Small boobs

[Dindindon]

I have very small boobs, like probably 32 aa or a. Personally when I look at them I think they're okay (I'm petite, 5"1), but then society, social media and everything around me tells me they're not. I don't even ever see anyone else in real life, with my size, so feel like a freak. Have a lovely boyfriend who says who cares what size they are. That doesn't help me. Have a therapist whose first response when I expressed my feelings was "have you considered implants?". Slap in the face, insulting. That would not help me because A) that would only be like saying "you're right, there's something wrong with me and I need to make my boobs bigger to correct it" when in fact they are healthy, and B) people who say they've done it for themselves are talking BS, nobody does this sort of surgery just for themselves, they wouldn't do it if they didn't feel pressured. Also, women who have had a boob job are doing other women a huge disfavour by normalising the procedure which leads to it becoming what people suggest as the obvious remedy to a small breasted woman who has been made feel inadequate. I know personally, a boob job would only make things worse for me as I could never trust my partner didn't like my boobs better post-op. So that's a no.

Also people trying to be helpful with comments such as I won't get back pain, or they won't sag when I'm old, or men will look me in the eyes instead of at my breasts, or I can sleep on my stomach, or that men will be withe for who I am not for my breasts, do much more harm than good. Maybe I would love a man to love my breasts! Maybe I would love if a man couldn't stop looking at them!

I feel so angry when women with breasts complain about them being too big or that guys look at them, that their backs hurt etc. Ungratefulness is the word that comes to mind and I feel like anyone with actual boobs are smug and look down and internally laugh at me or pity me.

This torments me, I feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place. I don't know what I can do to avoid feeling this way and I'm getting bitter. Any thoughts?

Well what a shame we can't swap! I envy, and I mean really envy anyone who has small boobs, I can assure you having big boobs is a nightmare, I spend my life trying to make sure I don't wear anything that accentuates them, always wear dark tops, nothing too clingy and spaghetti straps are a big no-no, as it is impossible to go braless, or even wear a strapless bra, as they just don't offer enough support. Big boobs just get in the way, I can't button up a jacket (I'm a size 8 everywhere else and if I buy a jacket to fit my boobs, it's just too big on the shoulders and hips) and even a cross body handbag looks wrong. I could go on and on about all the drawbacks. I hope you can now see that not everybody with large boobs thinks they're great, I detest mine, and I would have them reduced, but I'm such a whimp and really don't relish 4/5 hours of surgery that is not for health reasons. At the end of the day, it's easier to make small boobs look bigger (padded bras, chicken fillets) than it is to make big boobs look smaller (minimiser bras just push your boobs under your arms!).

I'm a 34H. I love my boobs but it has taken me years to feel like that about them. They aren't fun, back pain - indents in your shoulders from your bra straps, and struggling to find nice pretty bras that are reasonable prices. Sometimes I do wish I had smaller breasts, but we always want what we can't have. Learn to love yourself, if your partner loves you and loves your body, you aren't impressing anyone else so don't worry about it! 💕

@Namestranger ... even with 3 layers of clothing you can still see my nips ... I call them my missile launch buttons ;-)
I've got used to them now as there's absolutely nothing I can do xx

Breast feeding killed my already less than average sized boobs
Doesnt help all of DPs exes have big boobs and its what he usually goes for , so no matter what he says it just sounds like lip service iyswim.

At this point I'm pretty depressed over it.
Im planning one more baby , and saving for implants which terrify me , thinking about all the things that could go wrong.
Dont think i could spend the rest of my life feeling like this though, i feel inadequate tbh and they dont look like nice small boobs, more like empty cases .

I think about it multiple times a day and constantly compare myself to others.

Probably not what you wanted to hear, just wanted to let you know your not the only one whos unhappy.

I was unhappy with mine for years. Always hoping they would grow, but it never happened. I couldnt even fill an a cup properly and i really suffered from it.
I got implants at age 19 and it did wonders for my self esteem and mental health. I only went up one size to a b cup, so they arent unnaturally huge. This was 15 years ago and i never regretted it.
Several friends who are done with having kids now asked me about it, because theirs flattened after breastfeeding and they arent happy anymore. Mine look better than ever now after breastfeeding, a bit softer and more natural ;)

Of course i got the idea from society and comparing myself to others, but in the end i did it for myself, because i was extremely unhappy and hated looking at myself. I had a bf at the time who was very against it and threatened to leave me if i went through with it.

Not the answer you were looking for i guess.
Im not saying you should get a boob job, but if there is something that makes you unhappy then you should find a way to change it. I couldnt change my view about it, so i changed the actual boobs.