Will I look like the 'other bride' if I wear this to a wedding?

[TheDevilWearsPantsuits]

I've got a bespoke suit that looks exactly like this i.pinimg.com/474x/11/b5/56/11b556c01631d69ac6ed1e14e43add1b--boy-meets-girl-androgynous-fashion.jpg in this exact colour i.pinimg.com/474x/3c/fd/aa/3cfdaa38bc0cdf8e1eaf895d7c15714f--ralph-lauren-collection.jpg. Was all set to wear it to a wedding (in Australia if it makes a difference) late next March, but am now having second thoughts because a friend of mine told me that I'd end up looking like the one marrying the bride!

Should I start panicking now?

Can you post a picture of the actual suit?

Yep I wouldn’t wear a shirt, tie and corsage with it but I think it looks fine otherwise... very chic. Not sure about the temperature issue though so maybe think about a glamorous silky top and remove the jacket at some point. ( people on MN are weird about wedding outfits but I don’t even remember what anyone else wore apart from my DM). I’m sure they would just be grateful you were making the journey.

I don’t like anything double-breasted...it’s like extra buttons for no reason and reminds me of terrible 80s yuppy fashion. I don’t think the double breasted jacket ever recovered from that.

However, the suit in the first photo in the grey of the second looks fashionable rather than formal and is absolutely fine for a wedding from an etiquette point of view. You will not look like a member of the wedding party or like you are attempting to be.

Jewellery, shoes, scarf, clutch, a coloured top underneath...any of those will quickly establish you as a nicely turned out guest.

You will look like one of the wedding party

Like most people in real life, I wouldn’t have particularly cared if everyone had turned up to my wedding in white lace, especially as I didn’t wear a wedding dress, but it seems like it’s enough of a “thing” now that it’s better to just avoid the aggro. I think the fact that you are even asking means that you know already that it’s “inappropriate” (in someone’s eyes) for the occasion.

Having said that, I really don’t understand the endless agonising over what to wear to weddings. Literally no-one is (or should be) looking at the guests, and spending weeks and £££ looking for the perfect pair of chartreuse kitten heels seems bonkers to me, as is buying a whole new outfit for every wedding you go to in case someone else there has seen it before, especially when you go to 37 weddings every summer.

No she won’t.

I think it’s great and totally appropriate. Add a splash of colour with a cami / necklace / shoes.

It's an indoor venue with air conditioning so not too worried about the heat (also born and raised in Aus so am pretty much used to scorching summers). I was initially planning to wear the grey two-piece with just a shirt, no tie, and none of the other styling there, but guess I'm going to have to find something else!

Great for work or a job interview. Not for a wedding whatsoever!

I think its lovely OP. No one will think you're part of the bridal party unless they are wearing pale grey and you are accessorising with the same colour (unlikely). Go for it!

Cal72
Are people getting confused about which suit you plan to wear?!

no, they are not.
Completely inappropriate. Both are inappropriate for a wedding actually. HTH.

The op's got it!

Are people missing the point that op has the first suit, in grey?! The suit is fine, no one would tell a man not to wear a grey suit to a wedding...

Quite.

THE SUIT IS FINE.

its a pale grey, too close to white

“Completely inappropriate.”

No it’s not.

pictish
as a wedding guest? Of course it is. Basic manners my friend, it's not that hard.

As above, if you have to ask...

OP you will look amazing. Both suits gorgeous
Totally and utterly appropriate

My friend wore a long white crocheted beach style dress to my wedding. I didn’t say anything but did drop heavy hints that I preferred her other choice dress - to no avail. Even her husband on seeing us both beforehand said “bloody hell which is the bride??” but she still carried on and wore it.

The point being - even if you ask the bride she might not feel comfortable saying no. Don’t put her in that position. Wear something else. It’s not your day.

Well someone did turn up in a long white dress to my wedding and it didn't ruin my day. She also spent ages getting photos of her and her boyfriend outside the church - bit weird!!

It’s a women’s stylish and quirky grey suit. It doesn’t have a waistcoat, it isn’t styled for a wedding, it’s got fab trousers. How is it inappropriate?

If I saw someone wearing this at the wedding I'd think they're a member of the bridal or party or a groomswoman, or some other special role.

If you want some similar but less bridal-partyish ideas have a look at the Google Images results for 'androgynous wedding guest attire' or 'tomboy wedding guest attire' as I just had a look and there are some great ideas that came up.

“Both are inappropriate for a wedding actually. HTH”

What are you on about? It’s a grey suit.

What do men typically wear to weddings? A suit.
Is it acceptable for women to wear suits? Perfectly.

So why are both inappropriate for a wedding? Please explain. If it’s a simple case of sexism, just comment ‘I’m a sexist’ so the OP understands your viewpoint better.

Mumsnet is hyper-conservative when it comes to weddings. As if a light grey trouser suit is in any way too 'bridal' for a guest.. As long as you wear a bit of colour in your cami/ blouse/ lip/ whatever you'll look fine (in fact you'll look fabulous!).

Wear the suit - it’s gorgeous

Wear the trousers with a coloured silk top?