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Will I look like the 'other bride' if I wear this to a wedding?

232 replies

TheDevilWearsPantsuits · 28/12/2019 07:32

I've got a bespoke suit that looks exactly like this i.pinimg.com/474x/11/b5/56/11b556c01631d69ac6ed1e14e43add1b--boy-meets-girl-androgynous-fashion.jpg in this exact colour i.pinimg.com/474x/3c/fd/aa/3cfdaa38bc0cdf8e1eaf895d7c15714f--ralph-lauren-collection.jpg. Was all set to wear it to a wedding (in Australia if it makes a difference) late next March, but am now having second thoughts because a friend of mine told me that I'd end up looking like the one marrying the bride!

Should I start panicking now?

OP posts:
user1483387154 · 28/12/2019 07:34

you dont wear white to a wedding

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TheDevilWearsPantsuits · 28/12/2019 07:35

It's in grey though as per picture #2. Is that still too 'light'?

OP posts:
SeasonallySnowyPeasant · 28/12/2019 07:35

If it was the cream one I wouldn’t wear it but grey is fine IMO.

wineandcheeseplease · 28/12/2019 07:36

Hell no. You can't wear that to a wedding!

Bodear · 28/12/2019 07:36

I absolutely would not wear that to a wedding. You’ll have loads of people tell you it’s fine and I’m sure there are some brides who won’t mind, but some will. Other guests will form opinions too. I guess it really depends how brazen you are but in my opinion, It’s not hard OP, just don’t wear white/ cream.

user1494050295 · 28/12/2019 07:36

I think it would look fabulous. You could add colour to it. Ask the bride if you want to check

Shinyshoes2 · 28/12/2019 07:37

I think You'd be drawing attention to yourself
Personally I wouldn't

IWouldLikeToKnow · 28/12/2019 07:38

But to PP saying you don't wear white/cream to a wedding - it's not. It's grey. And it's fabulous. Go for it OP

Bodear · 28/12/2019 07:38

The grey one is still too light. The pictures won’t pick up the difference, and the colour in it will be less noticeable in the sunshine.

smemorata · 28/12/2019 07:40

Do you know if one of the brides is wearing a suit? If so, no you can't really wear it as it's very bridal on a woman!

PotteringAlong · 28/12/2019 07:41

Too light. Don’t wear that.

toomuchfaster · 28/12/2019 07:45

In white/cream absolutely not. I personally wouldn't wear the grey either as it screams bridal to me and as another guest I would wonder WTAF you were playing at: hoping someone was going to change their minds and you could step in?? I also would have been really upset if you'd turned up to my wedding in that as the groomsmen wore grey.

AfterSchoolWorry · 28/12/2019 07:49

Ah no, you'll look like you're trying to be in the wedding.

I think a suit like this is for either bride or groom, groomsmen, bridesmaids etc not guest. It's gorgeous but too special for a guest.

Babyfg · 28/12/2019 07:51

You'd look like you're trying to get on the groom party. If I didn't know who you were at the wedding I'd assume you'd have a role in the wedding wearing that (in grey or cream).
On a different occasion I'd actually think it was quite a cool statement piece. But I think I'd give it a miss for a wedding

InTheBleakMidwinterIWouldSing · 28/12/2019 07:51

Sorry, it’s a no from me (Australian wedding etiquette is no different FWIW).

WobblyAllOver · 28/12/2019 07:53

I am usually very relaxed about the 'rules' around weddings but no I wouldn't wear that.

It's like you are trying to be part of the official wedding. I think it's because it's a very formal tailored trouser suit rather than a relaxed but smart one.

Dipsydoodle · 28/12/2019 07:55

It looks a bit bridal party to me so I wouldn't for that reason, just as it might look a bit odd when you're 'just' a guest.

Sweet32 · 28/12/2019 07:56

Yeah, no. Don't wear it.

PixieDustt · 28/12/2019 07:58

Only on mumsnet you see people actually considering wearing something that could identify them as the bride or groom fgs.

No you can't wear that you also can't wear white. 🤦🏻‍♀️

mumsiedarlingrevolta · 28/12/2019 08:00

I am also pretty relaxed but it absolutely a no from me-it clearly is being marketed as bridal and I think it would make for an uncomfortable day-

it's the brides day to be centre of attention and I think this would get you noticed for all the wrong reasons.

Doubleraspberry · 28/12/2019 08:03

I think it’s gorgeous and you could style it to avoid looking like one of the wedding party. I would wear it. Check with the couple getting married if you’d feel safer? I personally wouldn’t have cared if every woman at my wedding had turned up in a white dress so they may be less horrified by your outfit than some on here!

Elouera · 28/12/2019 08:06

You've already had advice about not wearing that suit! I wouldn't ask the bride either. She may say 'of course its fine!', but it puts her in an awkward position to say its fine, even if she really doesn't want you to wear it.
I've been to plenty of weddings in Aus and UK, and have never seen a guest that isn't part of the bridal party wear anything like that.

ivykaty44 · 28/12/2019 08:09

No

Doubleraspberry · 28/12/2019 08:09

It’s a double breasted women’s trouser suit and it’s not styled as a wedding outfit. I’m a bit puzzled by some of the replies on here.

8by8 · 28/12/2019 08:11

You definitely cannot wear that. You will look like you’re trying to muscle in on the wedding party or get all the attention. It will look white in sunshine and photos. People will judge.