Will I look like the 'other bride' if I wear this to a wedding?

[TheDevilWearsPantsuits]

I've got a bespoke suit that looks exactly like this i.pinimg.com/474x/11/b5/56/11b556c01631d69ac6ed1e14e43add1b--boy-meets-girl-androgynous-fashion.jpg in this exact colour i.pinimg.com/474x/3c/fd/aa/3cfdaa38bc0cdf8e1eaf895d7c15714f--ralph-lauren-collection.jpg. Was all set to wear it to a wedding (in Australia if it makes a difference) late next March, but am now having second thoughts because a friend of mine told me that I'd end up looking like the one marrying the bride!

Should I start panicking now?

Definitely not

Personally I think it looks great.
I saw once that MN told a poster that they could not wear jeans to a wedding.
Two guests at my wedding apparently wore jeans. I only know because of the pictures where I'm stood next to them. But I honestly didn't notice. The day is so busy and so happy nothing as simple as someone's outfit would've entered my mind.

As in definitely not- you cannot possibly wear it to a wedding

I think the photos are just a little confusing.

In reality, OP will be wearing a light grey trouser suit which is fine for a wedding.

Does the outfit have the potential to show up as white in pictures?

Yes - Don't wear it
No - Wear it

Light gray can often show up as white in pictures, especially if the weather is sunny. Pick a different suit colour/a darker grey.

The grey suit is fine, I would put put a flowery top on underneath

My husband has a grey suit reserved for weddings. Why is that acceptable?

I think the grey suit should be ok. It isn't white or cream. I don't like it but that's personal preference. You'd have to have a cracking figure to carry it off. I'm a size 12 and I don't think I could carry it off

OP you are just not doing yourself any favours as...

option 1 is in WHITE.

option 2 is clearly 100% a wedding outfit.

You want us to just take option 1 and make it grey. You are getting skewed responses, unless you were actually considering either outfit and wanted opinions on them (which I think you were)

If not, you did yourself no favours in asking opinions with both examples in the same post, as both scream 'wedding party' a grey suit would not.

I would wear the trousers of the suit and the blouse and leave it at that. You don't have to wear a jacket 🤷‍♀️

Gosh it's amazing how people can still get so exercised about a woman wearing a grey suit to a wedding on the very eve of 2020.

1. It's not white. That is the main 'no-no' for wedding guest attire.

1. It looks bloody stunning, and very high fashion, and very modern, and my honest opinion is that there are some posters on here who just don't 'get it' as an alternative to a flowery dress and fascinator. Not all of you! watch me get flamed!

1. Only you know the mix of guests and the general socio-economic mix and style of the wedding. If it's high-end, and other guests will be wearing individual, one-off designer pieces, then you'll look fab. If it's more sausage rolls in a working men's club, you'll probably look a bit daft. Again, here come the flames, but the reality of life is that there are different styles and budgets for weddings, and this affects what will look 'right' in the context.

1. That said, if you had to ask the question, it can only be because you have doubts about whether it is appropriate, and that would suggest to me that there are reasons for you to doubt the choice.

I would say it's fine, particularly if you wear it with a strong coloured eg cerise, red, black yellow vest top and matching hat/fascinator too.

I say wear it.
A)it is nearly 2020 and women can wear suits even if they aren’t a lesbian
B) you aren’t going to get confused with the bride because she will be wearing a bridal gown
C) people aren’t going to think you are marrying the bride because they know the bride and groom
D) they aren’t going to think you are part of the bridal party because the likelihood of their clothes matching yours will be very small
E) it’s hardly a plunging red sequinned ball gown- you aren’t going to attract much attention.
F) if Kate Middleton can handle her sister wearing a bridesmaid dress that many would wear as a wedding dress, I think a bride can handle a guest in a grey suit.

I think the people saying it's inappropriate must be well into their 50s. Wear it OP, you will look stunning. I wore a pale grey trouser suit to a wedding and haven't worn a dress in 10 years. I am too short and I look ridiculous.

I’m usually on the side of “don’t wear it, it’s too bridal” but this time I can’t see the problem. It’s a beautiful suit, and whenever I’ve seen a woman in that kind of formal evening-y but very feminine suit at a wedding she has looked incredibly stylish. Go for it! I’d definitely wear a coloured silk camisole underneath rather than a shirt, though. And probably stiletto heels, even though I’m not generally a fan.

It just looks like something that was made for a bridal party. I wouldn't feel happy wearing it on the off chance even if it is grey, in sunlight it will look white.

To an extent it depends what you wear with it, if you're wearing a coloured top underneath, brightly coloured accessories etc then maybe but as per the photo with shirt/waistcoat then no- I wouldn't. You can always ask the bride?

No plans to marry as it's just not for me but if I did I think I'd make a point of saying in the invites to wear whatever you bloody like/go all out/get your old wedding dresses out if you fancy and get a wear out of them- it would be great fun!

Gosh it's amazing how people can still get so exercised about a woman wearing a grey suit to a wedding on the very eve of 2020.

Well, OP did ask for opinions and this is S&B. Why wouldn't we give our opinions about clothing choices for a special occasion? I don't think anyone actually gives a shit what a random stranger wears to a wedding but it's something to chat about on a dull boring Saturday, innit.

I think it's fine!

I wore a bright pink trouser suit to a wedding earlier this year. With a black cami underneath, black block heeled strappy sandals and a leopard print bag.

The vibe of the wedding was quite cool - the bride wore black! - so it suited the occasion.

Trousers suits are in fashion!

Don't think there's any issue in wearing a suit - that's quite fashionable. But the grey does look very light, which would put me off it. Maybe if you have a bright colour cami under it?

How close are you with the bride to ask her? I imagine some would be absolutely fine with it and some would definitely not be.

I think the people saying it's inappropriate must be well into their 50s.

Bugger me!
Are you not allowed an opinion when you're into your 50s?

Another delight along with hot flushes to which to look forward.

Or are you just being ageist?

While not wanting to be any way ageist, I think there does seem to be a natural generational trend in the way people react to this suit. Why is probably only natural, because each generation has its own trends, social norms, and expectations.

I would not have (dared ) named those in their 50s as the ones objecting against the suit.... but I do think that's it's possible that those in their 50/60s might find it harder to picture the suit as appropriate, as opposed to those in their 20s and 30s for example. Just saying and YES I know there will always be exceptions to the rule. That's what makes it fun!

I think it's gorgeous and would wear it, surely loads of men will be wearing suits at the wedding which might be light coloured if it's a summer wedding. No different to that in my opinion

I agree. There are some very weird posts on this thread.

Is it worth saying one more time that the suit the OP would like to wear is the same style as the first picture and the same colour as the second? I’m really not sure why it’s caused the level of confusion it has. The first post makes it clear.

Trousers suits are in fashion!

No one is objecting to the fact that it's a trouser suit.

I wore a bright pink trouser suit to a wedding earlier this year. With a black cami underneath, black block heeled strappy sandals and a leopard print bag.

I've always wanted one like this i2.wp.com/www.circethelabel.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/07/6c335fc3407d3f0a2178b6bd8d66978b.jpg?w=736&ssl=1! Actually might get one for work.