Should I get a boob job?

[Hannah2199]

I've always been on the smaller side (B cup) and was finally ok with it. But after kids and breastfeeding I've gone down to AA cup. I've always been pearshaped but more so since kids gone up from size 10 to size 12-14. Possibly could go back down a little but think hips would still be big. Basically I look terrible and completely unbalanced.

So...options....do I try and lose weight to aim to be size 6-8 which is where I feel AA cup would suit? You see those really thin people with small boobs on tv? Unrealistic I know, but would this even work? Like surely they cant get any smaller??!!

Or do I get a boob job? Pros - bigger boobs obviously, potentially more confidence, OH has mentioned quite strongly that he previously he preferred when I was bigger- went up to E cup while feeding. Has said he would support decision to go ahead. Says he found I had more confidence before and said bigger cup size did make big difference in bedroom etc etc

I know it wouldn't turn me into a super model or anything but just a bit more confident.

But....would there be any regrets? Does it feel natural? Would I still be able to run? Hug the kids etc?

How often do you need to have surgery done? Could this shorten my life when I'm older?

Would I look odd having great boobs but rubbish belly from having the kids? Obviously would try and lose some weight beforehand

Would people be able to tell? I think I feel ashamed of AA size, but would feel ashamed that I'd needed to have surgery etc. Would it take much recovery time as I think I would hide it from family etc.

How could I hide it? Are there very padded bras or something I could wear in the meantime to hide the transition?

How would I go about finding a surgeon?

I'm not usually a vain person, don't spend ages doing make up or have fancy clothes and only get my hair cut a couple of times a year. Am I mad for even thinking about this???

Sorry if any if these questions seem silly but I dont know anyone who has had this done. Is that because people haven't? Or do people just not talk about it?

I've never been a gym goer or sport lover. I've tried to motivate myself in many gym things but it's just so tedious

Any suggestions for a beginner???

Everyone is different but couch to 5k and then Parkrun
got me into running and got me fit.

Might be worth a try to see if you like them, both are completely free

I think that before opting for surgery you should start working on your general fitness and getting in shape. I think that will give you a confidence boost and help your self esteem. And I think what your dh said is awful, I'm sorry. But the fact he brought up the plastic surgery... I just think that is horrible and it's no wonder your confidence has taken a hit. I'd be so angry and upset if my partner said that to me, even if I did ultimately decide to get a boob job I don't think I'd forgive him. I don't know how you feel about your dh for this stuff, maybe you don't feel angry at him, but I kind of think that you should.

I have considered implants too. I just don't like the thought of voluntarily choosing for part of me to be unnatural. It's not that I believe they'd definitely look fake or that I think badly of women who get theirs done. I haven't ruled it out completely and wouldn't say for sure that I'd never do it, but I'd say I'm leaning more to "no".

Mine shrunk a bit after pregnancy/breastfeeding, from a DD to a D, then shortly after that I got quite ill and lost a lot of weight quickly. I got so down about how I looked that I barely left the house because I was embarassed about being seen. My breasts pretty much vanished, probably an AA cup.

I have since been working on gaining weight and they've grown a little but they're so empty (like the fullness has gone) and the worst thing is they are two very different sizes. I know it's normal to not be completely symmetrical but I haven't worn a bra since the weight loss first happened (approx 3 years or more), because I cannot find any that fit properly because of the cup sizes being so different. So that's why I haven't completely ruled implants out.

But the process of gaining weight and paying more attention to my health in general has really helped me mentally and I don't obsess like I used to or get so upset. It's helped me see my body in a bit more of a positive light. An ex boyfriend once said to me (before the weight loss etc....my body confidence has never been great), "how can you hate yourself so much? It's your body... it's just your body." I've thought back to that a lot over the last few years and I feel like I can understand it a lot more now.

This has been an essay sorry! Whatever you do just make sure it is what YOU want and not your dh.

I got one 4 months ago. I live mine now and I don't have any regrets. I also had a really positive experience.

I don't have any children. My partner wasn't overly keen on me getting it done but doesn't mind either way.

The important thing is that you do it for you, not for anyone else.

I would definitely recommend going to the gym and seeing how you feel about your body being more toned. You never know, you might actually enjoy having smaller boobs when you still have your curvy hips and the addition of abs!

Hire a personal trainer to get you started.

As you seem to have the expendable income for a boob job, I would also recommend buying an Apple Watch. It keeps me so motivated to be fit and active, it’s the perfect fitness accompaniment

Bigger boobs=heavier boobs.

I know this for a fact. I'm the owner of a pair of "home grown" H cup boobs mainly from being fat all over

I started with a personal trainer.

When I had kids, I lived in South America and it was funny how the ideal body shape was different in different countries

In Brazil (at the time) it was all about really small boobs and big bums

In Mexico it was about being “guitar shaped” (wide hips)

Who knows, that may have changed, but the UK and US ideal of small hips and big boobs has changed as well. It is now all about big boobs AND big bums, but with a small waist.

For me it was interesting that my body shape in Brazil was considered sexy (small boobs, wide hips/big bum) at the same time that in the UK it was fashionable to have the figure if a 10yr old boy with big boobs (remember that, in the 90s? Victoria Beckham bought into that look )

Seeing how beauty ideals vary through time and place made me more aware of how silly “beauty ideals” are

Doing lots of sport made me appreciate my body as it is

Whatever you do, try and find a bit of self love for that womanly body that produced these lovely babies for you

Bigger boobs=heavier boobs

That's exactly what my husband said to me when I said that I was thinking of getting a boob job. I must admit that I was actually looking forward to having boobs that weighed more. Five years on, and their extra weight hasn't been an issue at all for me. However, I was quite restrained with the size increase. I didn't go for the two melons stuck on an ironing board look.

During my research on boob job forums before my op, I discovered that common on advice is to always go for the maximum possible size offered because you won't be satisfied with the size otherwise. I told my surgeon that they mustn't look fake at all and he suggested three modest sizes. I chose the middle one and haven't regretted it at all.

I have naturally large breasts. I would KILL to be an a-cup. They are a pain in the arse and it looks more stylish to have small breasts.
I think you have a dh problem rather than a breast problem.

I was in a very similar situation after having 2 children and I hated my boobs. However, I didn't have a husband telling me what to do, I'd split with the kids Dad and my new partner had never seen me without a bra and t-shirt because I was so embarrassed.
I make no secret my boobs are implants, when I was a size 6 I'd agree they looked fake, I've filled out alot now and a full 8 to a 10 and they look proportional and normal.
As someone 12 years in (in March) I can assure you I'll be having mine replaced in the next year and I'm excited.
It helped my confidence massively, I ditched the boyfriend at the time (realised he was as bad as my ex for wanting little quiet meek girlfriend to obey) and I found the confidence to be who I want to be, to push myself to always be the best I can be and all those other Facebook #s that people say about but genuinely that's the confidence it gave me.
It was also the first time I'd ever done something for me. It was massively selfish, the risk of the operation, the cost, the recovery time and knowing in the future I'd have to do it all again. I did it for me and it was great.
Only go ahead if you're doing it for you, if your motivation is your husband and keeping him happy this won't be enough because there's a high chance he'll pick up on something else for you to change

I’ve had one. My only regret is that I did have one earlier. Best decision of my life

I'm saving up to have one. I'm pregnant with third so when shes finished with feeding I totally intend on getting them done.

To me it's not about being fashionable, its about feeling comfortable in my skin and clothes. Boob jobs may be 'outdated' (apparently?!) But self assurance isn't.

I'm sick of padded bras, they're 2 sizes smaller than they used to be & to be completly honest whilst I love they've fed my children as nature intended I would love to feel comfortable during sex again.

I struggle to dress in anything nice because everything needs padding and a strong underwired bra. Also my straps are always too tight from trying to keep them in place.

I'd say go for it, if its what YOU want. Speak to a couple surgeons, dont go for the cheapest option & dont automatically think the bigger the better. Go for something to suit your body shape. An E is very large!

I hate my boobs. They are tiny. But I measure as a 28C, so in theory I’m not flat chested. However, there is no way I’d put myself through an operation for cosmetic reasons.
I buy expensive bras which give me a small cleavage. The only person to see my naked is my husband, and whilst I know he would prefer more than ‘ a handful’ he never mentions it.
Small boobs have so many advantages when it comes to sports and fitness. Try out some decent underwear and get on a fitness programme to shift the excess weight on your bottom half, and your confidence will soar.

Did anyone go for the tear drop shape?

I had similar issue with trying so hard to keep unnaturally low weight because of my pear shape, and I did have a boob job, and I cant deny that its made my shape more balanced which has actually seemed to help my eating disorder hugely.
I do think though in many ways that I should have tried harder to love my body as it was and feel some shame over the boob job, but maybe im.just destined to feel shame whatever as i felt shame about them before too.
Your husband should not be putting the pressure on you though. Maybe you should have some counselling to talk through what YOU really want

Any suggestions for a beginner???

At the gym I watch my iPad while on the treadmill or cross trainer and I have a workout playlist of inspirational/ upbeat songs to help me along with weights and sit ups etc. Couldn't work out without my iPad.

I know someone who had it done and hers look natural. She did pay well and use a good surgeon, I think carefully planning who will do your surgery bu doing lots of homework helps. And yes, they do have to be replaced every 10 years or so.

I think honestly if you want to learn to love your body you should start by being kind to it. I don't think cutting it up is very kind. Giving your body nourishing, healthful food, exercise, massage, lots of loving attention that is generous and caring, will go a lot further toward making you feel better in yourself.

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My DM had one about 6 years ago. She'd never been large chested, maybe B/C and size 10-12 but after breastfeeding 3 children they virtually disappeared. She loves holidaying and wearing nice swimsuits and while she's always been great with fitness, lacked confidence because of her boobs. Eventually had it done when my sister/her youngest was 10.
She's so much more confident and happy! She buys clothes she never thought she could - nothing revealing but just things that fit/suit better now. No one knows unless she tells them, I don't think anyone would look at her now and think 'oh she's had her boobs done'. She still runs and is very into fitness.
The most important thing is to find a good surgeon, often more expensive but worth it in my opinion. I think cosmetic surgery is a LOT more common than people realise

Please research breast implant illness before making your decision!

I have wanted a boob job for many years now. Small A cup. Went up to DD when pregnant now back to B/C but quite flat and a bit droopy. I've been on the verge several times of having the op - even had a pre op with a company etc - but always backed out at last minute. Initial fears were capsular contraction but now I've been reading lots about breast implant illness and I don't think it is worth the risk. I have a child with a chronic health condition and I want to be in thr best health possible. So for me it's eating well, losing some weight and toning up rather than surgery.

I agree with spending money on a personal trainer instead and re-assessing in a year.

We all have parts of our bodies we are self conscious about. Personally when I'm in good shape I worry about those things less.

It may also be worth joining the Boob or Bust FB group and check you are being measured correctly.

Good luck

Sorry if I've missed it, but how old are your children and when did you finish bf? It can take a while but boobs will fill out a bit again. I was you when I was younger, exact same body shape and my exH was very keen for me to get a boob job.

I can honestly say now that I'm really glad that I didn't. I don't have amazing boobs, still small but I'm a lot happier with them, and with my body in general.

Maybe set yourself a review time, say 6 months or a year, give yourself time to work on other things and see how you get on with the gym/toning and then revisit the idea?

Agree with PP re Boob or Bust as well, I was wearing a 34B for years, now in a 30DD or a 28E depending on style and the difference it makes to how they look in clothes is amazing!

I had one in 2005 due to a bit of a nob of an ex planting the seeds of doubt on my own appearance coupled with his obsessive FHM reading.
Anyhow, another partner (now husband), two kids & 15 years later they were removed last June.
Yes, I enjoyed them when I had them but over time they did distort. Turns out they had been leaking inside me as I had the dreaded PIPs which were safe at the time, it was only later they decided that actually I had mattress filler in my chest.
It cost £15K in total to put them in, take them out & lift the saggy boobage I had left behind into a more breast like shape.
DH did say he preferred them bigger but it's not up to him to tell me what to do with my body.
The recovery after the explanation surgery was utterly dreadful. I cannot tell you how much it hurt. Because the implants had been leaking, I had to have a capsulectomy where they basically scrape all the crap off the surrounding tissue including the ribs. It was agony. Then the right boob got an infection and the stitches ruptured three times.
If the implants could stay in forever I would say go for it, however sadly you will need to remove them after approximately 10-20yrs.

Did anyone go for the tear drop shape?

Check out rotation problems before deciding on these. They don't suit everybody.

It might be worth trying the noogleberry system. It can make you go up one cup size. Completely natural and no side effects. I have been using this system for nine months and my boobs have much better shape and I've gone up a cup size. You just need to commit to 30 mins most days. After 6-9 months the changes are permanent. It's basically a breast pump system. However your Husband shouldn't be pressuring you that is horrible. I agree bedroom skills should not be how your boobs look what will he say when your 50-60's then? Tell him you'd prefer a larger willy and see how he likes that? Very rude and disrespectful.

Hi op, I’ve never liked my body, have always been on a diet, it never makes my body look how I want it to, or not for long.
Then last year I got into gym classes, and it looks the best it’s looked for a long time. I’ve been much thinner than I am now, but I’m in really good shape at the moment. It makes all the difference. Please try this before you contemplate surgery.

I really don’t like the sound of your husband. Those comments were very objectifying, you’ll have to Remind him you are alive, you have a mind and a heart.