a Kiera Knightleys flat chested boyish top half, big tummy and then size 12-14 lower half.

Nothing looks nice on me.

Dresses dont fit, huge on the top half, or if they fit at the top wont fit at the bottom.

Swimsuits I cant weat, have to buy tankini type things with top and bottom in different size.

Aside from the boob issue. The only other thing I'm thinking is lose loads of weight to make lower half lots thinner (I know it wouldn't come off evenly) but I do think only very thin people suit AA cup like me

Should also say some friends have separately mentioned this to me a couple of years ago. 'Wow your boobs have really shrunk' etc

Great 😳

I think you need to factor in that it is often not 1 boob job. They will need replacing at some point. My sister had a boob job for similar reasons. She is on her 3 set now. Each operation she is in a less fit place to have surgery. It didnt help her self esteem either - it just transferredd to feeling low about other things after an initial honeymoon period

They do look natural though.

I wouldn't because they will probably look fake, and as others have pointed out it's a general anaesthetic procedure.
Drinking lots of wine will usually give you a small bottom and bigger boobs and I don't recommend that either.

Your husband sounds a right charmer and your friends delightful. Not.

It is surgery, cutting into a healthy body, with all associated risks.

Also, does your entire confidence come from how you look?

Not a criticism, just throwing it out there for you to consider

Personally I never would, just because of the risks

Obviously it's up to you (and not your husband).

But fwiw, I know 5 or 6 women at the gym that have had boob jobs. They all look very er, fake.

Clothes look much nicer on smaller boobs anyway.

OP I totally get it. I’ve always been self-conscious about my small chest, am loving bfing boobs and actually having a cleavage and will be devastated (for me, not DH) when they go. But the safety thing will probably put me off having surgery even though I’d like to be bigger long-term.

Hannah, don’t do it yet! What really helped me is sorting the rest of my body through exercise and realizing that bigger boobs would only be making mountain climbers, push-ups and burpees super uncomfortable. You will start seeing results on your stomach/bum;hips and legs after a couple of months and strengthening your chest muscles will also perk your breasts up. Getting fitter was a great boost to my confidence, too, so I really can not recommend regular exercise enough. A much better way to invest in your body and health in the long term

And how's your husband's body shape doing? Is that working for you 'in the bedroom department'?

If not, I'd factor in the cost of him having surgery and all that entails too.

Even if your 100% that you want them it’s still such a huge risk.
I had mine done back in 2004. They do genuinely look real (several exes weren’t aware until I told them!)
However I feel mine are too big, I worry about future births as I’d go massive and whilst I don’t have a single bit of hard tissue build up, I’ve seen others than have needed their replaced, and have been in lots of pain.

Some day I’ll probably have mine removed, but when I have reason to. I also do feel less elegant with them, it’s very easy to look waaaay too booby with them, but if I wear something loose I just look like a brick 🤷🏽‍♀️

Oh and regards to sport / running - actually fake boobs are much better as they don’t have so much bounce! Other women for my size need a super duper running bra whereas I’m find in a regular sports crop top.
So that’s a plus thing 🤣

Haha I'm not tech savvy enough to know how to reply to individual comments so apologies but some of the above comments have definitely cheered me up. Shoukd say OH is actually a really lovely person! But yes unsurprisingly is not mr super model himself 🙄 the friend I mentioned I dont really see anymore.

Yes you're right, surgery is massively scary and I wonder what impact it could have on the kids if anything went wrong. Though in the flip side, having a miserable depressed mum isn't great either (yes I know surgery wouldn't solve all lifes problems)

Interesting about the being healthier in terms of body and mind etc. I've no idea where to start but ditching the xmas chocolate would surely help. I've never been a gym goer or sport lover. I've tried to motivate myself in many gym things but it's just so tedious.

Any suggestions for a beginner???

Perhaps I'll start with the getting healthier thing first. Cant do any harm. Then maybe review things in a year and see if I feel the same? 🤔

Thanks for everyone replies, it's good to have a neutral sounding board!!!

After years of wearing heavily padded bra, about five years ago I decided to get a boob job. It cost just over £4K using a reputable private surgeon with the op done at a Nuffield hospital. I didn't use one of the several specialist boob job companies.

I am very pleased with the result. I went for a fairly modest increase in size and result looks the same as when I wore the padded bra. Balanced, not top or bottom heavy. So far, nobody has even noticed that I've had it done. They look so natural that not even my sisters or mother have commented when I have worn a skimpy bikini in front of them.

I am very fit and they haven't been any issue when working out. With a sports bra on, press-ups, burpees etc are not uncomfortable at all.