Will I look like the 'other bride' if I wear this to a wedding?

[TheDevilWearsPantsuits]

I've got a bespoke suit that looks exactly like this i.pinimg.com/474x/11/b5/56/11b556c01631d69ac6ed1e14e43add1b--boy-meets-girl-androgynous-fashion.jpg in this exact colour i.pinimg.com/474x/3c/fd/aa/3cfdaa38bc0cdf8e1eaf895d7c15714f--ralph-lauren-collection.jpg. Was all set to wear it to a wedding (in Australia if it makes a difference) late next March, but am now having second thoughts because a friend of mine told me that I'd end up looking like the one marrying the bride!

Should I start panicking now?

Please don't wear that, with all due respect you will look ridiculous, and you might upset the bride. It's meant to be the happiest day of her life. You don't want to marr that with your outfit choice, can't you wear a normal outfit?

The sort of thing a woman might wear if SHE was getting married and didn't want a big white dress.

A bit like a lot of outfits that people wear to weddings then? It’s not white or cream. I didn’t realise absolutely any pale shade was banned at weddings in case it looks white in a certain light.

Please don't wear that, with all due respect you will look ridiculous

What a rude thing to say.

I like it. As long as the bride isn't wearing a trouser suit too I'd say it's fine. Although I think you might be too hot.

First pic suit is totally fine as long as you wear a coloured top underneath rather than white blouse.

the confusion seems to be that the second photo is the suit OP wants to wear. it is NOT. it's just for colour purposes.

the first suit in grey would be lovely and totally appropriate for a wedding. I don't understand why ppl are having a problem with it.

I think the style of the first link is absolutely fine, definitely ok in grey. If it was the actual suit in the second link, maybe not, but it's not that suit!

As an aside, I have a female friend who always wears suits to weddings, I've seen her in blue and both light and dark grey, and AFAIK no one has ever raised an eyebrow.

but it seems like it’s enough of a “thing” now

I think it was even more of a "thing" in the past.
I went to a wedding in the early '90s where the bride's mother wore a white (no, not cream/grey/whatever) trouser suit. Presumably her daughter knew and approved, but that's all anyone talked about afterwards.
And there were a lot of disapproving mentions in the press of Princess Grace wearing white to Charles and Diana's wedding.

I agree with PPs who've said that if you have to ask, it's better not to wear it (unless you literally have nothing else suitable and really can't afford anything different).

Again agreeing with PPs, I'm sure you'll look "fabulous" and "amazing". However, I feel that's more the bride's job. And it's possible to look "fabulous" and "amazing" at a wedding (eg Amal Clooney at the Sussex's do) without looking like you think "I wish it was me".
Doubtless there'll be other occasions to wear the suit.

That's exactly what the one that didn't wear a dress (lesbian wedding) wore

She looked fabulous. I've been to 3 gay weddings this year so to me you ARE going to look like the other bride

Why can't you just wear a nice dress?

Maybe this entire thread should just be replaced by this sentence?

I should have explained that the above are two separate points ie

1. I think it was more frowned on in the past to wear white to a wedding and
2. if the OP has doubts as to whether her light-coloured suit is appropriate it would be safer not to wear it.

why can't you just wear a nice dress Because women don't have to wear dresses? And OP obviously doesn't want to? Lots of women don't like dresses and choose not to wear them.

You’d be very hot too I should think.

I rather love the suit, but wonder if the groom and groomsmen are in similar it would, look odd..

You say you want a suit.....I would perhaps shelve that I dead and go for trousers and a top or a jumpsuit?

I just got married & I wouldn’t mind at all if a guest had worn this outfit. In fact I think it’s rather lovely and stylish, a la Cara Delivinge at Harry and Meghan’s wedding.
I’m my experience Australian weddings tend to be a bit more formal, the same as American weddings, so I’d imagine it would be fine.

There is nothing wrong with the suit. Honestly, most of the responses on here are ridiculous.

omg why can't ppl read?? everyone who's commenting OP on looking like a groomsman... it's NOT the second suit. I really despair.

The OP has said its indoors and it’s air conditioned ..... plus she grew up there so is aware of the heat.

It's gorgeous, but you'll look like the betrayed lesbian partner of the bride ...

No way! That’s screaming look at me!!!

Go get yourself a flowery dress from Coast, a pashmina and a bright fascinator so everyone can relax that you’ve conformed.

Actually that’d be totally out of place in Australia too.

OP, it’s fine in grey. You will stick out like a sore thumb though as it’s quite unconventional for Australia & you will be sweaty as no one has an entirely inside wedding in Australia in March.

Perhaps women who aren’t lesbians wear trouser suits? Is the world ready for that?

Even in Australia that would look like you were the other half of the bridal couple so no, I wouldn't - and the pale grey wouldn't save it either.

Trouser suit is fine but both of those look like you are hoping for a spot as an extra in the wedding party

I’d think it would look ore like the best man than the bride. I too would think a pretty dress might be better but it certainly isn’t bridal, in the traditional sense.