Should I get a boob job?

[Hannah2199]

I've always been on the smaller side (B cup) and was finally ok with it. But after kids and breastfeeding I've gone down to AA cup. I've always been pearshaped but more so since kids gone up from size 10 to size 12-14. Possibly could go back down a little but think hips would still be big. Basically I look terrible and completely unbalanced.

So...options....do I try and lose weight to aim to be size 6-8 which is where I feel AA cup would suit? You see those really thin people with small boobs on tv? Unrealistic I know, but would this even work? Like surely they cant get any smaller??!!

Or do I get a boob job? Pros - bigger boobs obviously, potentially more confidence, OH has mentioned quite strongly that he previously he preferred when I was bigger- went up to E cup while feeding. Has said he would support decision to go ahead. Says he found I had more confidence before and said bigger cup size did make big difference in bedroom etc etc

I know it wouldn't turn me into a super model or anything but just a bit more confident.

But....would there be any regrets? Does it feel natural? Would I still be able to run? Hug the kids etc?

How often do you need to have surgery done? Could this shorten my life when I'm older?

Would I look odd having great boobs but rubbish belly from having the kids? Obviously would try and lose some weight beforehand

Would people be able to tell? I think I feel ashamed of AA size, but would feel ashamed that I'd needed to have surgery etc. Would it take much recovery time as I think I would hide it from family etc.

How could I hide it? Are there very padded bras or something I could wear in the meantime to hide the transition?

How would I go about finding a surgeon?

I'm not usually a vain person, don't spend ages doing make up or have fancy clothes and only get my hair cut a couple of times a year. Am I mad for even thinking about this???

Sorry if any if these questions seem silly but I dont know anyone who has had this done. Is that because people haven't? Or do people just not talk about it?

I'm about to have a boob job in 9 days but it's my choice nothing to do with dh.Im having my implants replaced as I had my first boob job 10 years ago going from an a cup to a d

Thanks for all your comments everyone. Its a minefield isn't it. I've never had lots of confidence but this is definitely an all time low.

I agree with trying diet and exercise first. I just feel totally self conscious. I'm trying to walk more but difficult with 3 kids to work around. Coach to 5k sounded a good idea. Not sure its going to have 'that' much if an impact though.

The only time I was size 8 was before my wedding and I barely ate for months. Not sure I could maintain that in reality (plus I was still pear shaped) I just want to look and feel normal.

What was the noggleberry system someone mentioned? Does that actually work? Sounds like a scam to be honest (no offence!)?

Those who have worn padding where did you go or what did you try? A wonder bra or is there a specialist thing you can buy please? I feel like people are looking at me and I'm dreading summer where I cant hide in a jumper or coat :(

Yeah I heard about rotation but like how natural the shape is. I'm an A so can understand Op I'm about to have another little one and dreading what they'll be like after I'm mid 20s but my nipples are sagging I literally can't be anymore flat chested. I'd like a boob job one day to just be a b or c at the very most. I did the gym got in really good shape I'd be happy if I could just have them not be so saggy. Ruins my confidence although my partner says he'll still love my boobs and never makes me doubt that but just how I feel.

My sisters capsularated bad and leaked had health issues so I doubt I'll get it done because of her experience. She won't give any details about what she had so I don't know if she went cheap what type implants or over under muscle. I didn't know she had them till she had them removed.

Those who have worn padding where did you go or what did you try?

I may still have one of my old padded bras. If so, I''ll post back later with the make.

You'll have to replace the implants after a certain number of years. Can you afford that?

Not worth it really. Your "OH" wouldn't like it if you preferred a bigger penis would he, so why should you get bigger breasts?

I've had a couple of surgeries. Some I regret some I don't. Boob job is not one I regret. It was very straight forward but please make sure you do your research as there's a lot of butchers out there, even in the uk. Redrose desire and transform have done a lot of damage to a lot of girls. You can join the fb groups but beware that some girls on there are being paid to promote. There's a botched group where you can check out a lot of surgeons

Agree with PP about Boob or Bust - I know it’s a MN cliché but AA would mean less than 1” difference between your band measurement and the fullest part of your bust. If you’ve previously gone up to an E cup this honestly seems unlikely.

Reformer Pilates and / or barre classes will genuinely change your shape. Combine them with some running for cardio and yoga for posture, strength and MH benefits and I honestly think you’ll feel very differently about your body in six months.

I heard about noogleberry here on mmm as another poster had mentioned instead of op getting a boob job and that's when I googled it and have been doing it myself since the summer. My boobs have gone upnone size and are much fuller and look so much better. I spent £100 on the kit. It just takes time and patience. Try it for 6 months and see the difference. It works. But really you have a husband problem not a boob problem.

I think your husband should have a boob job.

I agree with PPs to try running: it not only gets you fit but really makes you appreciate the advantages of a flat chest!

I'm a pear shape with very small boobs. I just wear a padded bra. It makes me sad that your husband has made these remarks! My DH is definitely a boob man. He loves big boobs but not once in 17 years has he made me feel bad about my small beasts. He loves them and always let's me know that. There's no way I'd undergo major surgery for this.

I am also a 12-14 and 5ft 2. Tinyboobs.... totally unproportional but I would not get surgery.

I have 3 girls and want to promote good role model too.
I wear gel bras but only rarely as I just dont want to wear them anymore. I have grown more comfortable over the years.

I’m a 38 B but my boobs look fine (and get complimented) because I do exercises to keep my upper body in shape and firm up muscles and I keep an eye on my weight so my upper half is in proportion with my lower half with my waist well defined. Hormonal contraception and later HRT sorted out post breastfeeding sag. Spend your money on a personal trainer and gym subscription, and good bras (I avoid padded and go for those that give a good natural shape, luckily I have an independent lingerie shop nearby where I get excellent advice and service).

Those who have worn padding where did you go or what did you try? A wonder bra or is there a specialist thing you can buy please? I feel like people are looking at me and I'm dreading summer where I cant hide in a jumper or coat :(

Primark it's called "maximise" brilliant bras and only £7

I agree with PPs to try running: it not only gets you fit but really makes you appreciate the advantages of a flat chest!

I know quite a few keen runners and I've often wondered if only people with flat chests run, or does running give you a flat chest.

My breasts aren't massive, but they are biggish and honestly, they're annoying. Finding clothes that fit is annoying, finding clothes that don't emphasise them is annoying.

I had an ex who constantly made comments about my nose. Now that I'm with my husband, I realise how awful that was of him. My husband is ten times more attractive than my ex but he truly appreciates me and my body. He has never made a negative comment about me and he never would. Your husband really needs to stop making comments - is his body perfect? Would he be willing to undergo potentially dangerous surgery in order to be more attractive to you?

I just find it quite depressing that women are undergoing these procedures because they feel ugly. I'd spend the money on therapy before I cut myself up.

"I know quite a few keen runners and I've often wondered if only people with flat chests run, or does running give you a flat chest."

Having a big chest gets in the way. It's hard to find sports bras that fit and are supportive that don't cost the earth. It hurts when you run unless your bra is a really good one. Then you get the hilarious men who love to point out or stare at your chest as you run.

All of this puts me off running.

Thanks all. Guess I just get major anxiety about it, particularly when shopping for clothes, seriously nothing looks good. Even tops, just far too baggy if fitting everywhere else.

I dont know how to make this BOLD on my phone but to reply to this......

Agree with PP about Boob or Bust - I know it’s a MN cliché but AA would mean less than 1” difference between your band measurement and the fullest part of your bust. If you’ve previously gone up to an E cup this honestly seems unlikely.*

Yes I was originally B, then went up to E while feeding (admittedly this was right after birth so possibly ended up a little smaller like D after a couple of months, )stayed this size until stopped feeding now AA. Not sure why you find this hard to believe??

@thekarmabus

That system you spoke of... Would it be helpful for someone like me with breasts that are two different sizes? I think one is a D cup and at a guess the other is a B . I don't think I'd mind what size they were as long as they were the same size.

I'm really self conscious about it. Can't wear proper bras because the smaller one doesn't fill the cup properly and also I think it looks really obvious in certain clothes so I find it limits what I will wear.

Yes I was originally B, then went up to E while feeding (admittedly this was right after birth so possibly ended up a little smaller like D after a couple of months, )stayed this size until stopped feeding now AA. Not sure why you find this hard to believe??

Because although you can gain and lose fat, breast tissue doesn't just disappear, and if you haven't been properly fitted then instead of a 36AA (for example - I don't think you've mentioned your back size but apologies if I'm wrong) then you might find that a sister size like 34A, 32B, 30C etc actually gives you a better shape.

As someone with naturally big boobs (currently 32GG in a properly fitted bra, size 12/14), I always feel this is one of those things where it feels the grass is greener on the other side... but it's not. I've always found it tricky to find clothes to fit, too. Even more so when I was slimmer, as I still had to size up to fit my boobs into everything. I'd rather mine were small and can't understand why anyone would undergo major surgery to make theirs bigger. At the end of the day it's a bit like people with curly hair wishing for straight hair and vice versa, or tall people wishing they were shorter... There's no "perfect" body, you just have to learn to live in the one you've been given and take care of it the best you can.

I don't know if anyone's mentioned yet but there's also been lots of cases recently in the media about breast implant illness - basically people finding their body is really reacting to the implants and causing a huge range of terrible symptoms, it becomes a chronic illness.

PhoneLock I have always been flat-chested, and took up running about 5 years ago. The running has made me appreciate the benefits, particularly in hot weather and not having to wear a bra.

I also developed larger breasts when I was pregnant and breastfeeding my 3 DC, but I was quite happy to lose them again afterwards. OP, you and your body and breasts have done an amazing job nourishing your children, please be kind to it and to yourself.

I think you have a self-worth problem rather than a boob problem.
Do you look down on other women because of the size of their boobs, or criticise their appearance? Judge yourself by the same standards you would judge your best friends!
Confidence comes from happiness with yourself and the skin you're in, it doesn't come from boobs of a certain size and shape.
If you can build your self-worth and body confidence, then even if you still decide to go ahead with an operation on your breasts, you will get so much more out of it, and also mitigate against a crisis if the operation goes wrong or it isn't what you want.
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I don't know where to start with some of your comments OP, and those of your husbands.

But since you asked, I would say no. Confidence isn't having a surgeon stuff two bags under your skin, and then going through life feeling peversely good that people are staring at the results of surgery. That's called not being right in the head in the first place.

I'd focus on fixing the problems up there.